Looking for other co-sleeping moms

vette_devilvette_devil
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
Hi, ladies! I am a huge supporter of safe co-sleeping & hoping to find other moms or moms to be who are, too. I've done months of research on it & truly feel its the best start for a baby when done correctly & carefully. We co-slept with our first daughter & she is almost 3 now & very mentally advanced & perfectly healthy... she also sleeps happily in her own room now (the "princess castle" :) ). I don't have many supporters of our decision, so it would be nice to hear from other like-minded moms on here...

Also, if there are any moms or moms to be who are just interested in it, I highly recommend the book 'Good Night!' By Dr. Jay Gordon & Dr. Sears' website for excellent & positive information on co-sleeping. Good luck!
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  • 4senough4senough
    I am also a happy co-sleeping mom. All of our kids slept safely with us during infancy. Now 7, 5, and 2. Plan on co-sleeping with the next one, due in june. Makes nursing so much easier in those early months. All of my kids had no trouble transitioning to their own beds, but transition was started at 4 months of age and completed by 1 year of age. I know moms who keep baby in bed longer, though.
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    So nice to hear!!! =) We kept ours in bed longer, honestly mostly because it was over winter & the thermostat in her room was not super accurate... she hated footy-pajamas & being swaddled so we were terrified of her being too cold!
  • kkmommykkmommy
    Me too! My daughter is 2 now and sometimes still wants to sleep with me and I have no problem with it, except when she starts kicking the bump, lol. It helped a lot during breasfeeding and for my own piece of mind that she was okay through the night. I may or may not with my son when he arrives but I am a strong supporter...
  • 4senough4senough
    My 2 yr old still wants to lay in bed with mommy when she's ill or for naps, I like it cause sometimes I get to have a little nap too!
  • Kriss82001Kriss82001
    I wish I could have with my first pregnancy, but with twins it was a little difficult, and they really only wanted each other for awhile. Thinking about doing it this time around since there is only one. My bf is a huge supporter of it.
  • 4senough4senough
    There is alot of support for co-sleeping on the internet, and you can buy products that help to make it safe for baby, its a wonderful experience.
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    So nice to hear, ladies!!! My best friend is totally against it, as well as my MIL (even talking bad about me for doing it behind my back- ugh), so I really had a hard time at first with my girl... all I had was my mom, who has dimentia now & my husband to support me. I just kept doing research & trusting my heart... and I am so glad I did; @kkmommy - an old friend of mine said she'd co-slept with her son, but not her daughter & said her bond was always much stronger w/ the boy. She said if she could go back & co-sleep with the girl, she would have in a heartbeat... hope that helps! I am even more excited about this baby because I have no reservations about it now! :)
  • kkmommykkmommy
    @vette_devil thank you, I really want too, just considering having him next to me in bassinet but I don't want to have any regrets so I probably will. And I am sorry about your MIL and ppl who don't support your decisions, I have issues with my family on parenting as well, but I believe in myself and that's all that matters, I know I'm a great mom and I'm sure you are too...
  • 4senough4senough
    I used a bassinet right next to the bed. Sometimes when baby is sleeping well, its nice to have a little extra wiggle room in bed.
  • Boho_ChicBoho_Chic
    When I had premie twins, it was so much easier with night time feedings. They had to be fed every three hours. Also I had a co sleeper right next to bed to put them in once they fell asleep. Plus the babygirl was born without hearing so her cries were so low I would not have been able to hear them in another room. They are healthy five year olds now, and sleep in a room together. They are each others security blanket.
  • LillieBugLillieBug
    Mine went from sleeping in our bed at night to her own crib easily. We used to take naps together in bed when she got a little older. Now she's one and I think im the only one that misses her being in bed....but mostly because she usually slept longer that way lol. The one on the way will be staying in our room until she starts sleeping thru most of the night most bc I don't want her waking up her big sister who will only be 14 mo old. I am open to the idea of her sleeping in bed with us but if she is comfortable sleeping alone that's fine too. Don't try and make a happy baby happier
  • Momma2joeMomma2joe
    I am a co sleeping mom as well. It does make nursing much easier! Plus my sons dr highly recommended it. We moved him to his own bed at 15 months when he stopped nursing. Granted we had to get the help of a sleep specialist because I refuse to let my son cry it out!!! But he adjusted extremely quick and is doing great at 18 months old. We will do the same with this baby as well.
  • snowflakesnowflake
    I have done it with all 4 of my daughters and i will do the same with this one.my 16 month old still sleeps with me now
  • jcmommyjcmommy
    edited February 2011
    With my first son, I tried to let him sleep in his own crib which was in our room but the every 2hr feeding then trying to put him to sleep was driving me nuts, so I gave in (he slept longer in between feeding ) and let him sleep til 6 months later I had switched him to his own room. I gave him a bedtime and he did so well with it but I felt so bad cause his room wad so cold. So, back in our bed he goes. I don't mind. They are only babies for a little while. He stayed in our bed til 3 yrs and now sleeps in his own bed, in his own room at a bed time. I don't think I can go past 3/4. Mommy and daddy time gets way to awkward. LOL.
  • MSCMSC
    My youngest daughter didn't even own a crib. Both of my kids sleep with me until they were about five years old. They are now 13 and 8 and both are well adjusted normal and crazy at times kids! lol It's all good!!!
  • bummy87bummy87
    We co slept with our 2 for 12 months each na well most likelydo it again th's time i2s just so much easier with night feeds
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    I am so glad to hear this! I was beginning to feel like I was the only one on the planet who felt this way & refuses to force her kids to cry it out... my best friend actually told me she thinks babies have to 'learn' to sleep (isn't everyone born with that ability?!?) And that crying it out is "good" for them... I don't remember EVER feeling better after crying myself to sleep!!! Lol...
    WAY TO GO CO-SLEEPING MOMMIES!! YOU ROCK!! :D
  • Momma2joeMomma2joe
    My sons sleep specialist did say that babies have to learn to sleep but was very supportive of co sleeping. My son was waking up a lot during the night and I wanted to stop nursing him at 15 months because we are due in may with baby # 4. He adjusted very well and never cried more than 10 minutes and that was only the first 2 nights. He's 18 months now and has been sleeping through the night since day 3 of sleeping in his own bed. I'm very happy they didn't insist on letting him cry it out. His dr said that's what I needed to do but I refuse to put my son in bed until I know he's tired enough to fall right to sleep. We just has to change his bedtime routine and daddy had to be the one to put him to bed!!
  • jodi102011jodi102011
    I wasn't going to do it but now listening you guys maybe I will. However I am worried I will roll over my baby.
  • keylo050keylo050
    What is co sleeping neva jeard of ot is it safe??
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    @mama2joe : I agree that they need to learn how to fall asleep & stay asleep in a pattern, but who better to teach them that than their own parents? I guess what I meant to say was that I just didn't agree with my friend when she said that crying it out was the only way they learn it! My daughter will be 3 in May & she has never cried it out once & has a perfectly normal sleep cycle. Good for you for not letting that Dr tell you that! :)
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    @jodi102011 : My husband was terrified he would, too... we got something called an "in-between sleeper" for when our daughter was very little; it attaches to the head of your bed & has little walls with safe mesh side panels that prevent you from rolling on the baby. Ours even had a built-in nightlight right at the top.
    @keylo50 : co-sleeping is having your baby sleep in bed with you or immediately next to you in a bedside sleeper instead of in their own room, and yes, there are steps you can take to make it even safer than a crib.

