He's deflecting his anger towards you.....be he's guilty!! You know you didn't cheat.....PERIOD!!! Stop the insanity look at the situation for what it is.......HE CHEATED ON YOU AND GAVE YOU AN STD WHILE YOUR PREGNANT. Now acknowleding that doesn't mean you "have" to run out the door this second.....be calm cool collected......don't bring it up to him again...but don't for even a second let him think you actually believe his LYING CHEATING ASS. You have bigger things to consider right now...1ST your health....2nd the health of that baby......3rd how your either going to live the rest of your life with someone who's lied and betrayed you or how your gonna move on with him......Just really look at the situationj for what it is.......because he's not going to be honest and therefore you can't trust him to be there to help you work thru this......(((((HUGS)))))))
And oh yeah lollol can't believe u tagged all of us like that. But I hope you guys are able to work things out somehow! ! Its ur husband. How old are u and him? Try writing him a letter letting him know what your gonna do since this can't be solved. If ur thinking about separation let him know!! U shouldn't stand for any lies!
@dreamaria i told him in order to make the marriage work we needed therapy He doesn't think so. I told him i was at least going to get some bc I'm too depressed and i can't live like this
@laura536 lol it seriously took me 2 hours bc I'm on my phone! I didn't realize there was so many of y'all! I'm making him get tested Wednesday bc we will b done with our meds then. I alsi want to continue to get tested regularly. If he doesn't like it oh well. If it can "pop up" once it can "pop up" again
@loveourlittleone so u get how i feel about not wanting to leave. There were things that kinda made me think but i never looked into it all that much bc i never thought he would do that. A week before i found out i was pregnant i caught him flirting with girls over text and he seemed real sorry. Then i found out i was pregnant and there was no more talking about it.
@aydonsmommy it would b much better if i just heard the truth. That's all i want.
@carley i used to cheat to. Really i had a problem with it. I didn't wanna b like that anymore and was 100% honest with my husband about my sexual past when we got together. I really opened up to him and told him things I've never told anyone else. So he understand s how capable i am of it but he shouldn't forget I've played the game and played it much much better than him. If it was me cheating he wouldn't have the slightest clue it was a std i was diagnosed with.
@yung_danz28 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Why did she tell you? Did she want to b with your man? I'm scared I'm gonna get a phone call or message on facebook with someone from his work telling the truth. And id much rather hear it from him.
@myowndisaster23 not a problem: ) that's my sister and brother in laws thing right now. That he is being extremely emotionally abusive and what if he does it to novalee?? I could never do that to her.
@valentinasmommy that's what i want right now A calm civil conversation. But its too much to ask. I'm gonna try again bc I'm talking to the doc about all the facts with him there on Tuesday and he can't tell the doc they r wrong
He will do it to her too, love. Once she is old enough to argue or not listen he will make her feel the same way you do. I know from experience and its harder than you know to see your baby scared of that... I'm not saying leave for good, but he needs therapy or meds cuz he may have a chemical imbalance. I'm really hoping he can get better so you can keep your family together. I'm here if you need to talk.
i wud tell his mother or some nosey family membsr...tht we have tric. but not to worry because we r both taking our meds n its not sexually transmitted it just popped up.....eventually he wud have tu explain or tell him u need some time alone....i no its hard cuz deep dwn u want tu believe him .....but a std is an std....my bf never admittedtu an affair he had after the girl told me n his cousin who had an affair wit her sister told me......men just lie
Wow, you are awesome at tagging! I'm so sorry he is not manning up and admitting. It sounds like he is cleaning the house and helping out because of guilt (unless he just cleans all the time). It is just so fishy!
@beardreams ...I'm suspecting similar of my man. Not contracted any stds while pregnant but, I made us both get checked wen we got together and I came back clear as I suspected I would because I'm always careful. He said his came back clear too.18months later I had an std. He claimed I must have had it and lay dormant. You mentioned an app that sends you copies of texts n emails... where do I get that/what's it called? I'm from UK. Is it still possible to do? I know he has text other women in the past and exchanged pictures etc :-( and he has started being quite protective over his phone again so...? Thanks
I have briefly read through this and first off I am so sorry you have to go through this. Ill keep my opinions to myself because you don't need another person saying what I would/ should do in this situation but I was once told god gave us two eyes two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen more watch more and talk less. You'll catch more if you sit back and watch and listen. Its hard not to freak out but secretly go through his phone emails whatever and pay attention to his actions.... good luck I hope he fesses up or you find the girl and she fesses up.
