heartbroken.

devins_mommy

i attempted to see if my boyfriend and i could talk tonight. but hes working. and iv had enough of not knowing what was going on between us. so i finally texted him and i asked him if he still loved me. and he responded with "yes, but i cant be in a relationship" and naturally i asked, why.. i thought you said it wasnt my fault. he said it wasnt my fault, he just needs time. and to think. i dont even know what to think anymore. i really dont know what im going to do if he walks away for good. this week without him has literly been my hell. idk how im going to continue not being with him, and be happy for my son. idk how to fix this situation. :-((

Roxy

By fixing it I say just give him space hell b back

devins_mommy

its so hard not having him here, i mean weve been with eachother basically everyday for 3 years.

1stWoodsBaby

I wish we could give you the comfort you need to feel better. I hate seeing good people hurting. It seems like so many preglies are hurting for different reasons.

devins_mommy

i know, and i hate to dump all my sadness on here, because iv read other peoples loss, and sadness and mine is nothing compaired. but i have no one to talk to, without being judged and ridiculed. @1stWoodsBaby

1stWoodsBaby

Oh I totally understand! But thats what we are here for. To listen and try to comfort when we can! Im like you, I have no one to talk to. I moved a little over a year ago to a new town, haven't made any friends, and my old friends stopped talking to me. So I'm alone too.

devins_mommy

would it be bad if i asked him to not make plans for monday, and see if we could do something with our son during the day, like go to the zoo. and when he goes to bed if we could go out? do you think he'd think thats annoying..?
@MommyLovesSparkle
@1stWoodsBaby

1stWoodsBaby

I would probably wake a week and then ask. That gives him a full week week to think about things like he said he needed to. The worst thing you can do (i learned this during a breakup from a BF of 2 yr) is nag them and continue to bother them when they just want to be left alone for a little bit.

devins_mommy

okay. i hope i can do it..
its so much harder having to see him when he gets our son. i think it would be easier, if i didnt see him.. ugh why is life unfair!

My2Boys

Im sorry you have to go through this, hopefully space and time is all he needs. Have you talked to him today?

devins_mommy

No, not today. But u sent him a long message on fb. But he didn't answer. Surprisingly, today I feel okay.. im just trying to stay busy! Keep my mind off things. @Mom2boys

My2Boys

Well that's good, keeping busy makes the time go faster.

usplus2

Be strong and try not to worry about him, I've had my fair share of heartache and I'm telling you from experience the best thing you can do is give him space. I've learned if i bug my husband it just makes things worse , but when i leave him be he realizes that he loves me and wants to make things work. If it was meant to be things will work themselves out, sometimes as humans we need a little space .your in my prayers hun you can do it, be strong!!!!!

sands3

I'm so sorry girl. Hopefully this time apart will make him realize he needs y'all in his life!

starrxoxo9

I agree with @usplus2 I know it's SO hard but you gotta back off a little bit. The more you text and message him, the more he's just gonna shut down. As women, we wanna talk and hash everything out until we get a satisfying answer. With men, especially when they don't have an answer, this will just drive them nuts. You know the saying: If you love something, let it go...Good luck hun. I hope it all works out!!

Wilsomom

^^^ I agree, it's hard, but you gotta let him realize he misses you by giving him some space. That's just how guys are, unfortunately. (((hugs)))

Wilsomom

P.S. Your sadness is just as valid as mine or anyone else's. We all have our own trials to bear.

devins_mommy

thank you ladies. it means alot having you guys to talk to and suport me. my biggest fear is, him hanging out with other girls. but i guess theres nothing i can do, unfortunetly. i really need to start working, prove to him that he doesnt have to feel so stressed financaly. but its so hard! i actually cant wait for the weekend to be done! i have plans for monday & tuesday, im excited for :-D

