I'm 20 I was on the pill and I was told since I was little that I wouldn't be able to have kids and I was only with the dad for 3 months when I became prego so although this baby was not planned and the circumstances with the father could've been better I never considered getting "rid" of it in anyway it may be my only chance at ever having a baby and I can guarantee you I wouldnt be here right now if it wasn't for my baby girl she couldnt have came at a more perfect time
All of mine were "accidents"... lol. But I love my accidents more than anything. I got preggy with my first at 16.. obviously I was careless... got married at 17 to babby daddy.. and my 2nd at 20.. husband did it on purpose.. 3rd was busted condom, 4th was on the patch, 5th was on the pill and 6th was faulty mirena.. it was cock-eyed and buried in my uterine wall... no joke. I told my dr I was scared to get my tubes tied because my luck I would have an ectopic pregnancy and my tube would explode and kill me and she said no worries, she will be REMOVING my tubes so 0% chance of getting pregnant again... WOOHOO!! at the same time its bittersweet because I loves being pregnant... and I loves kids more than adults! We get along waayyy better..
Maybe its because ive always been the big $ earner of the family (i have the fancy degree and make more$$$ working a few hrs/week from home than he does at his ftj). I dont NEED to be married to feel financially secure like many women do...
my first pregnancy wasn't planned. I was 19 and naive, I thought the pull out method would work cuz my bf at the time said he'd always done that and never had any scares before. Well I got pregnant but misccarried at 12 weeks. This baby wasn't necessarily planned either. Hubby and I got married in October and went on bc a month before I got married (we didn't have premarital sex) and turned out I was allergic to it. Tried a few different ones...even the low dose one and my stomach blew up and was constantly having abdominal pain so I went off of it and didn't think I would get pregnant right away...most people I know didn't get pregnant for a couple months after going off it. But I didn't like condoms so I guess we weren't really preventing it. But we are happy as can be about having our first child in November
Damn... is THAT why women get married these days? Because were broke without fancy degrees? Lol.. well shit. Looks like I married my (2nd) husband for the WRONG reasons... and here I thought we were in love... X_X
Im not married because of money. but we are engaged. We planned our gorgeous baby girl because... i got pregnant on the combined pill. unfortunately i mc at 9weeks. i was so devastated!! We moved out when i was 19weeks pregnant with Lily as we wanted a stable home for our baby. we have been engaged since 28th of December 2008. but i lost my job so we couldn't save for wedding anymore. Lily takes up a lot of time and money (wouldn't have it any other way) which means we can only save minimal amounts of money each month for emergencies. Lily comes first and always will. so that's my story
ummm....not to be rude, but @math_mommy no one on here is bashing couples just living together. I don't know what your issue is with being married but get over it. I do not NEED to be married to be secure in any way!! I married my husband because I love him! And I WANT to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't need a piece of paper to tell me to be with him. We got married cuz we wanted to show in front of our friends and family how much we love eachother and wanted them to enjoy our moment with us. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean you can come on here and start naming all your reasons why you think women get married and how horrible of an idea it is. If you dont' like marriage that's fine, no one on here is telling you or anyone else that they need to get married. thanks.
@gatorbob I didnt mean to imply that anyone here specifically did marry for security...it happens though. The when the op said she couldnt imagine not being married (if even to a less-than-amazing man), the condecension made my blood boil a bit. Honestly, being pregnant and trapped in a bad marriage would be far worse than being single and pregnant!
First was not planned. I was on bc (pill) but we deducted it down to missing or taking at different times. Was married when she was 5mths old. This little man was planned-but-not-planned. Docs took me off of depo due to concerns of loss of fertility. We decided if it happens it happens... 1 year off shot, 1 'mini' period, and pregnant. Due now in Oct...
Me n bd weren't married when I got pregnant with my 1st but she was as I call it a planned accident I love her to death but we was together for two years talked about family and marriage and how it was going to go and I told him that I wanted kids he said so did ur so I stopped taking birth control it was decided that when we get married we wanted our children to be the flower girl or ring bearer and well things started going down hill and we decided to stop I was late by two weeks went took a test and I was pregnant 9 weeks at that and we had decided to stop about a month before I found out so planned conceived when we wanted a baby and found out when we didn't....... Baby #2 was a accident got preggo of depo go figure I cried and was frustrated and then fell in love with her little lips at my 33 week ultra sound so I feel all better now
Me & hubby were NOT married with the first pregnancy miscarried in Oct of 09 2 months later we got married in Dec of 09' first pregnancy was NOT planned but this one was now we have less then 8 weeks to meet our son!
There is a few of you that im going to replay to but let me start with @math_mommy... I guess you miss understood what i was saying. My husband and i have an amazing relationship, he is my best friend and the idea of going through pregnancy and having a child without him is a scary thought! As far as saying or being married at all i in no way meant being in an unhappy marriage, what i meant was even if my hubby wasnt as amazing as he is the idea of getting pregnant on accident and a man just being able to up and leave and having no support must be a scarier thing...