    I highly recommend both of you take a look at the resources I listed at the beginning of this post for your information; good luck, whatever you chose! :D Being a mom is amazing!
  • jodi102011jodi102011
    Thanks!
  • Landynplus1mommaLandynplus1momma
    Did any of you have problems with your children waking up alot at night even when co sleeping..and if yes did this make for a harder transition to there own rooms my 15month old sleeps with me but still wont sleep through the night just wondering if neone else had this trouble?
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    @Landynplus1momma... actually, it was kind of the opposite for me; our daughter never slept more than 10-15 minutes in a crib by herself, but as soon as we started co-sleeping she was sleeping 6 hours straight at 4-6 weeks old- it felt sooo good! I was feeling like a zombie living on 2 hours of sleep & all of a sudden I felt human again! By 6 or 7 months she was sleeping completely through the night & only woke during the night when she was sick. She never colicked & I attribute that completely to the co-sleeping. I know every baby is different; ours was a very touchy sleeper & woke even just from the dog scratching until we co-slept. She also seemed to wake more at growth spurts... hope that helps!
  • new_mommanew_momma
    Sorry I'm new to all this. Does this just mean letting Your baby sleep with you?
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    @new_momma, yes, or in a bedside co-sleeper.
  • magcawmagcaw
    I would have happily co-slept, but my babies didn't like to sleep with me. :( they wouldn't even sleep ON me, just on their dad. It really sucked...but now they like me better, haha. They both started in their cribs the night we came home from the hospital and were sleeping through the night by 6 weeks, and they never 'cried it out' either. I was never in a position to need to decide what was the best way to get them to self-soothe, but I think letting them cry would have been a last resort. My sister co-slept with my nephew, and by default I did as well (I watched him every weekend overnight until he was 5), and he had no trouble moving into his own room. He was terrible to sleep with tho, all he did was kick me, lol. :) We're in a different house with this baby, and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle sleeping arrangements, especially since I don't think my husband is fond of the idea of the baby being in our room. I guess I'll figure it out when s/he arrives. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this one is as ridiculously easy as my sons.
  • vette_devilvette_devil
    @magcaw : I have nothing negative to say about you not co-sleeping if that is what your boys wanted!! Every baby is different & some really do want their own space. Who knows? Maybe I'll have one of those ridiclously easy boys this time around & have to re-learn everything I know about being a mom, lol ;)... good luck with your new baby!!!
  • rockinmommarockinmomma
    Im getting a close n cozy pack n play that lines up with the side of the bed. That's the best I can do. I can not sleep with anyone or anything being too close in bed with me. I can't even cuddle with my dog lol. If I could sleep with her in the bed with me I totally would but I know myself too well, and I don't want my nights being any less sleepless than they already will be.
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