@My2Boys
@usplus2
@sands3
@starxoxo9
@Wilsomom
@1stWoodsBaby
@MommyLovesSparkle

:X

starrxoxo9

That's good, keep busy! And the "other girls" thing, I TOTALLY understand. My bf and I broke up 3 yrs ago when we were both still in party mode, and I KNEW he was gonna be out on the prowl. Well it actually helped because he realized (in his eyes) no one compared to me

devins_mommy

lol, idk i cant STAND these girls he use to hang out with. when we first got togeather, these girls were literlly OBSESSED with him, and still is, 3 years later!!!!! but hed never actually date her. but idk... i know hes been working at the bar since being fired from the other place.. but they are closing on thursday!

oh he drives me insane!, but i love him hahaha.

starrxoxo9

The ones we love usually do lol.

MommyLovesSparkle

I'm so sorry I haven't been online lately how are things going now?

devins_mommy

ahhh i miss your advice!
welll!!!! its been almost 2 weeks (on thursday) and really nothing much lol!
yesterday he randomly textes me and says hows devin" and i responded with "fine" and he says "i miss him" okkkkayyy. u just saw him last night at 6 oclock! haha, just tell me you miss me and get over it ;-)
&&& yesterday i visited him cuz he was working at the bar n i was walking to the store (i have to walk by) so i asked if he wanted to see devin real quick. and he asked me if i had any plans for the night. CORSE I DONT! dumb dumb pop! lol

but what im really confused with, it he has yet to ask or mention all of his clothes and stuff thats still at my house. wouldnt you think he'd want his stuff?! :-?

my parents are going away on thursday for the night, so i might ask him if he wants to do a family thing during the day, and if his brother can watch dev at night so we can hang out.. but ill play that by ear, i dont want to push him. ;;)

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jules

Honestly I think it's just harder but with time it will be more normal to but be around him you just need to break the routine if that makes sense. You have your amazing son and your own life to worry about. I know you love him and care about him but take care of you don't ever change what you need to do for him. I think it is very important to get the time away from him I revery way that way you can really gather your thoughts on what you really want and need. Because to me it doesn't make sense why anyone would say I love you but don't want to be in a relationship with you especially when you have child together. I feel like there is much more and I don't want you to get hurt or have anyone walking all over you. Your a great mom and deserve to be chased by him not the other way around

MommyLovesSparkle

hmm.. :-? it sounds to me like it getting awkward, which is good and bad. Good because its like you guys can (sorta) start new and bad because its going to take a while and its making it seem like he dont miss you. I know he does though but I think he's just trying to play it cool B-)
Have you tried playing that same game? I would and I would totally make him drool over me and beg for me back. but that requires sooo much work. Its like take care of a house (...well room) lol, a baby, try to play his game, AND stalk him while looking amazing. TOO MUCH WORK, plus put makeup on & get dressed! pshh Im getting tired just typing it. lol. #:-s
I would honestly & extremely bluntly throw him on the bed and ask him what the f*%^ I love & miss you and you HAVE to love & miss me too lol.

devins_mommy

Lol!! I wish he was simple to understand. But hes NOTTTTT. Which frustrates me more. I went shopping today (;
@MommyLovesSparkle

MommyLovesSparkle

believe me ALL guys are hard to understand. My bf gets mad at me for yelling at him for leaving his shoes everywhere but dont show that hes mad when i told him i lied about hanging out with this guy 3 years ago.. men are strange. I mean i'd be pissed at me and I know he was but he didnt show it like he'd show it if i didnt fold clothes that we just washed lol... weirddddooooo.
oooohhhhhhhhh didja buy some sexy stuff?

devins_mommy

I just got a few shirts, leggings, and flip flops. But I love leggings

MommyLovesSparkle

oohh i love leggings too My bf dont let me shop for clothes anymore kuz we have no where to put them lol so i moved onto jewlery but i cant wear any of it yet kuz my daughter thinks they are alll fun to pull lol.

devins_mommy

Lol ya my son broke my necklace twice. I gave up lol. @MommyLovesSparkle

MommyLovesSparkle

lol kidssss X_X

So where do you live at? Im in Las Vegas.