Any site you go on whether its here, fb, bingo or a chat site has moderators. I'm afraid that they are needed due to the traffic flow. I don't understand why people have anything against this site having them. I feel it makes the site more professional .
"Grown" people still act like fools. It has more to do with maturity than age. Besides, we can't moderate ourselves. Any other forum has moderators, who have usually been established after launch when traffic increases. From the drama I've seen on these forums, I know that three mods is not near enough. There is such a thing as free speech but you can still be censored or punished depending on the situation. While you may never meet these people in real life, they are still real people with real feelings and emotions. If people can keep personal insults off the board, discussions won't be shut down. Or if people wouldn't open a new topic when a similar one was just closed because they just have to get their point across. The more you fight the mods, the more you will find yourself moderated. If you're asked to stop something just stop. If you act like an adult, you're treated like one. If you act like a petulant child, you will be treated as such.
It might just be bc im pregnant idk lol but I get (annoyed) with it... I feel as though we are women & yes women do (pregnant women) get catty & rude & bit*hy & the whole 9 but it really makes the site seem ridiculous if u ask me...
((((2 pregnant women like (me) moderating if other pregnant mommies disagree on something???! Silly smh))))
*If anything if they notice a topic getting out of line contact the person who Is causing trouble via inbox,notify MARTIN and then* ! ! ! -SHUT IT DOWN- If the person does not cooperate
I find it great that @Mama_Kat and @MrsDelRae being prego themselves n having other kids n their lives at home still heave time to come here n help n moderate. something wich is needed. all forums need it. . .
I think @Mama_Kat and @MrsDelRae do a great job! I for one would hate to be a moderator on this forum, so I give you girls major props!! Sure I sometimes disagree with the stuff they do and I do disagree with the member/moderator line being so blurred, but they are doing the best that they can for now. Without them sh*t would hit the fan there's no doubt about that.
u guys hear about the young lady who killed herself because of cyber bullying??? a women told her to kill herself and she did ive heard worst on Pregly im glad they are here to help resolve problems i feel if u dont like them then let ur fellow Pregly members know they should stop being buttholes then u won't have to worry about them...plus this is LIFE THERE IS ALWAYS RULES AND REGULATIONS U MUST FOLLOW FOR EVERYTHING UR ALWAYS GOING TO HAVE SOMEONE OVER YOU UNLESS UR THE BOSS THATS MY OPINION.
@Martin is very busy, things can & did get way out of hand before he asked myself & @Mama_Kat to help him. We may be pregnant, but we are able to put emotions/hormones aside (perhaps practice having other children to play referee between helps?) in order to sort issues out. Sure there are times we take a moment for a breather, but it gives us a chance to think of how to handle things.
@rockinmomma what did you mean by 'I sometimes disagree with the stuff they do?' Meaning moderators or other members? I am confused, lol.
All forums have & need moderators. Just because we're all adults, our tempers (pregnant or not) can & do get out of hand. Its human nature to defend ourselves. Children are born selfish, we teach them from a young age to be selfless, to share & be polite. @Martin chose who he did for many reasons. He has stated that without us, there would no longer be Pregly as he simply can't do it himself. Being a parent is a job in itself, plus he also works a full time job, then has Pregly. There isn't much time for him to be on here to moderate. There's so many new members, many comments/threads posted daily, that he would fall very far behind. We truly are doing our very best, we hope you all see that. We really appreciate all the support, it helps us so much.
Totally agree with @nessas a lot of women on here are in a fragile state and sometimes the negative or arguementive opinions are not needed or wanted. Some opinions on here just shouldn't be said depending on original topic. Peoples feeling get hurt and we are supposed to be here to be supportive not negative. I think they do a good job moderating and we all need to be a little more sensitive to the original posts.
