parents what to do with them

To make a long story short my parents and I got into a huge family feud while I was pregnant. It was over money that they were not paying back and everything got out of control. Now when it was time for AJ to be born I started talking to my mom again. I asked b4 my surgery if she wanted me to go pick her up so that she could be there for his birth, and I was told that no one would baby sit my sisters kids. I also want to point out that a couple months b4 I got pregnant we went to Vegas and my mom had no problem leaving her on her own then to tag along. We struggled badly and I know that if my mom was there for us like she always promised she would be it would not have been so hard. Not to sound petty but AJ had gas bad, and I had no clue if she was here she would have known right away.
Now Arnold company pays for a hotel in Fl (we live in Ohio) for three days every January I asked if she would go to help watch AJ. We would pay for her food and any tickets we decided to buy and all she needed to do was baby sit a couple times so we could have dinner. And she told my no because she did not want to leave my sisters kids. It hurts because I feel like she is putting my sisters kids way b4 AJ and I we do not live close so I might see them about 3-4 times a year. And every time I try to do something I am told that charlines needs her for this or that. And I understand she cannot afford daycare but this is once every couple years.
Should I just stop trying I don’t want AJ to figure out he is not as important to my parents as my sisters kids?
It is really sad because I didn't get one gift from my family I spent so many years going all out for them. Major money and never expected anything back. I finally have a baby and not 1 dam cograts cards.

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  • Its sad. I feel ur pain. I live 1200 miles away from my family and my husband and i have NEVER EVER had anyone babysit our kids EVER (our oldest is 7 yrs old) well, we took a trip home to see them all anf i asked my mom if she could babysit ONE freakin night and she told me she couldnt because she was babysitting my sisters kids that whole freakin week. I felt insulted honestly. i even told her it was so my husband and i could go out and see some friends we havent seen for over 5yrs.... Not to mention we havent gone out together kid free SINCE WE HAD OUR KIDS! Sometimes the people who r suppose to b there 4 u SUCK and i know how it hurts especially when its ur own mom. :( sorty im no help but i do feel ur pain .
  • Thanks!!! My mom lives about three hours away and I always went out of my way for them. But what can u do my husbands family really steped up. We never got along Arnold said baby and people came out of the wood works with gifts and cards. It hurts so bad bcause my mon was my bff or I thought she was.
    Sorry for ur situation!!
  • My mom is the same way. Her other grandkids she visits for hours and will take time off work to watch. But my kids..no. she visits them for 20 min. And let's not forget my 26 yr old sister who dropped out in 9th grade and never had a job and has a 2 yo who both live with my mom. If I ever neededjust $5 its a no but my sister gets all she wants. Ugh. Sorry lol.
  • Well my mom has no choice, my kids are her only grand kids .. she doesnt baby sit them though, i for one dont like the idea much, but she did came the other day and took my oldest daughter for a few hours.. but other than that shes a pain in my ass instead of helping . sometimes i wish i lived miles away from her, but noooo i stay with in 5 minutes away. parents sometimes just dont understand , i pray that once i get older i dont do to my kids what she does to me.
  • My mom actually asked me if it would be wrong for her to only gets my sisters kid christmas presents. Thats ok tho I have decided we will visit but vacation and shopping I will not do that for them any more. Arnolds family can get the fun stuff.lol
  • I def feel ya, my parents seem to put my two sisters kids first. I do everything for them tho. We gave them our old car when my dads car finally died. I've paid their cell phone bill for over five years. And all I ask is help me out once in awhile. My dad will go out of his way to go to my sisters house but doesn't want to go to my daughters softball games. He goes to my other sisters house all the time. My other sister got a baby show (we were due two weeks apart) I got nothing. It sucks but I just keep to my little family I have here..my fiancee, and my kids. I'm not doing anything anymore for them. I'm done.
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