How mad would you be? *Update*

BigBellyBigBelly
edited April 2012 in Not Pregnancy Related - NPR
If you found a picture on you're husbands work phone of him naked? Then confronted him about it and he told you he sent it to a girl on craigslist? He says nothing happened because the girl didn't call him back but it probably would have if she did! I'm absolutely fuming right now!!! And i threw him out! Idk what to do i'm so fuckin pissed off! Any advice would be nice. Oh and he says it was a big mistake but i feel like i can't trust him. How do i know nothing happened?!?!
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  • 2600wifey2600wifey
    Sorry I have no advice for you but men are so sleazy. I can just say I know where you are coming from
  • Kimberly4411Kimberly4411
    There is no way to know! And there is no excuse for that. I'm sorry you're having to go through this :/ good luck!
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    At first he said he's not leaving. I said ok, me and the kids are outta here!! He
    finally said he would stay at his dads till i say he could can home! But idk if i want him to come home! @homebirthadvocate
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    Thanks @Kimberly4411 @2600wifey Why do men have to be so stupid!
  • JoshnEviesmumJoshnEviesmum
    I would be fuming! Makes you wonder if hes done it before, or if he would have carried on if you hadnt found out. He may say its a mistake, but is that just because hes been caught out? Sorry your having to deal with this hon, hope you find a way to feel better soon. xx
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  • mmy21nttcmmy21nttc
    You definitely did the right thing! I'm surprised he told you though...
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    @joshneviesmum That's exactly how i feel! And i said that too! I said are you only admitting to that cause i have proof? What else have you done that i don't have proof of?! I really have no trust in him at all! @homebirthadvocate I'm gonna use that line!
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    @mmy21nttc my husband has the worst poker face I've ever seen! I can usually tell when he's lying. and plus he knows i won't stop till i get the truth!!!
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    I wouldn't have an issue unless the police found his body...

    Throwing him out was a much better move.
  • LilSugarsMommaLilSugarsMomma
    Damn! I would've caught a case, I would've beat his ass! Girl, kick him to the curb. He probably done that ish before, and will probably do it again. Men are disgusting pigs! This is why I will stay single for the rest of my life, I have no room or tolerance for drama and the heartache they cause. I am a woman scorned!
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  • BigBellyBigBelly
    @everybody i'm stuck! I love him but i feel like if i stay i'm saying it's ok to do what he did. But on the other hand i know what it's like to have divorced parents and don't want my kids to go thru what i went thru! I just don't know if i could trust him ever again! I'm so confused! Grrrrrr why did he have to be douche bag =((
  • trixiesmom8trixiesmom8
    Sorry you have to go through this. I've been there..but on the other side. But of course I knew the guy anyways..it took my now fiance a while to get over it and trust me again, but he did. It actually made our relationship stronger. If you really want it to work, you have to talk about it A LOT and make sure that he knows that this is his one and only chance and next time you are out the door, no if's, and's, or but's about it. Once again so sorry!
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    Don't stay solely for the children. Yes its nice to have a perfect little family, but they want you guys to be happy! Imho I'd want to give my daughter a good role model for her own future relationship, whether that be work things out, or to leave. Show your kids strength, whatever form that might be.
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    I'm sorry this is happening to you. My bf did something similar to this on craigslist, but he was receiving pictures of girls, and I found it out on Valentines Day. I was so upset, and he told me it was the biggest mistake he's ever made. Just follow what you think is right.
  • RedShadoe0RedShadoe0
    Nope, I don't play that game. When hubby and i were still dating, he was deployed and i found a convo on MySpace (yes it was that long ago) with a girl from up the street and he was talking about how he wanted to come over and fuck her blah blah blah and they made plans for when he got home. I confronted him when he did get home and he said he was sorry and wasn't thinking blah blah... I was so angry. Said if i ever found shit like that again he might not wake up the next day. I would totally be pissed off too... But at least he confessed, didn't try and tell you some bullshit like he took the pic to send to you and forgot or something... Maybe being caught and him having to leave will open his eyes. I'm not saying leave him or keep him,only you can make that decision obviously. But if this is a first, men are dumb... They make serious mistakes like that... Maybe it'll open his eyes.
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    @britt21 The hardest part is trying to forgive him! I don't know that i can. @natashalynn i have a 5yr old daughter and if some guy ever did this to her i would tell her to leave him and never look back!!! But thank you for your words, there very encouraging! @ericak22 did you forgive him? And how did you ever trust him again? So i just got home and there was 3 red roses and a note that said "I'm sorry for my stupidity and i do love you very much". I just don't getif he loved me so much, how can he do what he did?! @lilsugarsmomma girl, if he didn't leave i would have beat the shit outta him without a doubt!!
    @mom2ing i agree, if he did it this time what's to stop him from doing it again!
    @bexiewexie yes prick is a great name for him!!! lol Though i could think of at least 20 more but don't wanna get banned! lol
    @ltlnckl i honestly don't wanna think about what else he's been up to. I would prolly kill him ...
  • BigBellyBigBelly
    He tried to lie at first! Till he knew he was caught then admitted it! i got a lot of thinking to do while he is gone... @redshadoe0
  • RedShadoe0RedShadoe0
    You gotta remember mens cocks don't care about love... He can love you with all his heart and still have a physical oops... Don't think he doesn't love you. Men are stuuuuupid. :( N I don't hold with the "if he did it once he'll do it again" stuff honestly... Sometimes the threat of losing everything will scare men straight. Good luck.
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    It took me a very long time to trust him again, then he did something stupid like that again...and he still hasn't gained my trust back. Yeah my bf told me the same thing..he told me it was from the drugs he was doing, and that he was just horny and.wanted pictures.
  • trixiesmom8trixiesmom8
    One of my teachers in school use to say "always forgive BUT never forget" it'll take time for you to forgive and its understandable but if you really and truly want to stay with him you have to work on it. But don't stay with him just for the kids..that is never the answer. My parents are divorced too and I never want that for my daughter but if something huge came up and I really and truly couldn't forgive him than we would be gone, because its not fair to you or him if you are only there for the kids.
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  • RedShadoe0RedShadoe0
    @rileyandme I've totally thought about installing a spy app thing on his phone too, lmao. In the past at least when we were having issues. Does it work well??

    @mom2ing It's ok, I understand where you're coming from too. I just tend to forgive maybe more than I should. I agree that respect comes with love. And I prolly didn't word what I was trying to say right. But I do believe that just because it happened once does NOT mean it'll happen again. That mentality, to me, is only setting someone up for failure. Because if you believe that, then you're gonna be up his ass suspicious and accusing all the time... and after a while, a person that is constantly being doubted or watched will be like "well, I'm constantly in trouble for it anyway, I might as well actually DO it". But again, that's my personal opinion. And personal experience. Obviously it's not a general rule either :)
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  • BigBellyBigBelly
    edited April 2012
    This sucks so bad! If one of you had a post like this, I would have told you everything y'all are telling me! But it's soooo much harder when this is my post. My heart says work it out and try to move forward but my head says fuck that lying cheating POS!! Decisions decisions...
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  • RedShadoe0RedShadoe0
    @rileyandme lmao he LIKED it?!?! wow. mine would be LIVID lol. I wish I could remember the app I was gonna use... but it did everything, texts, email, web crap.... it would even call my phone and let me listen in on conversations if I wanted it to, without him knowing I was listening. Haha.
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