I can't believe this a month ago I was the happiest man live. I just want her to miss me and right now she is just so happy with be alone with her friends
We were engaged while I was pregnant w our first...I told him I didn't want to and gave him my ring back multiple times...hormones r crazy and the fear of caring for another/someone growing inside u is enough wo trying to think about a relationship so it becomes easier to b distant. I'd say just stay supportive and let her know u care about her and the baby but don't try to push yourself on her. If u start to become clingy/obsessive she might start getting annoyed on top of things. Let her know ur there if she needs u and when she's ready she will come around. Unfortunately for u, the only thing I can suggest is to b patient (easier said than done ik). Good luck
Well I have don't the opposite. I have smoothered her to death to the point that she can't even stand me. So know I have just to back away but I ccant. Yesterday we went to the ultrasound and it broke my heart that after it was over we couldn't even talk. She stated last week that she if still in love with her x and regretts leaveing him everyday. She has not talk with time in a year and a half part of me wants to believe that she said it just so I would leave her alone. I am not proud of the fact but I have verififed she has not spoken with him in a year and a half. So yesterday I was at the ultrasound waitting for her and she asked me not to comeback till we did the us. Well I am tired of feeling like im push out of this so I just got up and went back. We got there and to say the least wshe was not happy. Her blood prusser was very high so I know I just need to stay away. She has not told her parnents yet and I hope thing will get better. When u said you didn't want to be with him did u sstill love him? Anyway please help because I am destoryed. Btw she is only 12 weeks.
what is her plan after the baby is born? does she plan on letting you be in the babies life? i think that the baby needs to be a bigger concern then either of your feelings to one another. hearts get broken but now there is a baby in the mix. I dont mean to sound cold or indifferent I am sorry for what you are going through, but I would just leave her alone, maybe just ask her where she stands with this baby because that is more important now. and you guys both need a clear understanding about this baby. good luck
Yes sheis going to let me be in the babys life. I don't she has a plan what she is going to do. Like I said she has moved back into her place and redone it. All she has said is she's going to stay for a year. Im giving her space and I know more then everything that there a baby go think about.im just trying to get my head together
It will get better you sound like a really great guy just give her space and be there for the baby as much as possible while she is pregnant and who knows she mite come around and realiize she is still in love with you after the baby is born goodluck to u and congrats on the baby and keep us posted have u asked her where things stand between the two of you
Dude here is the deal don't take it her behavior personal...all you can do is give her exactly what she asks for, pickled fried dog crap, hot cheetos, microwave jello. Even if its just some breathing room. You just want to hold her and do everything..you want to be the white knight. I get it...I'm the same with my wife. Do NOT PRESS her or smother her, that will put a wedge between you. Just make yourself available and jump when she asks
I know my pregnancy hormones make me ready not like my husband I swear with our first baby I seriously wanted to divorce him I know how crazy that sounds but its the truth but he hung in there and I love him even more for that and now im prego again and he mostly just stays in the yard working he knows I get a little butts and its best to stay out of my way and say ye dear ... but hear is the deal no matter what happens y'all have made a beautiful little. Live so now your stuck with each other even if you choose not to be together do all you can for her cause its your job lol
Totally make yourself available, she will need it at some point and try not to hold a grudge even if you guys dont work out you will meet someone fantastic and maybe the two of you can be good friends atleast for the baby's sake. I grew up in a broken home and My parents concern wasnt us kids sometimes, sometimes it was how can we get back at each other and it makes it very unpleasent I dont want you to have to deal with that. Maybe you guys can have like a ross and rachel thing off friends and be great friends with a baby. good luck and I do hope she comes around.
with my 1st pregnancy, i remember sometimes throwing up when my finance tried to touch me! It made him feel bad & I told him that it wasn't him but he didn't believe me. I also went through a period where I didn't want to b with him. It made us both change, so many different emotions & feelings. Hang in there, I'm sorry you have to go through this. You sound like a really good guy, & I wish u the best.
Thank you for all the advise. I just feel so helpless. The thing is I can't stand this anymore I just want to be with her and watch our baby grow together. How can I get over wanting that
So answer her calls and keeping just being there when and only when she asks its that like saying im good with. Being friend. Cause im really not. I just don't want to be there hoping things are going to work out and three month later she say I already told u I don't feel it for you.I mean don't get me wrong im there for the baby and her if she needs something but I just am not ok with being friends. Is that being selfish?
i don't mean to be a downer, but are u sure the baby is urs? its unfair , she is treating u this way for no reason at all, sounds like its going to be hard but u need to move on baby or not, ur just going to keep hurting ur self, and she's just going to keep rejecting you, ... its fun but sometimes when a women see's u have moved on they want u back......weird i know but its a win , win , u move on u'll heal . good luck
I know how u feel I'm having a similar problem but with my husband. I don't know what I've done wrong I know it's different since hes a guy but he makes me feel the same way. I honestly hope she comes to her senses cuz u sound like an awesome guy what girl wouldnt want to be with you.
I was hoping to come across your post with a different outcome, I'm so sorry things r not going better 4 you. I know you don't want to but I think every one on here is right, you should move on only this time find someone who is not as selfish & blind as she is. I can't believe that she cannot see what a perfect catch you are! Good luck
Wow thank you so much. Before you guy think im so great I did smoother her and want answers that I did not get. We are on speacking terms so that's good but it is so bitter sweet when I talk with her. I guess I need no to focus on us right now it just hard to think off anything but. As of now we are still sleeping together I know it wrong and im letting her use me but when we are like that I don't hurt so much. I know we need to stop but I don't really want to be with anyone else right now you know and I do have needs.
So the last couple days I have seen and talked to her. She seems to be calling and texting more but it's more like friends. She still wants to be friends with benefits. I not sure why? I am starting to accept that we are not together but its really hard at times. I think I will always want more but I can't make her want me
U say she's been living with u for 6 months? But kept her own apt? Why? It seems she needs that back up for some reason. It can be hormonal but I think u 2 need to sit down & have a looonnngg chat. If that doesn't work, suggest a therapist to discuss the pregnancy, hormones & both of your feelings. If she continues acting funny let her be, give her room but continue to be there for her & let her know your there for her too. In the end if things are still funny bizz with her. Get a paternity test. It can't hurt to have it on record in case a custody battle ensues. I ultimately wish its only her pregnancy making her act like that & that it'll blow over & you2 stay happy w/ new baby. If not please do what u gotta do.
Yes have been to the doc three times with her. We had our first altrasound. And according. To ultrasound due date we spent 5days off together duening conseption date. Plus I have investagated alot and there is no other person in her life.
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