Shoving and pushing you is still domestic violence.... It doesn't have to be open handed hitting or a punch to be abuse. I think you need to take some time apart and determine if this relationship is worth working on. More importantly, is it worth exposing your child to? I hope things work out for the best.
I'm new to pregly so I don't know u. However my 1st bd pushed me when I was prego with our 1st son. I was scared an went right back with him. We were together for 7 yrs prior to that incident. Less than a yr later he pushed me with our son in my arms. He also hit the wall twice next to my head. He went to jail for this. I took him back again. We had our 2nd son 2 years later. We were fighting over him being secretive on his phone. Needless to say I left him after 10 years of being together cuz he was a cheating abusive bastard! I have a very good husband now an am much better off without the drama an so r my boys. Be careful girl some guys r good @ manipulating women. Think about ur baby an what's best for his/her life! Good luck
I was in an abusive relationship for 4 yrs. Wat he did right there was try to get you to lay a hand on him so he had a reason to do it back and get this reaction... That you hit him first. Especially when it starts because then once he does it again ppl r less likely to believe you or are gona assume you hit him first.
Be a single mother or get beat that's your choice. I never understood how two people in "love" could physically harm one another. You don't get along obviously its time to grow up and move on
True but this wasn't an impulse on his part, he staged it. That's how it starts, little things. So that she thinks exactly that, it was only a slap. N little by little it becomes more and more and before you realize it, its a full out beating. Ask him to get help, if he denies he has a problem, blames you instead or agrees but doesn't follow thru.. get out before its too late.
I was raised never to put my hands on a woman...my gf has slapped me b4 (for being a stupid man of course) I got angry but never violent. It was very wrong for him to hit you, but at the same time you shouldn't have hit him either but that gives him no right to hit you.
I was brought up around all boys and was taught if ur man enough to swing on a man ur man enough for the reprocussions. I have a son and I'm not raising him to hit women but if a woman puts herself in a mans shoes she needs to be hit back. I have a daughter on the way and just because she's a girl that doesnt give her a free pass to hit a man and expect not to be hit back. Sorry but thats double standard and it dont fly with me
I agree with the men here. The guys I know have been taught NEVER to hit a woman under any circumstances. I would not be with someone who doesn't have enough self control to stop himself from hitting a woman. All that said life is easier when you don't antagonize someone but try to see their point of view instead. If I were in your shoes I would apologize for hitting him.
None of us were there. Only witnesses to me gettin beat were my young children. But that doesn't mean it didn't happen. That's why I'm saying, if it was just that the situation got out of control then they should both seek help so it doesn't happen again, if he doesn't think he did anything wrong, it will happen again. My ex always apologized but blamed it on me. @k_baBix0 look up the guidelines of an abusive relationships and if a lot seem to go with your situation, get help before its too late.
Sorry to the ladies who don't agree....but what he did was wrong.......but he should have more respect for the woman carrying his child....he even pushed her down....what if something had happend to the baby....I know I never could've lived with my self......and for thos who say that if u hit a man u deserve to get hit back.....I'm sorry but that is wrong whatever happend to us guys showing restraint and giving respect to these wonderful women in our lives
So I sometimes smack my bf upside the head and he did it to me now with me being prego he is nervous even putting pressure on my back when I ask him too
@cethetidge I'm pretty sure the advice she would be getting if he hit her first would be to have him arrested.. so, I'm just curious how they would feel if he had her arrested instead. Such a double standard.
Actually it dnt matter that she slapped him first cuz she walked away and he followed her and pushed her. Even in this situation he would have been arrested.
I believe some couples bring the worse out in each other,and if u hit him first,u cant expect him to sit there and do nothing,otherwise u will do it everytime u get angry.saying that though wen a man hits a women its rare she will hit bk. I think u should get out while u can hun,coz if he can punch u wen ur pregnant in ur fragile state,then trust me he aint gonna hesitate wen ur not pregnant. Trust me,u will regret it if u dont,and after all u dont mess ur bbys heqd up coz u two r messed up wif each otha xx gud luck,u will need it of u stay!!!!!
I never said she was right for hitting him....in fact said she shouldn't .however he should've have shown more restraint....if the police were involved they both would've been arrested....idk just my opinion
i was taught you put yourself in a man's shoes, expect to be treated like a man... DOESN'T MAKE IT RIGHT! PLEASE DONT' GET IT TWISTED... but it is what it is... the whole a man is stronger than a woman is b.s. too... we spit out 9lb babies and men cry at the first sign of a cold... violence is violence.. no matter the gender.. if the relationship is bad enough to put your hands on one another, well i think its time to bounce...
Just my opinion a man is a man and ur carrying his child he can take that smack and suck it up men kill me with she hit me first if he will return smack I can guarantee at some point he will smack or hit first...its all in a man's belief and most feel its not ok to hit a woman no matter what!!
I'm sorry but I would have to agree with @babynumbersix. If your woman enough to stand up to a man then your woman enough to take what you get. That's what my mama taught me. Either way they are both in the wrong. She put her hands on him first and he prevoked the situation. They are both wrong and could both go to jail. I would say if your tempers are that bad right now then maybe you guys should take a break from eachother and figure out what steps you need to take to either make the relationship work or visitation rights. Best of luck
@momof5 if you have read her other comments, she didn't step up to him, she walked away from the situation and he continued to follow her and he laid his hands on her first when he pushed her.
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