@ArmahnisMommy Nobody said you couldn't laugh. But you seriously are a drama queen. I'm not even sure you understand what pity is... You're using it like we're crying over here and telling people to feel bad for us... Your laughing faces are just a ploy to start things. You act like you have split personalities... And for the record, you received "pity" from almost everyone here... I don't think anyone deserves to be talked AT by you. Yes, I said AT, and I mean it. I bet you just get bored and think "Hey, I was nice yesterday so I'll be a big jerkface today". Pretty much sums it up.
Don't worry, I wont stop to read your ill-prepared reply. I'm sure it will include a laughing face and some of your PMS symptoms will show their faces... Have a fantastical night.
@armahnismommy you ruin my night, please don't flatter yourself lol. And don't tell me what I can't handle. I simply said we must have different views on love...you know agreeing to disagree...you were the one who "couldn't handle others input".
I'm in this situation now in fact. My husband cheated on me more then once. I know he loves me. People can get lost and lose priorities. He doesn't know why he cheated. He wasn't attracted to her physically at all, and he said it wasn't even all that good. I don't even think he knows why he cheated to be honest. We were extremely sexually active...and not to boast, but I do things some (i said some) women don't even know how to do. I know ALL of the right spots on his body, how to touch, and when. She basically bent over and didn't move. He still went back and slept with her three more times though. He didn't have any feelings for her at all, in fact when I told him when I found out tht I was going to bash her head in...which was said out of anger lol...he looked at me and said "do what you have to do to want to be a family with me again" ...he didn't care one bit about her. Also saying a lot of other stuff I won't repeat lol. But nevertheless, I know he loves me. He always has, and I believe always will. I guess we'll figure out why he cheated in marriage counseling.
Yes, you can love someone and cheat. Happens all the time. Sex does not equate to love. Some people can give away that part of their body in a strictly physical way and still have that emotional love for their partner. Sex is our most primitive instinct. Some are better at controlling it than others.
@ArmahnisMommy Yes theres certain things that can lead people to cheat, but they should eather focus on working out their problems or leave eachother alone. Cheatings not gonna make anything better...it will only make things WORSE...
I just think people throw the word love around...they don't know what love is. I honestly can say until I had kids I really never knew what unconditional love was. My family was never loving so I never learned how it felt. I think ppeople also mistake loving someone and being in love.
Imo no you can not truly be in love with someone and cheat..I've been cheated in and I've cheated.my bd might have had love for me but he didn't really love me.I think its such a strong emotion that it just wouldn't let you go that far...but hey I also think everyone FEELS different that's why ppl will have diff opinions.what might be right for you might not work for the next
@JoshnEviesMum, @captivated I was reading my old discussions this morning, one of the questions I voiced when my husband cheated was "How could he cheat if he says he loves me?" I don't know what changed my mind, possibly my urge for revenge, because I KNOW I love him with every bit of me. Crazy how I could think so differently in just a year's time. I am old fashioned when it comes to sex... At least I used to be. But, I had a boyfriend.. :"> I did NOT love him.
IMO <--- I believe u can love somebody n cheat BUT I don't believe u can be in love with someone n cheat! How can a person look at you and have all this love and affection leave out the door n go lay pipe with God knows who??? I tell you how because at some point him/her said f*** you lol thats why when its all said n done i will use that same line! Cheating is the ultimate betrayal drunk, lonely, etc etc BS get u some standards slash morals and if it means nothing but sex uhhhh hello don't your mate have a penis/vagina! Uh... partner don't want to screw u then fix y'all problems so u can get sum a**! Of course to a cheater, cheating is nothing but I haven't heard a decent excuse for it!
PS since this post wasn't linked to anyone in particular I just gave my honest opinion....
I am totally NOT trying to cause drama but can some one explain the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? To me there is no difference...but maybe I am looking at it wrong... @hot2cold87 maybe?
@Ashley_smashley Kind of like, you love your children and parents, but your not IN love with them. With a spouse, you can still love them, or have love for them, but the passion is gone. So you don't feel IN love anymore.
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And No... True love is with you and your partner alone. If he's interested in other women but yet going back to you. He's just playing you.
I am old fashioned when it comes to sex... At least I used to be. But, I had a boyfriend.. :">
I did NOT love him.
PS since this post wasn't linked to anyone in particular I just gave my honest opinion....