So now he wants to keep it...

sweetness06sweetness06
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
Well last night BF came ovr & stayed the night wit me..& throughout the night I was having really bad stomach pains not like cramps jus a really bad pain & it continued throughout the day..had to tell my boss I was pregnant so she would knw what was goin..so she let me leave early & my BF met me at the er..the did a vag ultrasound & of course its too early to see a heart beat (only 5wks) but we did see the sac & his eyes lit up like a kid on Christmas morning! After they said everything ok & we left he said we should think a little more about keeping & wants to cancel my appt Saturday for the abortion & the last 2night he been spending every second catering to my needs..which is what I wanted him to do is show he cares..my thing is what makes him think whatever he says goes?? jus because he said he wanted an abortion I was suppose to do it now that he says he wants to keep it I'm suppose to jus say ok...no MY BODY MY CHOICE! so I'm still thinkn what I want to do

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  • eaparkereaparker
    Its a man thing. Ur pregnant and he feels like he has no control because u r the one that's carrying the baby. So he is trying to find ways to feel in control. Stand ur ground where necessary but its ok to let them think they r leading.
  • TechGirlPaTechGirlPa
    Maybe he just didn't think about the pregnancy as a real life until he saw it for himself.
  • marie7smarie7s
    I am a firm believer do what's right for you because you will regret an abortion if you do it for him and who knows what you will go thru emotionally if you keep it for him and not for you. I think you should reeeeeeally think about everything alone and then lay it all on the table with him. Don't hold anything back! Trust whatever you chose you will need someone to support you and have your back thru it! Good luck.
  • SheronSheron
    I saw my baby's heartbeat at 5weeks though....
    Congrats to u anyway! :)
  • MelissaMelissa
    Well don't get caught up to much about what he says either way its your choice and remember that you will be tied to this guy for the rest of your life like it or not if you choose to have the baby he's gonna be the daddy... good or bad... tough choice but really look into who he is and what's right for you... also adoption... lots of great people that don't have the privlage of having their own... good luck stay strong and don't be persuaded by anything other than god...
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    edited March 2011
    Thanks..not like he's a bad person everyone has their issues & for the most part he's a good person...he does everything I ask but my issue is somethings I feel like i shouldn't have to ask..& he wasn't as supportive as I was expecting him to be..I guess he's improving but well see...Saturday is coming fast & I feel like I haven't made any progress in my decision..no choice seems like the right one...
  • TechGirlPaTechGirlPa
    Its not just the woman's choice... the child is half his. Also if you decided you didn't want the child, he should have the right to keep it himself if he wants it.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    Ur right it his child too..but he was pushing for an abortion saying he's to young & now I'm jus suppose to keep it cuz he said so?? I dnt think so. at the end of the day its MY body regardless what he says the final decision is mine..& he would NOT keep it himself..
  • TechGirlPaTechGirlPa
    You can't base a decision that is going to make or destroy a child's life based off of being annoyed at the dad. So he originally wanted an abortion? Then he got a peek at what he could have. Its normal for frightened people to jump to the easiest way out at first. If you don't want the baby ask him if he would raise It on his own. Ask him. Its not just your body... its another life you have been given the privilege of carrying.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    Think ur taking what I said the wrong way..NVR said I'm having the abortion..jus said I'm not sure on what I want to do...& trust me I knwn my BF since we were 12 he wouldnt..
  • missmommy28missmommy28
    I get what your saying. You feel like you don't have the voice. He is the one who gets to decide the fate (and so he thinks). Positve though is at least he's coming around. If u
    You do follow through with abortion I guess Id say it'd be a better situation to go in saying "its not the right time but I had his support either way" then feeling forced into doing it. If you do decide to keep the baby wait til you get your us later on down the road hell really light up. I got one at 13 weeks 2 days yesterday and it was like an actual human and it was eating.. so cute. Good luck :)
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    Aww lol...that is cute..but yea he really is but still not sure... :-$
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