here goes the drama

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. My friend is going through a very difficult time n I told her I would ask my pregly family what they think. So here it goes..my friend has been in a relationship with this guy for 5 months now n has been through sooooo much with him in such a short time. Well, she catches him on fb talking to another girl saying some x rated things (month 1 of the relationship). She forgives him n catches his ex in his house (month 2 of their relationship) but she was supposedly there getting her things to move out. Month 3 of there relationship she gets prego n has a mc (my friend that is). Month 4 finds out that the same ex that was "moving her stuff out the house" is prego but from what he says it happened before they got in a relationship...the dates say diff. n she then finds out that she is now prego again. Month 5 he moves t he girl into his trailer bc she so called h asno place to go. Then finds out that h e is sneaking and talking to her n txting her. She understands they have to talk but he lies about it. I personally thinkshe has low self-esteem bc who n their right mind would stay with someone that has done all of this to them! She is now considering having an abortion bc the girl is pregnant but still wants to stay with him O_o. That makes no sense to me. This is her 5th pregnancy, she's already had an abortion, 2 mc n one full term pregnancy. If anything I say get rid of him n keep the baby bc she has a great support team. What do u ladies think? Any advice for my friend? Btw sorry so long.

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  • edited August 2012
    Isn't this the same friend that doubted she wanted to stay with him about a month ago? I say dump his ass, he's been no good since the beginning. He's obviously a liar and had no respect for her. She's in serious denial, and her saying she wants to have an abortion is just embarrassed talk. If she can disregard a human life that easily, then it should be easy for her to dump this creep! Her next excuse will be she can't leave him because of the baby. You need to tell her as a friend that the longer she stays with him the harder it'll be on her and he'll just keep doing what he's doing because she's enabling it.

  • Yep she's the same girl n she is an enabler. I told her he only does what she allows him to. The other girl said she doesn't mind sharing n that she'll see her around. She is crazy! @mijita

    @captivated I'm tagging u on this post since my silly phone posted the discussion twice but I agree it's her choice. I told her no matter what I'm there for her but just like u said she needs to find some kind of esteem n self worth
  • @homebirthadvocate I agree with. I just wish I could shake some sense into her. I don't get why she still wants to be with him.
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  • So sick of woman just allowing men to walk all over them. Men need to step up and teach thier daughters what theyre worth so they dont grow up allowing men to treat em like trash and also teach thier sons how to b a real man and not a slime ball. I hope ur friend leaves this slime ball and finds herself. She needs more resect for herself and life in general... Abortion should not b used as birth control.
  • @mommyof3girls u couldn't have said it better!
    @mama_kat exactly n the sad thing is the other girl told her she doesn't mind sharing n that she'll see her around. He got the other girl to change her number so my friend wouldn't know who it was when she called his phone. When my friend called her phone to see who it was she was like yes who is this n my friend told her n the girl asked her what she wanted n she told her she just wanted to know who was texting n calling her man all time of night n the girl asked her if she was screening his calls n said welp now u know who it is, smh
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  • Yup ditch him keep the baby and move on
  • @salasmommy yeah she just doesn't get that tho n idk y.
  • @mama_kat she is only thinking about termination bc the girl is pregnant. She needs to stop allowing that girl to control her life. She said if the girl wasn't prego she would keep the baby n
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  • That's not a reason to consider abortion...
  • ^^^agreed!

    And if that is what she thinks constitutes a good reason then she's an idiot!
  • Sounds like your friends is putting him before the baby already. Hate to be rude but seems to me like she doesn't need a baby! I get so aggravated when women choose to have babies by men that they KNOW ain't shit! Its so stupid.

    Btw..I totally plan on texting you! I've just been kind of busy trying to get things straight with Medicaid, wic, and choosing an ob.
  • @mama_kat exactly
    @captivated no reason at all...n I told her that n she said that's enough validation for her n that she's going to get an abortion (i don't think she will though)
    @mimii36 I think she puts him before her daughter she has now. She's always at his house n I'll ask where daughter is n she's with het mother. I told her that she needs to spend time with someone who will never hurt her n loves her unconditional which is her daughter n her response was so I can go crazy, smh. I'm actually wanting her to keep the baby n hopefully she will learn n become a better mother n person. I also agree with u with the no good men. Anyways lol ok girl...there's no rush!
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  • He's obviously not ready to be with one person. I'm sad she didn't leave a long time ago.
  • @mamalove me too now she's stuck with him for life if she keeps the baby
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