Shut up, Shut up, SHUUUUT UUUUP!
My family keeps telling me that i have my baby spoiled because i like to carry him and hold him. They keep saying that if i keep it up, i'll never be able to go back to work because he's gonna want to be with me and only me. That's not true because he doesn't cry when other people hold him.
I hate that people tell me "let him cry. You don't need to run to him every time he cries." uuummm yes i do. That's the reason i didn't go back to work after 6wks pp. I decided to stay home during these first few months when he needs me the most because i want to be there with him. Of course i run to him when he cries, that's what im here for. I don't do anything else so i can be available to him, why in the world would i sit my fatass down eating and watching tv while my baby cries? That's crazy! I wish they would a shut up! This is my son, and i will raise him as i see fit. And if in the future, no one wants to take care of him because they feel i spoil him too much, then i'll go back to work when he starts school. NO PROBLEM! I won't be missing out, because my son is my world and every second spent with him is a second well spent.
I believe there's such a thing as a spoiled kid, but i do not believe there's such a thing as a spoiled baby (2month old to be exact). I just wish they would understand the difference between giving tips and tricks and telling me how i should parent my child. Every child is different, and you raise your child base on what is necessary.
Sorry for the book, i just needed to get this off my chest.
I hate that people tell me "let him cry. You don't need to run to him every time he cries." uuummm yes i do. That's the reason i didn't go back to work after 6wks pp. I decided to stay home during these first few months when he needs me the most because i want to be there with him. Of course i run to him when he cries, that's what im here for. I don't do anything else so i can be available to him, why in the world would i sit my fatass down eating and watching tv while my baby cries? That's crazy! I wish they would a shut up! This is my son, and i will raise him as i see fit. And if in the future, no one wants to take care of him because they feel i spoil him too much, then i'll go back to work when he starts school. NO PROBLEM! I won't be missing out, because my son is my world and every second spent with him is a second well spent.
I believe there's such a thing as a spoiled kid, but i do not believe there's such a thing as a spoiled baby (2month old to be exact). I just wish they would understand the difference between giving tips and tricks and telling me how i should parent my child. Every child is different, and you raise your child base on what is necessary.
Sorry for the book, i just needed to get this off my chest.
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That's what I tell people who tell me to get my daughter off the boob lol. Or let her cry. Even my 6 yr old son.
@mommylovessparkle that's not really my case. My baby is barely 2 months old, and the problem is not that i personally hold him too much, the problem is that he's kinda used to being held in general. So as long as someone is carrying him, he's fine. For example, on Friday i went to my niece's birthday party. We were there for about 4-5 hours and the i didn't carry him at all while we were there. When i got there, my mom took him off my arms then my aunt took him off my mom, and he was basically carried by my aunts and cousins and he was as happy as can be.
In all honesty, i don't want to take any second with him for granted because i already lost one baby... I know how fast and how unexpected life can be, i've been given a second chance and i need/want to make the most of it.
@nameless that's exactly why i carry him and cuddle him, because he's small and there's not much he can do besides that. We do tummy time (which he loves) and he does get alone time on his rocker while i pick here and there but when he cries i run to him and if he wants to be held, then i hold him. I do plan to let him go through the stages babies go through, and let him little by little become more independent. So yes, i agree with you. I wish people would stick to raising their kids however they want too and let others do the same. Everyone tells me how im just gonna make it hard for myself. Well in all honesty, i didn't expect this to be easy at all... So that's fine, im up for the challenge. As long as my son needs me, im there.
@perly LOL!
@jules i don't agree with them. In my opinion, every child is different. Besides, they're saying these things based on what they see when i visit. They're not at home with me when i take care of my baby, so they have no clue what i do with him at home. I think that's why it bothers me that they tell me these things. My son has tummy time every day and he LOVES it. He also likes laying in his playpen with his toy on because it has music and lights and he enjoys it very much. In reality, i only carry him to comfort him when he cries and when he's hungry. Aside from that, he's always on his boppy or his playpen or his rocker. Even when its time for bed, i shower him then i feed him and when he's done i lay him down and give him his binky. He puts himself to sleep and he sleeps all night. I don't think that's a spoiled baby at all.