I would not trust either of them. If they say they love you they would not act like that. I love my best friend and her husband and I tell them I both love them and me and her hubby joke around and tickle each other but only when my bff is around we all love and trust each other and if my bff waspreggers and cooking I would be in the kitchen helping not out slutting it up in front of her husband.
Your instincts are ALWAYS right! My husband has has 3 female friends I said made me uncomfortable. He said I was wrong each time and sure enough they have each come to him to confess their feelings. One of which he's been friends with since he was 8 and chose to tell him she loves him a month ago. Now my husbands best friend is a lesbian and I would never tell him he can't see her just cause she's a girl you have to have some trust just watch it because you have a feeling. oh and if you don't want a 3some make it clear up front!
I called him after he left and told him that it hurt my feelings that he didn't want to feel his own daughter and that he was showing my friend a lot of attention. He told me its cause isabella doesn't move when he puts his hand on my tummy. But she does..just not really hard kicks yet.
I still haven't confronted my friend about bending over infront of him talking about her ass and her boobs. Idk how to tell her without sounding offensive. Lol But if she does it again ill just tell her that it makes me uncomfortable. If she were doing the whole walking around in booty shorts and shit. I would have just told her its not okay. And if she keeps doing it after I tell her how I feel about it then I won't be inviting her over anymore. But I know if I say something she'll stop. Cause I doubt she does it on purpose. Maybe try the same with your friend? And if she continues then she doesn't need to be around you, your baby, or your man. Cause that's just wrong..
@pawgio Thank you. I will keep you posted. I woke up two hours later after I had gone to bed to him jerking off so I just turned over and ignored him ( I have this thing where I hate when he goes to bed after me since I prefer sex when I go to sleep. And he knows this..) I dont know if she was up still. When I went to sleep he was playing in our room on the laptop but its not hard to sneak out the door to the living room once im passed out.
@charlotteb Wow you are quite the lucky girl. I wish I had been able to hold on to my male friends like that. I unfortunately have always had the jokes and comments on my features from my male friends along with the nick names babe, hun, ect which I can easily see offending my bf so most of my connections have slowly been faded out over time.
@starrxoxo9 I have done so since. He doesnt seem to understand why I'm upset and depressed today.
@Mama_luvs_her_girls I dont judge you, I have actually in the past done that to one of my ex's with his best friends BF ( he was one of those metro guys that had tonnes of female friends, i hated it and he repeatedly cheated on me to the extent of giving me chlamidia once.) I had some of my male friends over that night and we all had a bunch of drinks. One of my male friends tried to make out with me on the balcony and later on eventually left ( we no longer speak anymore), and then my bf at the time went to bed and I all night had been on Alex's lap..one thing led to another. My ex never brought it up until later when my old roommate told him I had done that... So you see I can easily see how something could have been going on with all those small little things popping up. The perfect mask for it is to cover it up with her saying she isnt fond of him and him saying she annoys him. How would I ever uncover something going on at that rate right? Who knows. Maybe all my shady days of being single and horney have just forever jaded my view of things and everything was all in innocence?
@Junebuggbabie85 Thank you!! I thought maybe I was just old fashioned but when my friends are making something Im in the kitchen helping out! She did help with dinner when Zack and I were both cooking it, but I disappear somewhere and she is content to stay planted in the living room and find ways to interact with my bf, like signing onto his gamer profile which she knows he hates considering she has less skill and will take his gamer score down, That then leads to him asking for the controller and her refusing thus forcing him to try take it from her leading to touching and closeness. I know your bored but fuck I swear I have never done that with any of my friends BF's!
@octoberonly You are so true. I have always somewhat had my finger on the pulse so to say, I knew his ex had heard about our baby so what did she do, delete her old facebook with all her party and clubing/slutting days (the account we blocked after telling her to no longer contact us) and made a brand new account with pictures of her with a little toddler boy at the park, and some family pictures. Then as if that wasnt enough because she knew this one account wasnt blocked she sent him a message to see how he was, and congrats on the baby and if him and me were still together. Who does that?? We blocked and deleted you and changed his phone number!?!?! Most relationships start online these days - its because people get sucked in for who you are, and because we have been in a relationship so long that old spark, the excitement of learning all about someone and how they feel and what their body has in store for you and alll the good stuff is changed now. Youre familiar. Tempation is so much more now since were gaining rapid weight, get out of breath so fast, cant move much, whine and complain. The attraction feels like its waining and then you add single opposite sex friends...there can be nothing but problems. Thankfully we are moving to a new province and starting fresh where we know no one at all except for a few of my relatives. Maybe now we can get away from distractions and just focus on our family...
That's no good :-( you're laying right there and he still just beats ofi like sex before bed too I know how you feel. I used to wake up in the morning wanting sex and would get shot down and he would go beat off in the bathroom :-( it made me feel like crap. I really hope you get your answers!
@pawgio Wow! The nerve of some people! That would just devastate me to be rejected over the hand. Although it has started happening more and more. He claims that if I see him jerking it then its my cue to climb on. But sometimes he just says he is tired. You seem to be going through quite the rough patch with you man I have been reading, any bright spots in your life that are holding you together? Sometimes it helps to share the good along with the bad as few as the good may be...
