Do any of u ask permission to ur husbands or bf.....

rachdbrachdb
edited May 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
Before u do things? Like before I spend money or buy something I always ask him. And I ask him if I can go out with my friends. He always says yes to going out and says y r u asking me if u can go out just go if u want. But idk he's the one working and supporting me so I feel like its respectful for me to ask permission to do things not like he's my parent but more like my partner. How do u guys feel about asking permission??
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  • SamiUKSamiUK
    i normally do hes like stop asking me!!! not about buying stuff tho cos i have my own money but about going out mainly ask him cos hes the one whos gotta come pick me up cos i live about an hour away from my family and mates with him
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    I don't ask permission but I do let my husband know what I'm doing or if I plan to spend a significant amount of money. I think that's respectful. For me, I'm a grown woman so I'm not going to ask him if I can do something because I really don't care if he says yes or no. I'm going to do it anyway.
  • SurpriseBabySurpriseBaby
    I ask permission mostly if it's something I could do without...we share money and he asks me before he buys stuff. Not in a parental kind of way, like you said...but out of respect.
  • mom60511mom60511
    I discuss money if it's over $50. Going out if it would be something that I can't bring the kids along. I think it is just respectful I expect the same from him.
  • Rissalee7Rissalee7
    If it has anything to do with money I ask my bf im not working so its not only up to me how its spent he gets really upset if I ask for permission to buy like not necessary foods ie chocolate steak shrimp
  • mommy3mommy3
    I'm just like you.. I do that too! He's the one paying for everything & supporting me so I always ask.. and its never a parent type thing either. & it keeps us on the same page financially & he's never said this, but I think he likes the fact I respect him enough to ask.. like he feels special (: haha but once I finish school & start working, ill probably still ask before I do things, out of respect & all..
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  • OctMommyOctMommy
    I tell him if I'm going out...and if I spend money...I just tell him after. He normally asks me for permission if he can go somewhere!
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  • soon2b3soon2b3
    I ask when spending $$$ BC I'm not working and he is and we rstruggling
  • rachdbrachdb
    Ok its reassuring to see others do similar bc of his reaction when I ask lol
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  • Beautiful_AltarBeautiful_Altar
    My husband is the one that works but we see it as both of our money. We always talk to eachother before we spend. It's never an issue.
  • rachdbrachdb
    @angieahrens what part of ny r u moving to?
    @angelinaandme lol
  • mrs_shumrs_shu
    @mom60511 us too! Before getting married we did this whole course of questions and situations regarding everything and for money we came up with anything over 50 we check with the other
  • Mommie_McAteeMommie_McAtee
    I just inform. well I use to. Now we just say see you later because he lies about where he's going and I don't feel he should know where I'm going. And I'm so glad I'm able to work. I never ask to spend because it's mine. But if I were in your shoes I would ask about the money too
  • ashley_smashleyashley_smashley
    I dont ask for permission but like other women on here, we do let each other know if we plan on spending more than $200 on something.
  • HBmammaHBmamma
    I asked him if I could get a $6 book last night lol. I tend to ask not sure why I just do lucky for me the answer is usually always yes for almost everything. He'll ask me in certain stuff to that's just how we do it :)
  • rachdbrachdb
    @mommie_mcAtee that sucks I'm sorry :(
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    I only ask when im about to spend a lot of money like clothes shopping or getting my hair done. We both work but he will ask too. It just helps us factor it into our budget
  • mscheylamscheyla
    I think asking when spending a big amount is respectful. My fiancee makes over half of our income I got past asking but I feel guilty spending a lot of money
  • CarrieLeeCarrieLee
    I ask permission even when I was the one making more money. I expect him to ask too. I think it shows respect for each other. It's also a way to make sure someone isn't going to do something that will upset the other person.
  • chrissy07chrissy07
    I would feel like a child your grown so what he works my fiance works I don't ask because how as you going to feel when he tells you no..your going to be a mommy you can't be the child to I've been in a abusive relationship and the things that seem like respect now will come back to haunt you later I'm not saying that you shouldn't talk about things but him giving you permission isn't good you have to think for yourself good luck and I hope things go better for you
  • musicmommamusicmomma
    I do because he does the budget.
  • married1sttimemommarried1sttimemom
    I don't ask if I can go out, I let him know my plans in advance, but just out of respect. Money wise.. I am not a financial guru type person and we share all our money, therefore, I always ask before I spend. I don't want to over withdraw from our account if he had just paid bills and I didn't know, etc. He never says no, unless what I "want" is going to conflict with bills we are paying. If it is something I need, which is usually clothes lately, he doesn't say no just mves money around between our accounts. If I don't ask cause I forget of if it's last minute type of thing I have cause some issues with bills. oops!! (we don't use credit cards unless 100% necessary, baby furniture, new tv, etc.)
  • rachdbrachdb
    @chrissy07 things r great for me if it gets any better I'd be spoiled rotten and im almost there lol I just do it out of respect. Even though he says what's his is mine I just feel like I should. He's far from controling and lets me make my own decisions and tells me I should make my own decisions and I do I just want and appreciate his input.
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    My man works a great job full time which will allow me so be a SAHM but I always ask him first before spending money and he asks me also. It's just out of respect for each other, not about one of us being in control or whatever.
  • rachdbrachdb
    @aandk1013 exactly! Mine owns his company so we have a lil freedom with spending but I don't ever want to over step any bounties even though there really aren't any. And when I go out I have to spend money so its like the same thing
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    Yeah exactly! I mean I don't ask if I can buy a cheeseburger or anything but something substantial like clothes, shopping, etc I just like to run it by him. He works really hard for that money and I just like to be respectful. :)
  • rachdbrachdb
    @aandk1031 that's exactly how I feel :)
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