gosh this is stupid bd drama already lol advice one last time please :/
Ok I know I shouldn't have done this and you guys can say that lol but I looked at bd phone and hes been texting some new girl at his work. And they are all flirty and weird! And hes obviously deleted messages cuz the messages don't make sense. It hurts that him and I are suppose to be working on things and hes hanging out with new girls. I know it's my fault for looking at his messages but fuck lol. After our amazing weekend now I'm all sad. I dont think hes ever going to change. What should I do? Bring it up to him or just start pulling away from him? The big thing is is that I'm pregnant and we have been sleeping together. And I do NOT want to be sleeping with him if he is going to be with other people. Him and I can't just switch to being friends either that just doesn't work. Its like for us to be friends or work on being friends I need to be away from him or something for awhile. I dont wanna be alone through this pregnancy its not like I can meet new guys and go on dates for the next 7 months. Idk what to do. Ask him about it and tell him my concerns? Just not bring it up and tell him I wanna work on being friends? Or just start pushing him away??
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I know him and I just need to be apart for awhile its just so hard. I am pregnant and it makes everything so much more difficult. I wish I could go date.. There are guys asking me on dates I just haven't cuz I'm preggo! No guy is gonna want me when they know that lol. Ughh. I think that is part of why bd is being this way. He knows I am not gonna go out and be with other people cuz I'm pregnant. I know I'll be ok single.. I am just not use to it.
@rjr33 Sure you can go on dates :-) . I'm talking about having fun, being treated to dinner, etc, but not sex or things like that. There are men out there that do go for pregnant women and not all are creepers lol. ;-)
@armahnismommy I know there is no way we could be just friends right away. Especially me being pregnant.. I want a family I don't want to be a single mom
@ltlnckl what's your status with bd? We just picked the wrong guys
@everyone I told him how I felt. I told him that I wanted to work on being friends. And he's like what's wrong what happened? Lol I'm like nothing. I just can't keep being friends with benefits or whatever we are and not knowing if your with other girls or like other girls. He's at work so he hasn't said anything back but whatever! He'll probably say if that's what you want then ok. Its just hard cuz I know if we hang out hes gonna try and kiss me or sex me! I dont think he knows what he wants. He wants me but doesn't want a relationship? That makes no sense. I deserve better than that.
@ltlnckl seriously they can't have their cake and eat it too. Thats not fair! Lol
@ltlnckl yeah me and bd broke up a month ago and a week after we broke up and he moved out we found out we were preggo. So we have been working on things. He says he hasn't and doesn't sleep with anyone but were not together so I worry he is!
@Mrz_Jackson2anpreggo I kinda brought the girl up I didn't say I looked at his phone but he just said oh she's just my coworker blah blah. I swear hes never gonna admit to anything.
I just wish he had the balls to tell me the reason he doesn't wanna be together. He obviously has some reason why he just won't say it. I guess him wanting to be apart and "work on things" and have sex and still basically have me and technically be single should be enough for me to see that something is going on. I told him I'm serious and that I wanna be friends. I told him last night and he just kept saying no were more than that blah blah. I told him today we don't need to be having sex and acting like were together when were not. I wanna be strictly friends until we are ready to be committed to each other. He is at work and hasn't texted back yet so I guess we'll see. I mean if I keep giving up th goods and were not together what makes him wanna change the situation and wanna be with me. Its pathetic I even wanna be with him after the shit hes pulled.