I just have to ask...

pnsw524pnsw524
edited August 2011 in Pregnant
And by no means am I trying to offend anyone, this is my 2nd child and he wasnt planned like my 1st one was!

I see a lot of people on here that are not married or are not in a good place with there so. My question is did you plan your pregnancy, did you get pregnant on bc or what happened?

I just couldnt picture getting pregnant and not having an amazing husband or even being married. I was married with 1 chd and I had a heart attack when I got pregnant with my iud.

I just wanted to know why, if you did chooce to get pregnant with out being married, did you choose that path.
Also if you got pregnant on accident how did you take it when you 1st found out and wash at bc were you on?

I am not trying to judge and im not one to believe you should get married just because your are pregnant or have a child with someone. Anyway just wondering!!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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  • momof22bemomof22be
    We planned and tried for 7 years we r not in the best place possible in our relationship or otherwise but we do love eachother and our children
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  • cosenswifecosenswife
    I was on YAZ and in Iraq when i got pregnant with my first. I was shocked/scared and wanted to cry. But luckily i got pregnant by a wonderful man and we have been together for 4 years and married for 3 and a half years. Our second was unplanned as well. I was waiting to start my period to get back on BC I gave in and had sex with my husband, told him to be careful not to cum inside...well because it had been so long he was quick and didnt tell me and didn't want me to know so he came inside me...10 weeks postpartum..needless to say i was pregnant again. We are now on #3 and he was very much planned.
  • azmomazmom
    I was on the patch with. My first son I was not married then and obviously not planning on it
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    My first was conceived on birthcontrol and I didn't believe it. We got married while I was pregnant. Four years later my second was conceived. She wasn't planned exactly but we wernt preventing it. Almost eight years later, my husband and I separated because we got married just because I was pregnant and it just didn't work. I'm now pregnant with my third with another man. She wasn't planned either but wasn't prevented. Now I have two girls by one man and pregnant by another man. It's hard but I'm dealing.
  • feb2012mommyfeb2012mommy
    My husband and i thought i was pregant in february after being on the pill and af was 3 weeks late but we had already planned our wedding date for june 5 2011 so we started trying. We got pregnant my birthday weekend may 28 didn't find out till 5 days after we got married. So i guess you can say it was planned.
  • jay_bradjay_brad
    Well the thing is when you're a "party girl" & with someone you have been with since grammar school. You tend to live more in the moment than you do long term consequences. I'm not saying I regret my son. Because I do not. I'm not in a bad place with my so he is an awesome Guy. We just wasn't being as precautious as we should have been.. it's kind of like thinking *oh it wont happen to us* but it did. My situation isn't a bad situation what so ever I've been with my man for going on 7years and he is mu best friend. It happened earlier than we expected but we are more than happy to have completed our family.
  • cute_pebblescute_pebbles
    no im 18 and my pregnancy was def not planned. i mean i dnt regret it. i have a stable job and my childs father is the best , i love it . and i wish my baby comes on ! lol but i dnt have any more babies coming soon after my little girl i can tell you that !
  • myHEARTZx3myHEARTZx3
    Me n my bf are expecting baby #3 and yes she was planned. Marriage is just not that important to me. We live life as if we are married but we are not. We will be one day...lol
  • kidmankidman
    I'm 38 weeks pregnant with a boy. And we planned for this pregnancy. We have Been married a year in October. But I must say I can't imagine having kids without a great support system of my husband and family. Being a single mom must be the hardest thing. Good luck to all you ladies.
  • bigmamakbigmamak
    I do not believe you have to be married to have children. I have been with my "husband" for 8 years and this is our 4th child together. We have a better relationship than most married ppl I know. We eventually will get married but its not a priority for either of us. We live as if we are married and call each other husband and wife. I even use his last name for a lot of things
  • namelessnameless
    well my first wasn't planned..I wasn't married and i was 20 when i had him..this one was not planned..and i am married..Im 25.
    I was engaged to my husband and weeks later found out i pregnant we didn't get married till he was 2..
    being married to him and not married made no difference besides the insurance..
  • rckprincess2rckprincess2
