meeting the kids...

Mimii36

So most of you may know that I'm not pregnant by my daughters father. It's my "new" bfs baby. He has two daughters who are 8 and 6. We both agreed that I shouldn't meet them until we knew we were serious. Well we have been pretty serious for a little while now and I'm having their little brother or sister so he thinks it's time for me to meet them. We don't want them to think "well daddy has a new family now". I want them apart of this journey too but I'm so freakin nervous about setting a date. Has anybody been through this? I know their mommy probably hasn't exactly told them nice things about me. Lol. I just want them to like me! I feel like a little kid. Any advice on meeting them for the first time?

Val

I was on ur ur same boat except i wasn't or still not PG from my bf now but he has a lil boy from a previous so I kno wat ur going thru n I see the other point of view my sons dad has a gf n they have a baby..but to mk a long story short .....all yu wanna do is be their friend. Let them kno ur not taking their daddy away or ur not their new mom since they are oldern kno lil more...good luck with the ex..its been 5 yrs that we broke up still kinda have drama she's keep it cool w her too she's always gna have something to say. Good luck hun

Mimii36

@Val yea I can already see the ex is going to be drama. She told the kids their dad was having another baby instead of letting him tell them. His youngest called today and asked him if she was still his baby. I guess she's trying to turn them against us. I don't want it to be like that. I don't like drama and I definantly dont like putting children in the middle of adult issues. They didn't even know their daddy had a girlfriend and then their mom just pops up and tells them that daddy is having another baby. I'm just afraid they may already have a "negative" perception of me.

Val

She might think they do but their kids they have an open innocent mind. Yea that wasn't her place to them .... like I said just be open with them n answer any questions they might have. Regarding yu n their dad. Cus trust me they'll askquestions about their mom n dad n yu don't wanna be involved in that. Let their mom answer those questions. It'll be fine trust me well with the kids anyway lol

Val

** any update how did it go?? @mimii36

Mimii36

@Val great! They loved me! The youngest one ran right up to me and hugged me like she knew me forever. They even want to spend the night while I'm over here but their mother would never let that happen. They told their dad they wouldn't tell their mom I was there. Lol. He said when they left they talked about me the whole time.