so im NOT having my abortion tomorrow...

sweetness06

Haven't decided what I wanna do..since I'm not sure & dnt wanna do somethin I will regret...ill will wait til I'm for sure..thanks again for all ur help & support.

snreda

Theres always adoption

mommy2be92

Well adoption is always a choice if later on you think its too much to handle.

Cantwait2BAMommy

@snreda....just curious, how far along are you?

georgias_mummy

uve made such a gd decission to wait , I was going to get an abortion and never thank god, I'm so glad I never, I know I'm some situations people have to just think of it as a blessing xxx gd luck hun xx

Cantwait2BAMommy

Sorry that was @swetness06

Cantwait2BAMommy

Ugh @sweetness06

snreda

Ok Lol thats what I figured

Cantwait2BAMommy

Apparently I can't type this morning lol

Steeny

I don't know how old you are @sweetness06 but sometimes abortion is the best option. You have to look at your whole situation. Are you ready to have a baby? Can you provide financially for a child? Emotionally? Is your partner someone that you want to have in your life forever. Are they going to be a good parent?
I have had 2 abortions and I know both were the right decision. The first I was 18. I had gotten pregnant like right around my 18th birthday. My bf at the time had no job and sold weed to make money. I had no idea about life and wasn't ready to become a mom. The second one was when I was 22 and I was going through a breakup and was doing drugs and partying. I strongly considered keeping that baby (many women party before they know they are prego) but I realized I needed more time to build a foundation for a better life. I was young and enjoying being young. I can't imagine how my life would be now had I kept that child.
My point is you need to make the decision whether you are ready for a baby or not. If for some reason you are against abortion then maybe adoption is the way to go. I wasn't ready and that's okay! I know the decisons I made were right for me. I am so glad I waited because now I have a wonderful man who loves and supports me! We are looking for homes to buy and building our foundation for an amazing life. I am 5 months pregnant right now and I know I am ready. It felt different this time. I knew I was ready to give my life up and become a parent. If you decide to keep this baby and you want to be a good mom your life as you know it will be over. Its not a bad thing its just a decision you have to be ready to make. I wish you luck in whatever you do and know whatever ends up happening is the right decision for you no matter what anyone says!

vayanna

@sweetness06 Im so glad to hear that.....you don't want to regret it.....but like everyone else said adoption is really great alternative.....one of my bff just had a baby about a week ago she gave him up for adoption..she she also had a baby before that she gave up for adoption the same family adopted the baby says she just had....

12mamakiss

Way to go sweetness06. I think it is smart of you not to rush into anything. I think that's a sign of responsibility. Like a lot of the mamas have said above, adoption is a great option. There are so many couples out there that want to have children so badly, but just physically can't. My brother in law and his wife are in that situation. They have been trying for 5 years to get pregnant and can't. So they're looking into adoption. The best thing is adoption agencies have so many requirements and take so many precautions with perspective parents. They want to make sure the child is placed in the best enviornment possible. I'm saying that they make sure the child is taken good care of. A lot of times, adoptive parents keep in touch with the biological mothers and send pictures and stuff so the child can still be a part of your life. Way to go girl, I know you'll make the right decision for you! Stay strong!

1_Bubbly_Mommy

@Steeny i don't think you should tell her her life will be over if she decides to keep her baby just bc you decided you weren't ready both times a baby is a blessing no matter when you have a baby bc you get pregnant for a reason to change your life but i just think that's not right to tell her that i'm 18 in college and i'm pregnant no idk if i will be with my baby daddy forever but i know right now everything is going good i know i will face some bad but it's apart of life and i except what God has given me but whatever her decision maybe let her make it don't tell her her life is over that's wrong.

1_Bubbly_Mommy

Sorry had to edit comment and i'm not trying to start anything and sorry if it ses i'm being rude or anything in anyway in my comment.

bwhite55019

@1_Bubbly_Mommy thank you couldn't agree more life has a whole new meaning that doesn't mean its over

ashabash

I don't think this discussion should be made here in a pregnancy forum. Just looking at some of these comments is pissing me off and making me wanna say something and I'm sure I'm not the only one

bwhite55019

I think that its a personal opinion and if she is looking for guidance then we should be here for her but to just inform ppl of abortion no it should be somewhere else I just pray she makes the right decision which ever that maybe

ashabash

Well there is one comment up there that someone made that should not have been said.

