Still having a hard time, please read.
Still, 9 months after having Malia, I have issues with how the birthing experience went. I absolutely regret How things turned out, I wish I had more confidence at the time to "stand up" to those nurses. There were just things tthst I wanted to do & the lady told me no, & I ended up with drugs because they kept asking. Ultimatly, it was up to me, but better support would have been nice (blamed bf a little, just a littlle). I'm sure I would have had a vaginal birth if I had. I don't really know what to do with these emotions I still have. I mean, I don't mope around, they just come to mind more often than not.
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You got a pretty little girl out of the catastrophe even though it wasn't what you wanted. I know how it feels to feel that way.
(I don't have a way with words, but just showing I understand)
Next time you catch yourself thinking of your experience, turn it around. Look at what you've accomplished and how far you've come and the knowledge you've gained! I say that's something to smile about.
As I was pushing the dr was SOOOOOOOO MEAN. She waebScreaming at me and everything. I even asked her to not yell at me like I was in trouble. She then kicked my dad out of the room bc he wasn't standing In The right place (he was behind the curtain bc I didn't want him seeing my vag while I was pushing but I WANTED him there when he first came out. I was in so much pain I didn't stand up and say no I want him here. I felt like she was being so rough with my vag compared to the other nurses that were touching me. Then she kept threatening c section and I had to keep telling her no I can do this...my god he was half hanging out of me.
I'm just sad bc I really wanted to feel special and important. I wanted this celebration that a life was being brought into the world. None of the hospital staff seemed to care that was going on lol. I'm mad at myself for giving into the drugs. I really did not want a epi but I also didmt want to be put out lol. I had planned to have a lil moment with my hubby alone before I started pushing and that wasn't allowed. She checked me and was like start pushing. I asked for a moment and it was like noo it's time to push. I'm just upset. I really want my next birth to be at a birthing center but there isn't one anywhere near me...I just don't know what to do. Ugh