    Def a great big surprise. We weren't preventing but she def wasn't planned. He's not supposed to have kids. Our plan was to adopt or choose a sperm donor in 2 years or at least once we buy a home for ourselves instead of renting...Well I guess our lives had other plans lol. Def do NOT regret it though.
  • momof5momof5
    My ex husband and I were together for 5 years and never used anything before I got pregnant. Which was a surprise. We were planning our wedding right after I had my son and 6 months later I had a surprise 2nd baby on the way. 5 years later we planned our 3rd child. Then I got divorced and ment my husband now. We planned my 4th child (his first) after that we were done having kids. I went back on birth control and ended up having a blood clot in my lung so had to go off of birth control. We were talking about him getting fixed and was going to make the appt when we found out I was pregnant with my 5th son. Now I'm fixed and hating every minute of it cause I have always dreamed of having 6 kids. I come from a family of 8 of us kids. So that's my story. Lovin my kids more than life and lovin my amazing husband (even tho he can be a jerk. Lol)
  • Nikkmb3Nikkmb3
    Mine was not planned. The bd and I were friends that hooked up occasionally. I was on the nuvaring and had been for years with no scares or worries. I'm 21 until this weekend. I was shocked when I found out, I never planned on being a mom, just the favorite aunt. He was ok with it in the beginning but now he refuses to have any contact with me and has recently, two weeks ago, pulled the "I'm not the father" card. I love my pregnancy and my son, just not the drama with the bd and his family.
  • due_in_julydue_in_july
    Married to my husband and very much planned
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  • momma_ericamomma_erica
    I'm 33 w preg & she was conceived on bc, nuva ring. We are not married but live together & our relationship is great. I have a son that's 9 & me & his father married for wrong reasons & was divorced yr later! I want to marry my current man one day he is great but I want to marry him when its right for us. We were being responsible adults taking precautions & it still happend so we feel like it was ment to be for us to have this baby together
  • armywife0529armywife0529
    We've been together for 7 years and married for 4. Every now and then we would go through periods where we would try to get pregnant. I got pregnant last year and didn't know until I was over 2 months along. I ended up miscarrying and we decided to try again at the end of the year and I'm now 35 weeks along with a little girl! Unfortunately my husband found out he was getting deployed right after we found out I was pregnant. The timing could definitely have been better, but we're both excited.
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  • loveourlittleoneloveourlittleone
    Before getting pregnant my relationship with my bf was great. Once I got pregnant it all changed. I was not on birth control at the time and this baby was not planned. I was scared but very excited when I found out. But I am able to take care of myself and my son (due in October ) with or without my bf. Even though I am with him now living together and we have bills together I could leave if I wanted to, and have seriously considered it because of his actions.
  • DawnwaarsBabyDawnwaarsBaby
    Me and my hubby planned our prego, been together 6, married 4. Im 20 days to dd. Sometimes, things happen and it doesnt work out.
  • mandac10mandac10
    My daughter wasn't planned. Her asshole dad and I where high school sweet hearts... my son... I was raped at a party and peed positive. Im married now and my husband has raised my son and looking to adopt him. We are also 30 weeks pregnant with another boy the we planned. After many MC we feel blessed to have our guy on the way. My son also has a 5 year old from a nuts baby mama after a one night stand. She pulled the getting pregnant because she's crazy and obsessed with my husband....
  • PumpkinCupcake0307PumpkinCupcake0307
    We arent married and I had my son in may. He wasnt on accident but he wasnt planned. If we got pregnant then we would be happy to have a baby. We are now engaged.
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  • emyemy
    Im married and was told I most likely couldn't have anymore kids after my first. So this is a miracle baby.
  • Math_MommyMath_Mommy
    Bf/bd and I are unmarried. Both kids planned. I personally think marriage is an outdated ritual. I believe that it speaks volumes about our relationship that ever day we CHOOSE to be together because WE ENJOY EACH OTHER, NOT BECAUSE SOME PIECE OF PAPER SAYS WE HAVE TO DIVIDE OUR ASSETS IF WE WANT TO SEPARATE.
  • Math_MommyMath_Mommy
    Plus, with the divorce rate so high, I've stopped attending weddings! (Send me an invitation to your divorce party...we'll dance and get drunk then...)
  • trixiesmom8trixiesmom8
    My fiance and I have been together for 4 years, we got engaged in Dec, found out we were pregnant on st pattys day. We act like we are married and nothing will change when we do but insurance and my last name, so we are in no rush and focusing on our child rather than ourselves.
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