The fact that i made your blood boil is a little over dramatic imo.. I in no way shape or form got married for financial support or to be in a safe financial place and thats not what i meant when it came to being married.. When your married things are different, you have a commitment to one another and are suppose to be there for each other.. I dont believe you should be in a marriage if you are unhappy or if you aren't treated right..
The divorce rate is so high because people dont stand by their commitments and have issues between themselves. If you and your so are so perfect for each other and feel its not important to you to get married then thats your choice! But if that was the case then why be so against it? Getting married doesnt doom a relationship, getting married for the wrong reasons does.
Married or not, at least in fl, if you are living together for 7 or more years you still have to divide assets. SO no paper need to make you do that anyway... A wedding and marriage is suppose to be about celebrating the love 2 people share. Im not sure why you are so sour toward the idea, old fashioned or not..
All 3 of our kids are surprises- as we call them. We love them to death. Our first I was on b.c. and we were not married. We got married when I was 16 wks prego. I breastfed her for 7 1/2 months and was also on the mini pill, and when she was 9 months old we found out I Was 3 months pregnant. I got put on a different b.c. and then we had a scare- i saw my doc and she found out i am immune to b.c. so we used condoms for 4 1/2 years. well i saw a new doc and she said she knows the PERFECT b.c. for me to be on in my situation..... 3 months later i was pregnant again. we are done after this (God willing) and are waiting about a year and then getting hubby snipped.
I had my first at 18. He was very much planned (stupidly) but I wouldn't have changed a thing given the opportunity. His dad and I split up before he was two and I was single for a bit. And then my hubby and I started dating (we were good friends) he always treated my son like he was his and even tried to be civil with and respectful of my ex (who is an ass). My husband began fully supporting my son and I and when my son turned five we found out we were gonna have out daughter (due in three days) she wasn't planned but we didn't use protection and I used to pray that if we were ready God would give us our baby girl, on His time. We live in a decent apartment, we have one car, and our babies are provided for... not exactly in the best place in our lives for another baby, but she is a blessing just like all babies are!! I couldn't have asked for more!
Why get pregnant without being married? Not to be rude but who are u to think everyone believes in marriage? Or to imply it is the "correct way" things should be done? I myself wouldnt mind getting married but I also feel no wrong in getting pregnant without a freaken piece of paper that really means NOTHING. It doesnt prove love. I don't understand how u can ask such a question.
My girl was semi-planned. I had gotten pregnant on accident in april2010 and miscarried may4th 2010. We were both very sad about our loss and began having sex unprotected right away. We decided if it was meant for us to have a child I would get pregnant. Sure enough I found out I was pregnant 3 months later! And exactly one year after my miscarriage...may 4th 2011 Cailey jayde was born we plan on getting married and having more kids. We aren't married basically because of financial reasons. But my bf is amazing and takes care of his girls!!! Couldn't ask for better
This pregnancy was deff not planned. I'm 19 and just graduated and I was only dating my ex for a month before I got pregnant and I found out I was preggo after we broke up. We were just stupid and not doing anything to prevent it cause the though oh it will never happen to me. But I don't regret my pregnancy more just when and who it was with cause I can't stand my bd at all. But I'm gonna love my baby girl no matter what. And the whole marrige thing if you love your so then you should be with them but for me I would never be with my bum ass bd for any reason cause I would rather be a single mother then hate my life everyday being with him haha
Me and my hubby got married a year ago when I was 18 (our anniversary is Saturday and we might get a 3d ultrasound!!)! He's in the air force and I've known him for about 2 to 3 years. But I just knew he was the one for me. Our baby was a surprise gift! We pulled out for over a year.. but finally got on birth control.. a month later, I'm preggo! Lol I'm 19 and I'm due jan 1st and couldn't be happier!
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Sorry if I offended anyone w/ my rant.
Baby #2 was a accident got preggo of depo go figure I cried and was frustrated and then fell in love with her little lips at my 33 week ultra sound so I feel all better now
The fact that i made your blood boil is a little over dramatic imo.. I in no way shape or form got married for financial support or to be in a safe financial place and thats not what i meant when it came to being married.. When your married things are different, you have a commitment to one another and are suppose to be there for each other.. I dont believe you should be in a marriage if you are unhappy or if you aren't treated right..
The divorce rate is so high because people dont stand by their commitments and have issues between themselves. If you and your so are so perfect for each other and feel its not important to you to get married then thats your choice! But if that was the case then why be so against it? Getting married doesnt doom a relationship, getting married for the wrong reasons does.
Married or not, at least in fl, if you are living together for 7 or more years you still have to divide assets. SO no paper need to make you do that anyway... A wedding and marriage is suppose to be about celebrating the love 2 people share. Im not sure why you are so sour toward the idea, old fashioned or not..