my heart is so sore.
I feel like my heart is parting into two. I feel like every moment we fight my heart has another punch. I feel that he no longer loves me. That we are two different ppl. I hurt soo bad that im crying like if I lost a love one... im so hurt. Every sing chance he gets he tells me that I need to leave or I should go. Or im done. I can't take it no more. It hurts me to see our love die. We have been thru a lot to finish. I left my teenage life for him. I becamea mom at 17 I left my mom. My baby sister. I need to hear that im doing the right thing of staying. Idk girls I just need help. Im in so much pain.
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I think that its natural to grieve, I mean, if your relationship is ending, you're grieving a loss.
I really wish you the best with all of this.
I would tell you to just go and leave everything behind, but if you both haven't tried to figure out what the problem is and worked on it... then i would be telling you to just give up on the possible future you could have as a family.
Im not saying you should stay and take it, but i am telling you to try to communicate and find a common ground so that you both can start moving forward with a more healthy relationship.
However, notice that throughout my whole comment i kept saying BOTH. In order for this to work, you and him have to try. If you can give the first step in the right direction, and get him along with you then you can definitely get through this. You should never allow him or any man to mistreat you, but you should always be able to take a step back and analyze what is going on so that you can make the right decision.
Were texting and he was like nah that we both have work and this n that. Ill post the text msg later on ok.
Tommy: "Well I do too if we're gonna stay together we have to try together if not its never gonna work out we can't keep on fighting later on the baby's r gonna start to know and I don't want to ruin their childhood with stupid arguments."
Me:"I know."
Tommy:"If u want we can set this aside n just try to b happy for them for us for our little family dat we have."
Me:" ok. You just have to promise me one thing.
That you are going to be with me cause you want to and not cause of our babies."
Tommy: "Yes cuz I love u n wat do u want me to promise."
Me: " That. That you are her cause you want to. And cause you are happy. Not because you have to for our kids."
Tommy: " I promise i know wAt we have will workout we use to always b happy n play around all the time."
Me: "I know. And that what hurts more when we fight."
Tommy: " I love you babe. We will make it through anything mami=]."
And he came home brought some take out and we have just been talking.
In my opinion, when there's love and kids involved, you don't give up right away. You search deep, and make sure that both are on the same page to find help and move forward.
Even though its not the right thing, people always say things that are hurtful when they are mad and in a relationship it is important to know when its something that you can let go till the waters are calm or if it requires you to do something more drastic like leaving. Like i said, only you know your relationship and if its worth fighting for. I hope you can both seek help and decide that way if the relationship should continue or not.