update on my friend - scary update.
For those of you who were following...
So my friend and her daughter were living back home with her parents, had a good paying job, her daughter was loving her day care, then bam. Her ex writes a letter under oath saying that she's an alcoholic, he's been their daughter's main care giver, etc (all lies!) So the court granted him temporary custody of their daughter. He flew out to pick her up today (may I mention, without a car seat, diapers, wipes, change of clothes, toys, ANYTHING) she was absolutely heart broken. And my heart was breaking for her too. Their kid is going to be so scared, missing her momma, living with drug abusers. But my friend is coming back, and going to sign her own letter under oath, which will be in complete conflict with his, so they're hoping that the temporary custody will be immediately over turned.
I'm really proud of my friend, aside from her initial crying to me about having to hand her daughter over, she's been so strong.
Please guys, send prayers, thoughts and good vibes. She needs a place to rent and a job (she can stay with my family or myself rent free, but she needs to look good for the court) and of course, she needs things to go her way in court. She's a great mother, and he's a lying, woman beating rapist, who I truly believe only wants the kid to get back at my friend, not because he wants her.
If no one is reading this, than no worries. If anyone is, and would like updates, I will keep you posted.
Any and all good thoughts and prayers are so so appreciated.
So my friend and her daughter were living back home with her parents, had a good paying job, her daughter was loving her day care, then bam. Her ex writes a letter under oath saying that she's an alcoholic, he's been their daughter's main care giver, etc (all lies!) So the court granted him temporary custody of their daughter. He flew out to pick her up today (may I mention, without a car seat, diapers, wipes, change of clothes, toys, ANYTHING) she was absolutely heart broken. And my heart was breaking for her too. Their kid is going to be so scared, missing her momma, living with drug abusers. But my friend is coming back, and going to sign her own letter under oath, which will be in complete conflict with his, so they're hoping that the temporary custody will be immediately over turned.
I'm really proud of my friend, aside from her initial crying to me about having to hand her daughter over, she's been so strong.
Please guys, send prayers, thoughts and good vibes. She needs a place to rent and a job (she can stay with my family or myself rent free, but she needs to look good for the court) and of course, she needs things to go her way in court. She's a great mother, and he's a lying, woman beating rapist, who I truly believe only wants the kid to get back at my friend, not because he wants her.
If no one is reading this, than no worries. If anyone is, and would like updates, I will keep you posted.
Any and all good thoughts and prayers are so so appreciated.
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Thanks @wilsomom I think she is really scared. I know I'd be. If her sworn oath doesnt over turn anything, it'll be 6-12 months before she can see her daughter again. She'll be at least 2 by then. how are you doing? How's your son?
@merandagarcia she actually has it in writing! She emailed him asking if he had everthing he needed (to seem cooperative) and he said he needed a diaper bag. So she made him write an email list of everything he needed. So that's a huge plus!
But apparently, by the way her ex and his family were talking when they picked the kid up, they truly think this is done and theyve 'won'
@perly ya, the evidence is the hard part. I'm sure at some point, shell demand a drug test, but I'm not sure when it'd be or how long of notice they'd get for it. She has a lawyer in town who's supposedly quite good, hopefully anyway.
@captivated I remember bits of your story, and it still breaks my heart for you. She does have an attorney, luckily her family is quite well off, and his isn't. I'm not sure if he has a criminal record, but I'm pretty sure his father does, and since they live together, and the exs dad will be taking care of the kid most of the time, were hoping that'll come intoplay. Just goes to show you that the system is failing all over the place.
My friend finished writing her affidavit in response to his...his was four pages long (that covered their three year relationship) hers is fifteen. And she's included witness statements and other evidence, which he had none. And it includes a statement from her friend from back homes brother, who was with her ex and his dad smoking weed until 3 in the morning when they then picked up the kid at 9!!
I read my friends whole affidavit, and it made me cry. I hadn't realized how much detail she had left out when talking to me, how he had abused her, the details of him raping her. It literally made me sick to my stomach.
But on a positive note, the cops apparently just hadn't gotten around to her report about the rape and physical assault, so they want to talk to her today, so she has an appointment with them at one. Not sure what'll happen, but there is a chance they will pick him up and arrest him. Which would be awesome.
Ill update when I know more.
Have her check out the program custody toolbox. This is an awesome and must have program during a custody battle. She needs to also keep a journal of events. It is all about documentation, documentation, documentation. Custody battles now are all about money. Whoever has the most and best attorney wins. She should strategize to run him out of money for his attorney. It is what my ex did to me and almost had to settle many times because he bankrupted me.
@excitedforoctober oh I know. But I appreciate worst case scenario, and hear the experiences of others. Its good to hear what others went through do we can try to avoid certain things. Expect the worst, hope for the best ya know. But yes, I sincerely hope that my friend (or anyone!) Doesn't have to go through what captivated did.