i dnt love the father anymore

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• [Deleted User]

  April 2011

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• MrsLaMaster

  April 2011

  I understand how u feel, my husband is a great step dad to my daughter an has been in her life for a year and im prego with his first,but I dont feel the love any more we dont talk, we dont get along , we dont even sleep in the same room. Hes a good dad and dont want to take that from my kids but I know if im not happy they wont be happy either... So I know what ur saying.im torn between my hubby an kids im glad im not alone
• magcaw

  April 2011

  I'm not in your position right now, but if you can hold out I would suggest trying to wait until the baby is maybe 3-6 months, just to be sure that it's not a symptom of your pregnancy or exhaustion. If you can't wait, then don't. Your kids will be effected, yes, but they will also be effected by you being unhappy and that's not healthy, either.
• expectingmy2nd

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  I've been with my fiance a little over 6 months and when we first met, I felt like I had finally met the man of my dreams. I have a 3 yr old from a previous relationship and he has two kids from a previous marriage. Anyway, my fiance and I haven't been getting along for the past month and now I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with him. He is allowing his insecurities and trust issues to cause problems in our relationship and I feel like he is trying to control me. I am one of the most trust worthy people you will meet, I'm not a cheater and I'm not a liar. The fact the he doesn't trust me when Ive given him no reason not to and has accused me a lying and having secrets makes me resent him. Now everything he does gets on my last nerve and I'm always lashing out at him. I don't know if this relationship can be fixed and I refuse to marry him just because I'm pregnant with his child. I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place because if I was not pregnant with his child I know I would have already ended the relationship. I don't want to get married and then end up being in an unhealthy and unhappy marriage especially when there are kids involved. I know things would only get worse if we were to get married. He keeps telling me that he's going to change, that he will show me that he can trust me and that he will stop treating me the way he's been treating me and that things will get better but as quick as he says it, he is back to his same ways. I definitely feel that I can relate to you and what you're going through.
• shy

  April 2011

  @expectingmy2nd yeah I know and it really sucks cause they don't understand how vulnurable and emotional we are during pregnancy filling our heads with lies and false stories is not cool right now
• TechGirlPa

  April 2011

  Whatever anyone decides I have to say that the kids deserve equal patenting time with both patents. We have a huge number of kids these days with psychological damage due to being taken from a parent, usually the father and its not right.
• shy

  April 2011

  @techgirlpa and that is true my kids have never been without me or they're father. Although I am not personally offended by what u wrote but you have to know and understands someones situation why the parents split in the first place. With out that information it is a judgemental comment. I highly doubt that parents are splitting to "intensionally" hurt they're children. For example if a fathr is beating on the mother hurtng her physically and emotionally and they split would u say " but its not right for the kids? Just an example have a happy preggoness