So he loves you but doesn't wanna be with you? There has to be a reason. I've learned that when a man doesn't wanna be with you but "loves you", he still thinks there is something better out there, but keeping you there just incase he either needs a quick nut, or just incase the other girl or girls don't work. Do you want him back? If so I could give you advice... but make sure he's really worth your love.
You absolutely cannot break on this...do not call, text, or email him at all. In about two to three days, he will call you. Answer the phone and talk only about your son...nothing else. When he asks how you are, or what you're doing, tell him you have to go...someone at the door, you're busy looking for a job or you have another call...something. Wait until he calls you again...it should be either the same day or the next day. Do not answer it. He'll call you again the same day...and don't answer that call either if it's still during the day. If It's at night(past your sons bedtime), answer but be brief. Tell him that baby is sleeping and to call the next day. He will ask about you, but tell him you have to go...shower, bed, you're in the middle of something...whichever. He's going to wonder why you've been distant, so now he's going to focus more on you to get close and find out why...give him an inch...but nothing more.
How am I supost to not talk to him for 3 days? When he asked about our son everyday. And iv been doing good, just talking about our son. But I think u blew everything. We were talking alittle about the job interview I have on Friday. N I blurt out 'so when are we going to be able tm talk' n he said 'iv been busy working doubles, and when I'm ready' and I said 'its been 2 weeks. And I didn't do anything to deserve to be left in the dark about everything. And that I don't feel like he loves me anymore and hes moved on, and if that was the case that I wish he'd tell me so I can unfortunately move on' and he hasn't answered me
I thought id be okay if I lost him. But I don't think so. I just want to talk to someone about him to see what's up with him, but I don't think anyone will talk to me.. @CristinaLynn
Thing is, he has control over how you feel and he knows it. He knows you want to talk to him...that's why he blows you off and acts like he doesn't care. He has you right where he wants you girl. Do not take any extra initiative to talk to him on a personal level. Act like he doesn't affect you. When things are bad this happens....you call him, he doesn't answer, you text him telling him to call, he doesn't...you call him later and he answers but makes it short and doesnt talk about anything you wanna talk about, he gets frustrated at your questions so he let's you go. You end up sitting there pissed off wondering what you could do to make him want to talk to you...to make him feel something. When things are okay, he tells you lines like "I love you but..." or "let's just take it one day at a time" and "I'm just busy is all...its not you". You need to make yourself unavailable to him. You're letting him have that control...and he's using it against you to the fullest. Do not let him do that.
You have to regain control of yourself. I know you're hurt and heartbroken, but he knows you are in his complete control. He feels good and has no incentive to return because he knows you are waiting hand and foot for.him. this allows him to continue to live his life happily, enjoying himself and having you to come back to when he is bored. You need to get a grip and I say that as nicely as possible. I've been in his shoes and done the sammmme thing before. You can't continue to wait around. As far as you know right now, he doesnt want to be with you. His actions say this loud and clear. You've got to move on. It will make him realize he needs you.
"If you love something, set it free" if it was meant to be they will return. You cannot force this to happen. It is out of your control. Give him space. Stop asking him to talk, go anywhere or ask why. it will only co.tinue to annoy him. Seriously. If he wants to talk about your son, let him. thats it. You can't force this and trying to talk and get answers may cause you to lose him forever.
I think that would help you alot. A therapist. Totally hope you don't take that wrong! It would help you work out a lot of issues within yourself. I know you want to tell him...but you just can't right now. Not at this moment. He doesn't want to hear it
As for what you did wrong? I don't think you did anything to be punished for, hun. He is being an idiot. He doesnt know WHAT it is that he wants. And that is completely unfair to you.
ohh okay wait i just had an amazing idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go get that movie with vivica a fox & do everything that that movie says! its one of my all time favorites its called "Two can play that game"
You need to listen to everyword cristinalynn said! shes exactly on point., keep yourself busy and make him wondewr what your up to.. it will make him think all the things your thinking in your head. Believe me watch the movie its the exact same as this except he cheats on her.
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&& @CristinaLynn of cores I still love him.
I thought id be okay if I lost him. But I don't think so. I just want to talk to someone about him to see what's up with him, but I don't think anyone will talk to me.. @CristinaLynn
You have to regain control of yourself. I know you're hurt and heartbroken, but he knows you are in his complete control. He feels good and has no incentive to return because he knows you are waiting hand and foot for.him. this allows him to continue to live his life happily, enjoying himself and having you to come back to when he is bored. You need to get a grip and I say that as nicely as possible. I've been in his shoes and done the sammmme thing before. You can't continue to wait around. As far as you know right now, he doesnt want to be with you. His actions say this loud and clear. You've got to move on. It will make him realize he needs you.
"If you love something, set it free" if it was meant to be they will return. You cannot force this to happen. It is out of your control. Give him space. Stop asking him to talk, go anywhere or ask why. it will only co.tinue to annoy him. Seriously. If he wants to talk about your son, let him. thats it. You can't force this and trying to talk and get answers may cause you to lose him forever.
I know, I know I need a therapist lol!
As for what you did wrong? I don't think you did anything to be punished for, hun. He is being an idiot. He doesnt know WHAT it is that he wants. And that is completely unfair to you.