@mimii36 yes but atleast with marriage, maybe there would have been some "trying to make it work" definately would have had bigger consequences since he doesn't mind not seeing his boys daily anymore.
Personally, I wish to have the bd, myself and the little one to all have the same last name. I don't have anything against people who dont get married. After all I was engaed and planned to get married Aug. 3rd 2012 and we just found out im due Aug. 20th 2012! sooooo the wedding might be moved up a little lol...i don't belive people should get married just because they are having a child. if i wasnt alreay engaged i wouldn't of planned to get married because of the pregnancy. I guess it all depends on the situation and your personal belief's
I think it depends on what is right for you. My mother had me and my brother and was a single parent. We have different fathers. Not Saturday.g that every single parent struggles but she did. I knew when I was younger that I would get married and then raise a family. That was my plan and it happened. However, plans change! My husband and I dated for 7 years and started dating when we were 15&16. We both wanted to do it in that order. What you and your partner choose is what is best. A relationship is one wonderful and so is marriage. But without a doubt, they both are a lot of work to maintain!
@mommyof3girls I unfortunately didn't plan to have a child with a man who didn't believe in marriage but I did end up pregnant. It was a miracle baby as I was told I would never have children or carry full term. We have been together a year and a half and we have our problems but we are still committed and loyal to each other and our child.
@Junebuggbabies85 i wasnt calling anyone out, just stating my opinion. Its an open post for anyone to comment. It was simply MY opinion. Ive got nothing against anyone not getting married or anything like that. I have to un-wed sisters w kids and thats fine. Thats ones own choices in life. I believe ALL children r beautiful, precious, miracles!! I really didnt mean to offend u. One of my sisters who was a teen mom at 15, 16 and 18 (3kids) w a guy (who treats her like crap) who doesnt believe in marriage (which i think is his excuse to cheat on her) drives me nutz. Just live ur life. Dont deffend ur life to anyone because it is YOURS and u have control over it. Get married, dont get married.... Its all good as long as u r happy and treated like u should b.
@mommyof3girls I wasnt offended I was actually agreeing with you. I want to get married and was hoping I could change his mind to want to marry me the baby threw a, kink in the works
@Junebuggbabie85 babies will do that. if its always been a dream of urs to get married someday than dont give up on it. Maybe it will happen with time. Just dont sell urself short. if its important to u than make it known to him and then figure it out. Good luck w whatever u choose in life. For now, snuggle ur little blessing and enjoy.
@babyluv8 I just dont understand how marraige would have made a difference. They could hsve still chosen to work it out without being married. & even if they would have been married doesnt mean they would have worked it out. He was obviously no good if he cheated, left her, & doesnt care about seeing his son. Marraige wouldnt change that. He is who he is regardless. IMO
Who says a married man won't leave his wife for another woman? Ring or not, people will do what they want to do. Marriage is a relationship. What's different from a married relationship to one that isn't legally married? If you're both monogamous, love one another, are both providing then that's perfect. Id love to have a wedding and show off a ring one day, but I see our relationship for what it is, not its title.
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