@MrsDelRae just when certain posts are closed or sunk before things get bad. Its not really a problem anymore you guys have gotten much better with warnings
@rockinmomma Gotcha. I know personally I have warned, then things still continued so I closed. Then it in turn made others mad, so they made another thread just to complain about the closed one. Even made ones with different titles than what it was really about to throw us off. Those got deleted. Its a very tedious job, if we don't do anything we get bashed. We take action we get bashed. So it gets to the point of figuring what the pros/cons are of each action. Thankfully I have thick skin, 4 daughters & I swear I live with a whistle around my neck (referee) to delegate. Lol! However, just because we are pregnant & had been members prior doesn't hinge on our judgment. I have seen a decrease in the problems though (thankfully), I hope it continues in that path. I don't really post threads, when I do they are in reference to the app/forum, with an occasional personal thing thrown in. I do comment on members threads as a member as well as a moderator depending on which is warranted at that time. Its all about balance. If you have any suggestions, by all means, inbox me. I am always open to input.
@MrsDelRae and that is exactly why I would never want your job. I can just put my phone down and walk away, you're stuck! :P the only reason I disagree with the member/moderator roll is it makes it harder for people to give due respect. Kinda like the teacher/friend vs. The strict a**. At the end of the day teacher/friend is cooler and more well liked but strict a** teacher has more respect. I remember when it was just martin and drama would go on alllll night, it was not fun. Im glad you guys are around.
@mama_kat and @mrsdelrae do great jobs putting aside their hormones (lolz if it truely is possible) and moderating this site... it has grown alot... i got on it when it was brand new and had maybe 75 ladies with only 3 people posting questions.. then BAM!!! it exploded and like with every other forum you will ever come across the came the TROLLS... and in order for a happy site like this one to function well a moderator(s) is required... even sites that are funny/ gross have moderators for those who want to post things that take things over board..( ie. youtube, yahoo!answers, ask.com,etc...) there will always be the person that decides to post a penis on the fruity pebbles site(seen it done when i was 7 back when they had videogames on it... not a good experience) so yes i do think we need moderators on here... and like i stated earlier we need more... just one thing i would like to see is them being a little more open minded because we are adults(well for all intents and purposes)... for instance, debating a topic vs bashing are two different things... religion can be brought up but when it turns into "youre a souless bastard who is going to die and burn in the fires of hell"(excuse the language) over what youre having for dinner then i can understand shutting it down...maybe to make things easier on yall you should inforce a ban period like say 2 warnings on the 3rd youre banned for a day 4th youre banned for idk a week... 5th 2weeks... some gaming websites do that when people swear in chat... but swearing on an adult forum like this is well expected...
oh and maybe @mama_kat , @mrsdelrae & @martin should take a day off together and see what happens to this forum... (YIKES!! can someone say atomic bomb)
This place gets ugly when the moderators aren't around! I'm grateful for their patience and graciousness, especially because so many people are so mean to them. We can't always agree with their decisions, and they can't make everybody happy, but in general I think they do a great job. Thanks guys!
It really doesn't bother me either way. The only complaint I had in the beginning was that they weren't on the same page, which seems to have gotten much better. What bothers me more are the people who are constantly blaming others for being judgmental or twisting comments around to make them look judgmental when they are only making observations or staying their opinion. Its funny to me how people claim others are ignorant or (fill in any other name here), just because they don't agree with their own point of view. all these abortion, pot, natural birth arguments are driving me insane because people get sooooo angry when someone posts a comment they disagree with...seriously? Its a freakin opinion, you don't need to pop a blood vessel
I agree with the moderators somedays and disagree others it all depends on how well I slept the night before lol .... I do the same with my boss lady at work somedays she is the best some days I want to quit.... @mama_kat & @mrsdelrae do a pretty good job in general once again I see some things about the situation I dont like or agree with (like previous comments stated the member/moderator role it makes it harder for me to fully respect when they post as moderators) but in general I like the idea and like @jalem said we might need to through a male moderator in there :-D
Yeah its good to have moderators be,uz this forum is about giving and taking advice. Hey if people want to cuz each other out just just give them you email and say whatever the heck you want... Lol.. Theres always a time or place for everythin, I say every body needs a little drama in their life thats what the maury and jerry springer shows are for haha
@jalem@may1mommatobe I am not sure if it has been officially announced, but you previously mentioned earlier in the thread you would like to see one or two moderators who were not pregnant being a part of the team. I am currently a Nursing student with a concentration in Neonatal Care and Obstetrics who is trying to conceive, if that helps. Sadly, I am very much a female. :-)) I think @firsttimedaddy does a great job offering his advice on many issues, and I believe it would be a great suggestion to send @martin's way.
