Has anyone ever had an ex family member obsessed with their child?
I'm leaving this in pregnancy simply cause I don't know where to put it.
My ex and I were together for nine years. He's not my daughters dad but took over That role for years when her real dad dropped off the planet. Anyway we were never legally married but wore rings. In 06 we bought a house but everything was in his name except our third car which I sold to put the money on the down payment.
His mother who I believe suffers with ocd did everything in her power to drive my daughter and I apart. She had been pregnant herself around 10 times I believe And miscarried them all. My ex was adopted by her and her husband. Anyway all through our relationship she would tell my daughter that she didn't need to listen to me and tried to come between us every chance she had. I couldn't even buy my daughter a jacket without her buying her another one and convincing her to wear it instead. I suffered with extremely low self esteem back then and didn't stand up for myself until after my ex had an affair and left us in 09. At That time my daughter was so stressed out over my ex trying to kick us out of our house That I had to place her into therapy. I recieved hate mail and email from his mother continuing the abusive names I dealt with from her all of those years. After we moved she found out where we lived and would drive past our house several times a day. After a harrassing letter came in the mail my lawyer sent her a letter letting her know that if she ever contacted us again he would press harrassment charges.
A few days ago I discovered that my Daughter has been secretly talking to her via facebook and reading the messages there were things encouraging my daughter to lie to me (no different than before).
What would you do in this situation? Would you press harrassment charges? Or would you turn the other cheek and chop it up to her obsessions and just keep her from being able to contact her again? I don't have to put up with this womens abuse but I'm not sure the best course of action from here.
My ex and I were together for nine years. He's not my daughters dad but took over That role for years when her real dad dropped off the planet. Anyway we were never legally married but wore rings. In 06 we bought a house but everything was in his name except our third car which I sold to put the money on the down payment.
His mother who I believe suffers with ocd did everything in her power to drive my daughter and I apart. She had been pregnant herself around 10 times I believe And miscarried them all. My ex was adopted by her and her husband. Anyway all through our relationship she would tell my daughter that she didn't need to listen to me and tried to come between us every chance she had. I couldn't even buy my daughter a jacket without her buying her another one and convincing her to wear it instead. I suffered with extremely low self esteem back then and didn't stand up for myself until after my ex had an affair and left us in 09. At That time my daughter was so stressed out over my ex trying to kick us out of our house That I had to place her into therapy. I recieved hate mail and email from his mother continuing the abusive names I dealt with from her all of those years. After we moved she found out where we lived and would drive past our house several times a day. After a harrassing letter came in the mail my lawyer sent her a letter letting her know that if she ever contacted us again he would press harrassment charges.
A few days ago I discovered that my Daughter has been secretly talking to her via facebook and reading the messages there were things encouraging my daughter to lie to me (no different than before).
What would you do in this situation? Would you press harrassment charges? Or would you turn the other cheek and chop it up to her obsessions and just keep her from being able to contact her again? I don't have to put up with this womens abuse but I'm not sure the best course of action from here.
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He says it's nothing, it's what he does.
How have your boys adjusted after the divorce? Do they seem ok with it?
They have adjusted all right I think. My boys are twins, and one is my Mama's boy and all he needs is me or my Mom and he's quite happy. My other one is the one I have problems with because he really wants that male influence. His Dad doesn't give it, and my ex did when he was home (he was in the military), so he had a harder time. Luckily my bf is amazing and has really stepped up. He absolutely loves kids and can't get enough of my boys now that I have allowed him in the boys lives. (I really think I don't mean anything to any of them when the three of them are together. LOL) We were together for about 8 months before he really spent anytime around the boys, just to make sure.
My lawyer sent her the letter a year ago and I thought that's why she finally left us alone. Then to find out she's been encouraging my daughter to lie to me like she used to is really disturbing. My daughter and I had a wonderful relationship when she was little but that wacko did everything in her power to come between us. The problem is I don't think she realizes how screwed up she really is... she acts like her crazy behavior is normal.