@MyLittleBlessing That is so frustrating, I went through the very same thing. Even now that the kicks are stronger there is no excitement to rub my belly. I offer that to a stranger and people are ALL over my belly and so happy that I even thought to share the movements with them. They have no appreciation for what is their's. I couldnt imagine having my man check out another pregnant girl though! I mean really i can see them checking out the skinny chicks where they look like theyll fall over from their big chests, but when I have issues in the bedroom with my body image I think I would lose it if he did that to me. Seems like everything else but me would be good enough at that rate. I suffer depression so I'd possibly be taking things too far with that but I dont really know if your situation is quite like mine in that aspect. I just dont feel attractive to him and like I dont turn him on anymore. I know what you mean! How do you even bring up the subject with your friend without sounding like your overbearing and crazy? If you find a tactful way to discuss it with her, let me know, could be useful in the future not that i intend to endure any more episodes like that again in my house.
ugh I know, apparantly it's 'a different kind of orgasm' but still! I always got, I'm tired, I'm not in the mood, I had a long day at work, blah blah blah! I just keep reminding myself that my baby boy will be here soon and none of the bad things will matter anymore :-) you just have to stay positive, every time I feel like my world is ending I tell myself things could be worse and no matter how bad things are they always get better, they have to! You can't let the bs keep you down, there's always something to smile about like a sleepover with a girlfriend or watching a movie or playing with a puppy lol.
Yeah its hard. I also have depression issues and am seeing a counselour for it right now cause I refuse to take meds. But I too feel unattractive towards him. He used to get a hard on when we took showers together, and now he doesn't. So it makes me feel disgusted by him or something. He tells me otherwise..but I still don't believe him. Especially when he acts like he doesn't want to touch me. And yeah I'm glad you won't tolerate that anymore..if I saw my friends doing that I would grab a bitch by the hair! Lol. Seriously though, that's so uncalled for on both their parts.
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I still haven't confronted my friend about bending over infront of him talking about her ass and her boobs. Idk how to tell her without sounding offensive. Lol
But if she does it again ill just tell her that it makes me uncomfortable. If she were doing the whole walking around in booty shorts and shit. I would have just told her its not okay. And if she keeps doing it after I tell her how I feel about it then I won't be inviting her over anymore. But I know if I say something she'll stop. Cause I doubt she does it on purpose. Maybe try the same with your friend? And if she continues then she doesn't need to be around you, your baby, or your man. Cause that's just wrong..
@charlotteb Wow you are quite the lucky girl. I wish I had been able to hold on to my male friends like that. I unfortunately have always had the jokes and comments on my features from my male friends along with the nick names babe, hun, ect which I can easily see offending my bf so most of my connections have slowly been faded out over time.
@starrxoxo9 I have done so since. He doesnt seem to understand why I'm upset and depressed today.
@Mama_luvs_her_girls I dont judge you, I have actually in the past done that to one of my ex's with his best friends BF ( he was one of those metro guys that had tonnes of female friends, i hated it and he repeatedly cheated on me to the extent of giving me chlamidia once.) I had some of my male friends over that night and we all had a bunch of drinks. One of my male friends tried to make out with me on the balcony and later on eventually left ( we no longer speak anymore), and then my bf at the time went to bed and I all night had been on Alex's lap..one thing led to another. My ex never brought it up until later when my old roommate told him I had done that... So you see I can easily see how something could have been going on with all those small little things popping up. The perfect mask for it is to cover it up with her saying she isnt fond of him and him saying she annoys him. How would I ever uncover something going on at that rate right? Who knows. Maybe all my shady days of being single and horney have just forever jaded my view of things and everything was all in innocence?
@Junebuggbabie85 Thank you!! I thought maybe I was just old fashioned but when my friends are making something Im in the kitchen helping out! She did help with dinner when Zack and I were both cooking it, but I disappear somewhere and she is content to stay planted in the living room and find ways to interact with my bf, like signing onto his gamer profile which she knows he hates considering she has less skill and will take his gamer score down, That then leads to him asking for the controller and her refusing thus forcing him to try take it from her leading to touching and closeness. I know your bored but fuck I swear I have never done that with any of my friends BF's!
@octoberonly You are so true. I have always somewhat had my finger on the pulse so to say, I knew his ex had heard about our baby so what did she do, delete her old facebook with all her party and clubing/slutting days (the account we blocked after telling her to no longer contact us) and made a brand new account with pictures of her with a little toddler boy at the park, and some family pictures. Then as if that wasnt enough because she knew this one account wasnt blocked she sent him a message to see how he was, and congrats on the baby and if him and me were still together. Who does that?? We blocked and deleted you and changed his phone number!?!?! Most relationships start online these days - its because people get sucked in for who you are, and because we have been in a relationship so long that old spark, the excitement of learning all about someone and how they feel and what their body has in store for you and alll the good stuff is changed now. Youre familiar. Tempation is so much more now since were gaining rapid weight, get out of breath so fast, cant move much, whine and complain. The attraction feels like its waining and then you add single opposite sex friends...there can be nothing but problems. Thankfully we are moving to a new province and starting fresh where we know no one at all except for a few of my relatives. Maybe now we can get away from distractions and just focus on our family...
@MyLittleBlessing That is so frustrating, I went through the very same thing. Even now that the kicks are stronger there is no excitement to rub my belly. I offer that to a stranger and people are ALL over my belly and so happy that I even thought to share the movements with them. They have no appreciation for what is their's. I couldnt imagine having my man check out another pregnant girl though! I mean really i can see them checking out the skinny chicks where they look like theyll fall over from their big chests, but when I have issues in the bedroom with my body image I think I would lose it if he did that to me. Seems like everything else but me would be good enough at that rate. I suffer depression so I'd possibly be taking things too far with that but I dont really know if your situation is quite like mine in that aspect. I just dont feel attractive to him and like I dont turn him on anymore.
I know what you mean! How do you even bring up the subject with your friend without sounding like your overbearing and crazy? If you find a tactful way to discuss it with her, let me know, could be useful in the future not that i intend to endure any more episodes like that again in my house.