@martin asked me to join the Pregly support team this week in order to assist @mama_kat and @mrsdelrae with their moderating responsibilities. I am very excited to be working together with these women who have thus far done such a wonderful job of being moderators. I know @martin is working very hard to bring all of us a great application and forum, especially as it increases in size daily, and I am glad to help alleviate a little stress off of his shoulders (and @mama_kat and @mrsdelrae!) by lending a hand with moderating the forums.
I am glad to be a part of a diverse set of women and men. I understand everyone has his or her own views and opinions; I respect those individuals who are steadfast in their beliefs. I personally enjoy seeing a wide variety of opinions expressed in a respectful way. For instance, although I might not change my own views on a topic, I can take the opportunity to learn about another side or view of the topic from another individual. We might not agree, but we can use the discussion to grow as a whole.
Be gentle with me - I'm a little sunburned today. :-))
@fingerscrossed well welcome to the world of moderatoring(funny fake word of the day) lolz i hope that being that you are not pregnant (yet!!!) people will be more accepting of you... i have sent @martin an email reguarding the male moderator and hope he conciders it however i feel it will be hard to find an understanding man who would be willing to read a whole bunch of women bickering, whining, crying, being women, being pregnant. which is why i am so awe struck by @firsttimedaddy 's dedication to his girl's pregnancy and involvement... *sending you baby dust* good luck
Yes all social networks have them but, you direct people personally and not on post, that can cause more issues than you might think. I just dont think they need to be out there like hey im the police watch what you say its hindering some people from expressing their opinions and thoughts. If you see something harmful dont call them out in a public chat. It is your job and I wont knock it, however i shouldnt know who you are or what you do, and again just my opinion. its not something that is going to stop me from coming on here, just giving my opinion on the question that was posed.
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I feel as though we are women & yes women do (pregnant women) get catty & rude & bit*hy & the whole 9 but it really makes the site seem ridiculous if u ask me...
((((2 pregnant women like (me) moderating if other pregnant mommies disagree on something???! Silly smh))))
*If anything if they notice a topic getting out of line contact the person who Is causing trouble via inbox,notify MARTIN and then*
! ! !
-SHUT IT DOWN-
If the person does not cooperate
@rockinmomma what did you mean by 'I sometimes disagree with the stuff they do?' Meaning moderators or other members? I am confused, lol.
All forums have & need moderators. Just because we're all adults, our tempers (pregnant or not) can & do get out of hand. Its human nature to defend ourselves. Children are born selfish, we teach them from a young age to be selfless, to share & be polite. @Martin chose who he did for many reasons. He has stated that without us, there would no longer be Pregly as he simply can't do it himself. Being a parent is a job in itself, plus he also works a full time job, then has Pregly. There isn't much time for him to be on here to moderate. There's so many new members, many comments/threads posted daily, that he would fall very far behind. We truly are doing our very best, we hope you all see that. We really appreciate all the support, it helps us so much.
@martin asked me to join the Pregly support team this week in order to assist @mama_kat and @mrsdelrae with their moderating responsibilities. I am very excited to be working together with these women who have thus far done such a wonderful job of being moderators. I know @martin is working very hard to bring all of us a great application and forum, especially as it increases in size daily, and I am glad to help alleviate a little stress off of his shoulders (and @mama_kat and @mrsdelrae!) by lending a hand with moderating the forums.
I am glad to be a part of a diverse set of women and men. I understand everyone has his or her own views and opinions; I respect those individuals who are steadfast in their beliefs. I personally enjoy seeing a wide variety of opinions expressed in a respectful way. For instance, although I might not change my own views on a topic, I can take the opportunity to learn about another side or view of the topic from another individual. We might not agree, but we can use the discussion to grow as a whole.
Be gentle with me - I'm a little sunburned today.