I read ur update after I posted my comment. I can't believe he's attacking u like that, but that's wat sum guys do wen their wrong, get extra hostile and flip the switch. But I will say this, do not b hard on yourself whenever his dirt comes to lite. Cuz after I found out is when I noticed all the signs. He slept with his phone, did overtime more and extra money wasn't accounted for, cocky attitude, new clothes, more frequent hair cuts, my clothes misplaced, slippers under the bed, goin to movies wit his "guy friends", super possessive attitude and insecure, and a whole lot of other signs. But I overlooked them but always kept em in the back of my mind. So when the broad called I already knew she was telling the truth. And yes she told me cuz she wanted him. He told her he was no longer wit me jus tolerated me cuz we were having a chick together. I guess she went thru his phone 1night and found out otherwise. But I pray everything gets worked out and he confesses. Cuz coming from someone else really feels like shit. Keep us posted cuz whatever decision you make we are all here for you. In my case I forgave him, so...
@jennys3rd im sorry to hear that. It was I believe "go sms pro" but I once after searching long enough through the market app on my phone Was able to find one or two that you just install on your phone and it sends you everything of his, text, pictures I think, phone calls all without his cell company charging him for it or putting it on his bill. Cant remember the names. But that search bar is super helpful. Put text to email and a whole bunch of things will pop up
@beardreams thanks so much. Will give it a try. Had a look for something similar but, there was a visible icon on his phone indicating that an app was running on his phone. Luckily, he didn't figure out what.
@Samantha wat u said was so true. It's easier said then done. Stating what u would do or wat she should do doesn't help cuz everyone's different. I always was surrounded by girlfriends wit cheating guys and always gave them my opinion and advice. But truth is you don't kno wat u gonna do until it happens to you. I stayed cuz I wanted our son to have a real family but I now realize that it can hinder a child more by yall staying together. So its definitely a tough decision. Deep down you kno the truth and if you decide to stay or leave then that's a decision that you have to make, not us. So take some time for serious decision makin cuz not only is it affecting your future but also ur child's future.
This is amazing. A year and a half ago the same thing happened to me, but slightly different. I was having problems with my bf at the time, my best friend helped me finally break up with him. Before which she had an abnormal pap smear and ended up being prescribed metronidazole. We break up, a few weeks later I'm like wtf is going on down there....I get swabbed, surprise, they give me the same prescription as my supposedly best friend had just been done with. My ex gets checked too and tries to tell me that I slept around and gave him something. Well too f-in funny, because I know for a fact who I slept with (him and him only!) Yet I wound up with the same shit my "best friend" had. Hmmmmmph.
And this is why [if you read my over-reacting discussion ] I'm TERRIFIED of being cheated on again.....it happened right under my nose for months probably and I had no idea.
Sorry just seen the tag n update. Anyways this is bad... id get away he'll do it again if u stay. He's treating like ur dumb n mean nothing. Stds Dont just spring Outta nowhere. He's hiding something and can't man up. Is that what u want to be with? Sounds like my daughters dad... looser im so much happier without him
My only concern is next time it could be aids he gives you. What good are you to your child when youre dying from aids? (sorry if that sounded mean..i dont mean it that way). This is your husband & I understand completely if you want to work it out...but if he cant even admit the truth then how can you even begin to work it out. You will just be accepting his lies basically. I just dont want to see anybody..especially a parent having to go through something like aids & you honesy never know if that could be next or not. If he cant even admit to cheating then how do you expecy him to not cheat again. Im really sorry youre going through this!
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He doesn't think so. I told him i was at least going to get some bc I'm too depressed and i can't live like this
@laura536 lol it seriously took me 2 hours bc I'm on my phone! I didn't realize there was so many of y'all! I'm making him get tested Wednesday bc we will b done with our meds then. I alsi want to continue to get tested regularly. If he doesn't like it oh well. If it can "pop up" once it can "pop up" again
@loveourlittleone so u get how i feel about not wanting to leave. There were things that kinda made me think but i never looked into it all that much bc i never thought he would do that. A week before i found out i was pregnant i caught him flirting with girls over text and he seemed real sorry. Then i found out i was pregnant and there was no more talking about it.
@aydonsmommy it would b much better if i just heard the truth. That's all i want.
@carley i used to cheat to. Really i had a problem with it. I didn't wanna b like that anymore and was 100% honest with my husband about my sexual past when we got together. I really opened up to him and told him things I've never told anyone else. So he understand s how capable i am of it but he shouldn't forget I've played the game and played it much much better than him. If it was me cheating he wouldn't have the slightest clue it was a std i was diagnosed with.
@yung_danz28 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Why did she tell you? Did she want to b with your man? I'm scared I'm gonna get a phone call or message on facebook with someone from his work telling the truth. And id much rather hear it from him.
@myowndisaster23 not a problem: ) that's my sister and brother in laws thing right now. That he is being extremely emotionally abusive and what if he does it to novalee?? I could never do that to her.
@valentinasmommy that's what i want right now
A calm civil conversation. But its too much to ask. I'm gonna try again bc I'm talking to the doc about all the facts with him there on Tuesday and he can't tell the doc they r wrong
And this is why [if you read my over-reacting discussion ] I'm TERRIFIED of being cheated on again.....it happened right under my nose for months probably and I had no idea.