@mikeandronadopt & @blueberrysmom do it! Lol hubby could be a minor cast member as just yesterday missed getting splat by Seagull poo by literally one step. Had he not paused to look at the jerseys at the hoop game he most certainly could have been in the opening lol
you know that i am cheering for you guys. my husbands fam has adopted 2 beautiful children (both his sister and his brother) bc of his mother's job that she has recently had to leave due to health... she was the one who came in to families homes before dss would take children away, and she would try to give them resources and tools for better parenting. endless times she would end up bringing the children food or clothes bc the homes and stories were so bad. she wouldn't sit bc roaches would crawl up her legs. she saw many families who shouldn't have had children and i know that that breaks so many of our hearts, us who are trying to adopt and conceive. Well anyways, my sister in law didnt think she could have children and just like with my other sister in law who has lost 2 full term baby girls... a child "fell" into their "laps" at just the right time. after so much heart ache and waiting... and i know that it will happen for you too! IT WILL! and i can't imagine how hard it is, but your strength is inspiring and i look forward to the day you get your miracle.
i will talk to my mother in law and let her know if your story. she doesn't place children, nor do they usually adopt out... it just happened to fall in to place, and i will certainly let her know i have a couple of wonderful parents looking for their puzzle piece!! ;;)
Its a shame that some people can be so conservative. Same sex relationship doesn't mean bad parents their are so many oppoite sex relationships that are not good parents. I'm a child of a same sex relationship and also I'm biracial and its taught me to be open minded and not discriminate which are two great things for kids to grow up with. I wish you guys all the luck and stay positive and not to give up hope.
Im sorry to hear that you all are having a tough time. You seem like a wonderful couple who would raise a fabulous child im not sure where u are from but my friend is working with a private adoption agency. Their time frame is 4 months for a new born. They are located somewhere in PA. If u are near by I can ask her for the number and/or website for the agency and maybe u all can check it out. They have the shortest wait list that I have ever heard of. Best of luck
Have you or your adoption agency checked with your states child protective services? I'm not sure exactly how it works my sil had her daughter taken from her in the hospital (drugs) anyway lost all rights and the baby was adopted. I hope you get your little one soon. I wish you the best of luck.
@gatorbob .. the only way we could adopt an older child through the agency would be if we brought a mom who wanted to place her child for adoption (say if we found her ourself). The Agency doesnt actively look for older children. They also do not work with DYFS (child services here).
Right now we've been waiting 20 months. We're going to give it a full 2 years (4 more months) and if there is nothing even remotely in the works we're probably going to sign up for classes through DYFS to become licensed foster / adopt parents through the state and maybe just see what kindof situations they might have a available. It is rare in this state that a young child goes into the system, it's usually teens, which as first time parents and being 31&32 still dont think is a good idea but we're trying to keep an open mind.
We appreciate everyones input and take everyones opinions and suggestions into consideration. A jab was made at me on another post about asking for advice and not taking it. Not every single suggestion that is given to us is going to be doable or feel right for us. I hope people keep that in mind.
I'm sorry that it happened again. I know so many people right now who are desperately trying to start families and are having no luck. It breaks my heart to see so much love with nowhere to go. Maybe a short break after your 4 months would be a good idea to get your spirits back up? My sister was a foster parent for years-it is a tough job. I was her babysitter while she worked and it was tough for me, too. It's definitely worthwhile, but it can also be heartbreaking.
That really sucks that ya'll have to go through this. I'll be sending ya'll lots of baby adoption dust. Could ya'll adopt from different states? Or rather are ya'll willing? Ones that aren't surrounding. Maybe if that's an option get your adoption agency to look into other states.
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i will talk to my mother in law and let her know if your story. she doesn't place children, nor do they usually adopt out... it just happened to fall in to place, and i will certainly let her know i have a couple of wonderful parents looking for their puzzle piece!! ;;)
Right now we've been waiting 20 months. We're going to give it a full 2 years (4 more months) and if there is nothing even remotely in the works we're probably going to sign up for classes through DYFS to become licensed foster / adopt parents through the state and maybe just see what kindof situations they might have a available. It is rare in this state that a young child goes into the system, it's usually teens, which as first time parents and being 31&32 still dont think is a good idea but we're trying to keep an open mind.
We appreciate everyones input and take everyones opinions and suggestions into consideration. A jab was made at me on another post about asking for advice and not taking it. Not every single suggestion that is given to us is going to be doable or feel right for us. I hope people keep that in mind.