Angel mommies w rainbow babies?
Tomorrow will be our 2 week angelversary and I can't get over it... I can't believe we lost her just as I entered my third trimester. At the end of this month I go home to now have a service for her instead of a baby shower.
I'm so afraid to try again when we're ready... But I want to be a mommy to an earth child to watch grow up. How do u find the strength to do so? Who has had healthy rainbow babies after a stillborn? Did u wait the 2 cycles or more?
I'd like to lose all my weight, work on tightening up again, & then see where we're at. But I miss my baby so much... Ugh!
I'm so afraid to try again when we're ready... But I want to be a mommy to an earth child to watch grow up. How do u find the strength to do so? Who has had healthy rainbow babies after a stillborn? Did u wait the 2 cycles or more?
I'd like to lose all my weight, work on tightening up again, & then see where we're at. But I miss my baby so much... Ugh!
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I ended up getting pregnant three months later. This last Wednesday, April 11, 2012 I gave birth to my rainbow girl, Anna Mae. I'm so in love, but I think about my boy still. I know he's with us and I can't help but think how special it is that she has her own little angel watching over her.
I do no 2 women who had stillborn baby girls around 36 weeks. One was in aug 07 and she had her rainbow boy either in fall 08 or early 09. The other one I know happened feb 11 & she is now expecting a baby boy in aug. When the time is right it'll happen! And your rainbow baby will be one lucky little girl/boy to have his/her big angel sister to watch over them!
Ita extremely hard I still cry just to think about it and I would say there is so many women who treat their children like crap and i can't have mine..
7.10.10 I conceived Jake tons of complications but he was fine
As you know I lost my recent angel baby 12.30.11 at 8wks three days
And preggo again I'm scared and i always thing what if what if its so hard you never really get over it..I'm glad that i waited a while between my first baby and Jake sometimes I even feel guilty to say I only have one child I feel like I should be saying I have three
Don't fall into depression...I was depressed for a long while I wouldn't eat sleep Hell I couldn't even cry tears anymore
Please stay strong jen.
Well I'm currently 16 wks due October 1 with our hopeful rainbow baby. I will be induced sometime in September due to my history. I'm very prayerful that this is meant to be and my husband and I have left it in God hands as we embark upon this emotional and scary journey.
We waited until January to ttc, actually December but ttc was unsuccessful in December. It is recommended to wait 6 months at least following a vaginal delivery and at first we had every intention of waiting, to let my body rest and heal physically and to grieve our son even longer. But we talked and we realized what we were missing is a child. All I want to be is a mom, my husband is ready to be a dad so despite what other's recommended we ttc'd 2 months later, got pregnant the third month. For us the desire to have a child far outweighs the risk/fear of losing another precious little one. That in my opinion is really the key in knowing when the time is right to ttc again. You aren't replacing Harlow, just simply giving her a sibling that she'd be proud of. ♥
Sorry for the super long response but these stories really tug at my heart strings. Loss due to stillbirth, neonatal loss, or pre-term labor is like no other. You've had months to bond with that child, feel movement and watch him/her grow, name him/her, prepare nursery,etc. only to leave a hospital with empty arms and it stings bad--very badly. Yell, scream, cry grieve however you need to. Just know that your heart will always grieve the loss of Harlow. There will come a time where you won't want to shut yourself off from the world and cry every single day. You will adjust to not having her in your life. It's hard but doable. These may not be the things you want to hear right now because neither did I, and I didn't believe any of it. Though your heart will never fully "heal", trying again is part of the healing process and it shows you are ready to move forward in your life. You'll never forget Harlow. She is forever apart of you. I understand and am available to talk when ever you want. I've had three types of loss and prior to my stillbirth I remember thinking this ectopic/chemical/miscarriage is the worst thing I'll ever have to face. Boy was I wrong, though those loses hurt too; with those I didn't lose a child I lost the idea/potential of a child. I was grieving what could have been.
You can comment me or send me a private message if you'd like to add me on Facebook. I'm an administrator to a secret group on there for angel mommies and it's a wonderful support system for angel mommies. We all help and support each other. There is so much love,inspiration,and hope in that group it's unreal. ♥
Also check out http://www.mollybears.com. They make weighted bears in memory of sleeping angels. The wait list is rather long and the request form only opens on the 30th of each month but for several women who have received their bears, it was more than worth the wait.
Will say a prayer for you tonight. ♥
We got our positive 1/22/12. So as I said about 3 months after delivering. I'm due 10/1/12 and would love the idea of having my rainbow on Maxwell's angelversary but I know that's out of the question. Since I'm high risk this time,they're not letting me go to 40 wks, let alone over due. But still thank God, I will no longer have empty arms when his angelversary rolls around. That is so special you delivered on your son's angelversary. Proof he's always with you and he'll never leave you alone. ♥ Just curious was 4/11/12 your due date this time or were you early/late?