Ok seriously? I understand you don't trust them but if its that bad you have to spy on them, then is it really worth it? If my hubby did that because he didn't trust me then we would've had a lot more issues than what we actually had. You are being just as sneaky..so why stoop to their level? @redshadoe0@rileyandme@ltlnckl
It sucks that he though of doing something with the girl. But I think if something happened he would had deleted the picture. I doubt that you will trust him soon, you need time to heal. Maybe if you take some time away it will help. But if you love him and this is his first fuck up. Give him a chance.
@britt_21, I installed a program called cellspynow in my finance's phone a couple years ago out of total insecurity. I had it on there for probably a year and a half, obsessively checking it. Not once was there anything shady. Not once did it show him lying about one thing. I still feel guilty about it to this day.
BUT, I trust him 100% now. It helped to validate that he indeed is a great and loyal man. My relationship has benefited from it. I do agree with you though. I just think everyone has to learn for themselves. I accidently left it open on the comp and he found it. He was SO upset and hurt. I begged him to forgive me and it hurt us for quite a few weeks.
@britt21 it was a rough time. I wanted the truth. I knew something wasn't right but i couldn't prove it. Luckily that's all in the past. But i don't see it as stooping to that level... I see it as me using my resources.
Ok @redshadoe0 I was just curious. I guess I understand both sides. I would feel horrible going behind my hubbys back just to find out if he was telling the truth, I would feel like if I couldn't trust him at all, I couldn't be with him jmo. Not trying to start anything.
So... my pos of a husband just got a ticket in the mail from the exact same day that he sent that picture! I ask him about it and his story makes no sense at all. So before all this happened we were gonna try and work on things and get back to when everything was good. Anyway, i keep asking him over and over and over where he was going and who was he going to see. Still trying to lieto me so i get right up in his face and ask him for the 50th time and he says go on the porch and i will tell you. Cause i don't wanna get hit. I said hell no open your fu kin mouth and talk. So he says he went to DC to meet this girl and he did cheat on me. (With a trashy hooker) So off came my ring, thrown in his face and i went inside went in his closet and grabbed as many of his clothes i could carry and threw them out the front door. Followed by a lot more of his shit!!! Then he decides to call the cops on me lol. Well the cops get here and ask me what happened and i tell them everything! They start laughing at him for being absolutely disgusting and make him leave. (Coolest cops ever!) Now i'm crying non-stop and have no clue whats gonnA happen next. sorry so long. just needed to get this out
Holy crap!!! Wow... Bahahaha I'm sorry but getting caught bc of a ticket in the mail is priceless. I'm so very sorry he cheated though... Much less with a hooker!!!! It's funny the cops laughed at him. What a dipsh*t!!!!
Ah, hon. So sorry you have to go through this shit, ive been there, its awful. Good on you though for getting him and his stuff out. You deserve SO much better.
I think the hardest part is my 5yr old keeps asking where daddy is. I can't tell her why he's really gone and that he's a lying cheating piece of shit asshole! But she's not stupid. She sees me crying and knows something is wrong.
BTW I didn't mean to sound callous about it... I'm really sorry and I'm glad to hear you kicked him out. You deserve so much better. And I'm sorry your daughter is hurting over it too.
@redshadoe0 It's ok. I was laughing about and with the cops! He's so dumb! Who the hell gets caught cheating because of a ticket lol. Only my stupid ass husband!
That definitely sucks. I'm so glad you found out the truth, and I love love love that he called the cops so they could come laugh at him and help you kick his ass to the curb.
But you're a strong woman. You have the truth now, time for his sorry excuse for a man ass to gtfo
My fiancee pulled that spy app shit on me! He thought i was cheating on him while I was pregnant! One I would never cheat and two especially while pregnant and plus we lived and worked together so when would I have the time?! Then a couple of months after he told me he was monitoring my shit I got ahold of his phone and found out that he was talking to his best friends girl! He had pictures of her on is phone they were normal pictures not nude. When i confronted him he flipped out on me and said they were just friends nothing happened. Well we were at a party. And i confronted her and she said he was stalking her! She said she was trying to be nice but he was starting to really annoy her. So i confronted him again the he threatened to leave me and said since I got pregnant I completely changed into a crazy bitch! I don't really remember how we stayed together but we did. So then this past December I had his phone again and this time I looked in his emails and found out he was on a site called xxxmatch.com its where you meet up with people and fuck. I was furious and i couldn't stop crying! So i said screw it I'm going to get him with proof no more confrontation It's on! I made a profile of my own and messages him he didn't respond for a long time so i kinda brushed it off but then like 2 weeks later he responded he asked for my number so i gave him MY number and he said I knew it was you all along asshole. So we fought about it and he told me it was an advertisement. I said bullshit I know your lying and he wouldn't talk to me after that for at least a week then he yld me he was sorry and it won't happen again so i let it go. Well in January his phone went off while he was in the shower so i picked it up and it was an email for someone on xxxmatch.com so i flipped out and had my breakdown I took almost 30 tylonol to try to kill myself I couldn't take it anymore. He said he was leaving me and taking our son with him I said ok bye knowing I just took all of those pills I just didn't care anymore I was extremely depressed. So i called my mom after I took the pills and i told her what happened she said i could come stay with her so i was okay really she planned on taking me to the hospital. She picked me up and i was not feeling right at all she said she is taking me to the hospital I'm not going to die because of some stupid asshole. I got there just in time the doctor said if my mom would have waited any longer my liver would have failed and I'd die. I was in the hospital for 3 or 4 days I don't quite remember..this really effected my fiancee and he actually apologized and cryed and said he didn't mean for his actions to make me want to kill myself. And he took me home and we are working on things now I don't trust him yet but i still love him i have for like 8 years and i don't want to throw it away..I hope everything works out with you and your husband men are idiots and I guess they sometimes need a wake up call to see what they have in front of them
Sorry I wrote so much! I have never told anyone the full story so when I started typing it all came out! I'm so glad you caught him before you caught something from his nasty ass! you rock girl!
Thanks for your story @chels I just found out that it was 2 hookers! As if things couldn't get any worse!!! I told him before he ever comes near me or my children i want him tested for every STD! I can't believe he would fuck a hooker then come home and kiss me and my kids. I'm also getting me and my kids tested just to be safe! And get to look like mother of the year taking my 5yr old & 6 month old to get tested.
Just tell them what happened. You probably will look like a great mother for caring enough to get them checked. And if anyone gives you shit, hold your head up. You're doing the right thing!
Sometimes your weakest moment makes you stronger. I feel for you. I've been there. I still am technically. Men are weak, and you'll figure out exactly what's best for you and the kids.
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BUT, I trust him 100% now. It helped to validate that he indeed is a great and loyal man. My relationship has benefited from it. I do agree with you though. I just think everyone has to learn for themselves. I accidently left it open on the comp and he found it. He was SO upset and hurt. I begged him to forgive me and it hurt us for quite a few weeks.
But you're a strong woman. You have the truth now, time for his sorry excuse for a man ass to gtfo