Ridiculous Fear. Any advice appreciated!
For those of you who know me, I had twins naturally last pregnancy. My "big baby" was a whopping 5lbs11oz and he tore me pretty good. So now I'm 37 weeks with a baby that is already estimated at 7 lbs, and I'm pretty worried about ripping from here to Texas and back. Is there anyone who ripped with one size baby, but not a bigger one, OR is there a way I can sort of "prepare" the lady bits this time around? Please and thank you for the help!
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Maybe @bahamamama4828 or @homebirthadvocate can better answer your question.
My second was 9 lb. 5 oz. & I only needed a few stitches...same thing with all my other babies. Either a few stitches or none & my largest ever was 9 lb. 11 oz.
Hope that helps you feel better! And yes, there are ways you can stretch your perineum in advance if you'd like. I never did, but it's on Baby Center or @homebirthadvocate would probably know. It does require some oil & short finger nails! Lol Eeek!
Yes perineal massage!! Sometimes smaller babies have more wiggle room and mom tears more with them if that makes sense. Birth in an optimal position that opens you up more like squatting in water, the water helps some too. Let your body take over the pushing rather than you pushing againsts gravity on your back called purple pushing like everyone mentioned.
@Janet_2011 I healed quickly, too, thank God. I just had no epi/pain meds so it burned like a mofo!
@HomeBirthAdvocate I'm looking it up as we speak! And I was so ready to just get them out (pitocin had me miserable) that I went crazy with the pushing, so that probably contributed huh?
@Mijita thank you very much! I was wondering about the whole scar tissue thing, myself.
@Wilsomom that does make me feel better. Lol I'm definitely going to try the birthday candle approach. Sounds better than almost passing out from lack of breathing. Lol
@Bahamamama4828 my doctor actually had me push almost completely upright! He was on an itty bitty stool on the floor. After a pitocin labor it felt amazing right up until the whole crowining thing. Lol
@MommyLovesSparkle I had clots that would get caught on my stitches and trying to clean myself was pretty uncomfortable, so I'm lucky I didn't rip anything out! Healed fine, just ached quite a bit. Lol
@denois oh goodness! I hope everything goes smoothly! I actual hemorrhaged two weeks to the day after my delivery. Lost a couple liters of blood, and I was unconscious for most of it, BUT I am just fine
@conreeaght I will have to start doing them!
@littlenat86 I was about to ask what to use, thank you!!
@kristaf22 Omg I would have freaked out!! Poor baby
@sehra4177 I hope so!
@cheryl74 I feel so dumb saying this, but an 8 lber scares me! Haha you're a trooper! Combined, I had 12ish lbs of baby... but it didn't come out at once!