ScarlettsMama

Becoming a parent does not mean your "life will be over" that is rediculous, your life will be just beginning!! I don't know why anyone ould urge a person to have an abortion as it is a painful and horrible thing to do to your body...having multiple abortions may not effect others but having just one may severely effect you! Please think long and hard about this and do your research... it is not the babies fault and i feel it deserves a chance at life and adoption is the most unselfish thing u can do for your baby and for 2 people who dreAm of having a baby and they just can't, its devastating! There are wonderful couples who would love your baby with all their heart, I've had multiple friends who chose adotion over abortion and they say it was the best decision they ever made! Please think long and hard about this honey because its not just your life being effected its that babies, a child is a miracle and a gift no matter how it gets here good luck doll!

1_Bubbly_Mommy

Well of course but when i see a comment i don't like if i can't put it in a nice way i just take a deep breath a go to other forums bc i really love this app and i don't want any of you ladies to dislike me bc of whar i said bc i know i will want advice and will be looking to all of you to give it to me and i hate how we have been having a lot of disagreements leading to arguments and people leaving.

Mythica

@steeny in my opinion, its all about how you look at it. I think you should go to youtube and watch "silent scream"... it'll show you what your babies went through. Adoption is the best option. Your choices were yours to make, but why advocate abortion on a forum where there are plenty of ladies trying to concieve??

bwhite55019

@ashabash I know the comment your referring to and I agree with you

ashabash

Thank you @mythica lol

preggointx

I'm not trying to be rude or anything but abortions are NEVER good and in my opinion they are some what selfish if the unborn is not a product of rape or incest....I mean when you make the choice to have sex you can not be without consequence....you should youtube the silent screams of abortion....the child feels it in some cases the body is removed unattached from the head and it is just cruel and unusal punishment for a life that has no say so or can not stand up for itself. If all possible have the baby and give it up for adoption...I know giving up your child can be difficult but there are too many people ttc and can't....look at the ttc discussions. I was ttc for about 7 years before I got preggo....but you should keep your baby or give it up don't kill it is a person and don't listen to others who have made this decision because it justifies their previous choices....please go youtube the silent screams of abortion it is too harsh and many woman have feminie problems after (not all).....the decision is yours but please be informed before you make the decision because it is just a terrible procedure.....I know plenty of ppl who think about it and do not get it done and they turn out to be great moms with thriving children...you can do it just get a plan...work the plan...and the plan will work...its no longer about you its about a child who did not ask to be born...

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1_Bubbly_Mommy

Ohkay we all agree that one comment on here was uncalled for so maybe we shoyld tell one of the moderaters<<spell check lol so they can handle it before it gets out of hand

sweetness06

I'm 5wks...& eventually the choice I should make will come to me...I already had an abortion in 2008 told myself nvr again...so guess well c...thanks everyone..but sorry its either parenting r abortion...I'm not doin adoption...that works for some ppl but not me

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bwhite55019

I'm sorry if this offends someone but I was not aware that you had previously had an abortion that give condoms away everyday and BC is free there is no excuse for this to continue to happen these are innocent babies you are killing so don't take the chance if your not ready for the consequences or in most of our cases the blessing

Kateee10

Some of these comments make me sad. & more thankful for my daughter & the baby I am carrying right now. Best choice I ever made to keep my kids, such angels I'm so in love with them both, & haven't met one yet! Just think about it, I'm not gonna tell you how terrible abortion is. But, think about it day in and out! & from my point of view if you already had one, hoe could you have another? Sometimes you have to take responsibility for your actions even when you don't want to! Good luck hun!

12mamakiss

Well said girls. Life is not over once you become a mom. I think life is enriched. Even if you are not ready for a child and the blessings that come from motherhood, wouldn't you be willing to bless someone else's life who is ready for motherhood?