sexually assault by husband **update**

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  • I am glad you found the strength to leave him. Not only for your safety but for your kids as well. It maybe hard @ first but you r making the right choice. You continue to be strong and a great mother to your children.
  • I'm sorry but in the dating stage asking about run ins with the law should be standard ( be strait forward and ask have u ever been arrested"
  • You and your children will be in my prayers and hopefully you'll get the answers that you need from your hubby. He may have a problem and needs some rehab. If y'all are going to try and work things out he should definitely look into that!
  • That’s irrelevant to the current situation now @ bigdaddy….not really helpful. How do you know that wasnt asked? People do lie or mask the truth.
  • Congrats in being an incredible mother by taking yourself and your kids out of that mess. I am so so proud of you!!!!!
  • @jazzydD couldn't have said it better myself
  • omgosh. I know u asked for guys input n Im sorry I didn't c this thread. or ur last one cuz of all the chaos that was goin on in the forum. im sorry u went thru that. yes its definitely rape. even if its ur husband. im glad ur doin ok n u took some time to get some space. y would his dad lie. I think it possible he has that in his past. note: my gf wasnt into sex her first trimester. one time I was like. babe we haven't had sex in like a week she said she was just not in the mood. n if we did it she would kinda feel forced. I was like shit. im not gonna force my self on my baby like that. so I left it alone till she was good. any man who cant give his girl the space she need when she is goin thru something.( ie ur pregnancy.) isnt a real man in my opinion
  • im so sorry that your going thru this . ive flowed your story from the very beginning and have known what to say . i hope everything works out . your a wonderful person for leaving and getting away for a while . please keep is updated on the situation . im here if you ever need to talk . stay strong mama . :)
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  • I read ur last post as well and im sorry that this happens to you. In noway is it okay!! But I don't feel as tho you are a bad mother at least you realize what he did was not okay and removed you and your children from the situation. Best of luck and you will be in my prayers..
  • edited April 2011
    My comment was only based on the post . Here I Havnt seen the other thread....now ill look for it.
  • I'm sorry you went through all this. Personally when dating I always ran the guys name. Public records are online even if he won the case its still recorded. Again I'm so sorry I hope you get the help u need to get away from Jim and move forward with ur life!
  • I just got to go throughtje first post.....I am sorry you went through this... you don't need my sympathy, you both need help... he violated you he put his needs over yours when you love someone you don't do that. You both need counseling until you. Feel safe again he should be man enough to leave the house letting you and the kids stay there. Doing anything less is letting him get away with it
  • @bigdaddy I agree that definitely should be something you ask in the early stages of dating but.... people lie. Especially ones with something to hide. I doubt he would have admitted to it, especially since he wasn't convicted ya know?
  • ghettobaby...be carefull jazzybdy might tell you to shut up too ;)
  • I'm so sorry you are going through this. I didn't get the chance to comment on your last thread like I wanted to, but I was going to say this... the fact that your husband was able to hold you down, ignore your crying and pleas, and then finish, really showed a lack of self control and possibly a deeper mental issue because he was receiving pleasure from the rejection. I'm sad that you had to find out about his past after putting so much trust in him. The truth is, he may not have known then, with the other girl, nor with you that what he was doing was wrong because it is a mental issue that he hasn't had to face as as such. I'm proud of you for being strong enough to leave because he would have probably had immediate flash backs to his past and become angry with you for accusing him. This type of behavior is deep and he needs serious therapy. God is going to turn this around for you. Maybe He will use this to turn your husband around and show him the truth about his behavior...I pray for God's will to be done over your life, for you and your family to find wisdom and stength to get through this situation, and for your husband to get the help he needs and should have had many years ago! I'm here for you too...we all are!
  • @bigdaddy Nope I wouldn't tell her to shut up. It sounded like you were judging w/o reading the whole thing. And I do appreciate the advice u gave in ur 2nd post mmmk? :p
  • fathers need to teach their daughters the art of the"game" how boys think how to translate boys bs. to see through the facade we put up to get you vulernable....how not to fall prey
  • Jazz it may have been kind of rough to say... I hit on it on another post.... women want to see the good in us..we are by nature hunters.... a hunter is a predator. Man is very cunning when it comes to his prey. Not saying men are bad.. what I am saying is women have got to be able to sift through a guys bs..... guys are not complicated... but are simple and very good at what they do....
  • sometimes women put. more effort into planning dinner than the person the let into their hearts.......
  • edited April 2011
    Ps.... its great you went to your in-laws house because now you've set the tone for him to face what he did and it will be hard for him to sell them a line of shit saying your bugging or being hormonal. You have enlisted them in your corner
  • That is a shame I'm sorry and ill pray for u n ur kids....
    After hearing ur story and finding out tht he got off Scott free for his other child I think tht u shud say something ..... I'm just thinking about the other women who got raped......I'm so sorry tht u have tu experience this makes me question laying dwn with my Bf.... I remember he got so mad tht I wouldn't shower with him... my feelings we're hurt
  • @bigdaddy n worries here :) I have lots of man experience LOL only time I was dumb about men was when I wad 15/16 didn't know better. For the past 10 years my best friend is a Guy who tells me everything about how men work. I probably know too much. I will be informing mY daughters and son but unfortunately love is blind. You should also be more understanding of the women's prospective. We want to be lived and wanted by a man and as u know its all to easy to get caught up and put the blinders on. It happens to the best of us women.
  • Nothing. Wrong with wanting to love and be loved.. just can't have the blinders on
  • i learn so much from u ladies here about preg... and how to be better..with that I try to give the ladies here a little window into how guys think and how they are driven
  • Blinders will always happen at least once in a lifetime. :) took me feels like forever to find a good Guy and I knew the guys I was dating were bad. My friend was telling me what they were doing, did, and going to do and he was mostly right. But still blinded by love or the thought of it. This will never leave the female brain.
  • Omg hun iv just read ur posts. Im so sorry for wat ur going thru. I cant even begin to imagine what ur going thru. Ur carrying dis mans child and he shud have the world of respect for u. I really hope ur getting d support u need. Try and stay strong for yourself and kids. I wish u all the best!
  • Um so what? Ur gonna leave. Him over that? Really? U should talk to him about it
  • I guess I'm a lil curious (if too much just say so...I take no offense) and am wondering if u confronted him about everything or what? I don't know what I would do if in the same situation...I hope and pray that everything works out for u and ur kids (w or wo him in ur life from now on). Way to stay strong.
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