baby daddy has a maybe baby and the mom's being a big..... (its kinda long)
My boyfriend has a possible child with one of his ex's he didnt find out till a year ago when the baby was about to be two and he saw her at a grocery store. the thing is the baby was born when his ex was already married to her now husband and the baby looks like the husband (who is mexican my bf is black she is white)... but she keeps telling him that it's his baby but when we ask for a paternity test she says that it's not the right time.. let her get money... before we got together (11 1/2 months ago) she told him let her get a divorce before she gets the test... and basically she beat around the bush and then stopped contacting him... about 6 months ago she messaged me a really mean message about being a dead beat dad and dont let it happen to me and all his money will be going to child support and yada yada ya... and i just told her that if it really is his baby i wont stand in his way of doing his responsiblity as a dad which he wants to do if it is his... and she got all," he kicked me and his baby out" and said a whole bunch of things i knew were lies. she was all i dont want him back i just want what is right fully "mine". then she started messaging him and it sounded like she was trying to get him back saying things like, your daughter misses you (he met her twice) and i just want her to go to her dad if i pass my dr says i have 6months to live. which is another lie concidering she messaged him today (6 months later) and when he asked her brother he said that she was lying. well she messaged today saying stuff about how shes hurt that he's having another baby and she really thought they could work it out, let me remind you she's married. i dont know how to react. he is completely open with me and shows me everything she messages him and i know he doesn't want her back. i just don't know if i should tell her to stop until she allows him a paternity test. the whole thing confuses me because if they broke up while she was pregnant she got married and then had the baby all im a matter of 9 months i really think that it's not his... but if it is then i dont wanna stop him being allowed to see her... im confused
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@mommaE i would suggest that the only thing is she is in texas we live in hawaii now...
@eaparker we are thinking about that for when we go back after the baby is born..
@firsttimemommytobe if you saw the picture she sent him of the baby and her husband (i know right why would you send a pic of your husband to the person who might be your baby's dad) she looks just like her husband skin color eyes nose hair everything but my bf says that if theres the possibility he isn't gonna risk it. he wants the test done.
@twin_angels the first time she did it was to be spiteful if you read how nasty the letter was you would know. and as soon as we get back we are thinking of getting a lawyer..
@jdensma i have something to say to her... but it wont be nice and i dont want to be a mean person...
@kriss82001 i have already spoken to her and she knows that i will not prevent anything if it is his baby. and before i was pregnant and trying to help him get the test i was even willing to step aside if the baby was his and he wanted to be with her ( he made it perfectly clear that he did not and he only wanted the baby if it's his) i just need help deciding on whether i should ask her to stop because she is saying ill towards my lil baby girl and i dont think i can be nice if it continues.
@keylanieq he's told her to stop before i got pregnant but you cant block inbox messages on facebook... reason we wonder is like @firsttimemommytobe says looks can be deceiving in mixed babies.
@mommaE but why would she do that if she's supposedly happily married and her daughter is happy with "her Dad"(husband)
@littleFae until i can do that should i ask her to stop messaging him...