another baby?

Proudmomma

So out of no where today I started thinking that I want my 3rd child. My youngest is 8 months. I have chronic back problems and I'm almost 29. I prefer to have all the kids I'm going to have by time I'm 35. I really don't know if I should just stay on bc or get off and see what happens. I like my youngest to be the baby though. But with how bad the world is getting I feel if I wait a few years I might as well not have anymore. Anyone else going through this? I just need some friendly advice. Also having kids two years apart good? My kids are 11 years apart

Mimii36

My lo is only 2 months and I would love to have another SOON! But I.know waiting is best [-(

Bahamamama4828

I have 3 and my last 2 are exactly 2 yrs and 7 days apart lol all 3 Oct babies lol. My youngest is 2 1/2 months so I hope when she gets older it won't be like my sister and I who are 2 yrs apart and fought.
my hubby told me today he wants another and I said he was crazy lol but I think when my lo is closer to 1 I might consider it.

2ndtimearound

I think two years is perfect. I had my lo in sept and will probably start trying again in oct just after she turns 1.

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Proudmomma

Lol well I think I want 4 kids all together. So I guess it's up to my SO. I just don't want to regret having them so close together.

Jay_july1

I kno i want at least two more but i refuse to change two diapers at ones lol so i told myself and hubby that once jay is potty trained then we can have another lol

MamaLove

3 years is a good gap imo

RTMommy

Lmao damn @ArmahnisMommy tell it like it is huh? @Proudmomma if I conceive soon, my first and second will be almost 5 years apart. I think I'd want a 3rd within a year or so just to have 2 kids close together. The back pain is something I understand though. I have arthritis in mine, so the younger we are, the better I think. Your lo will be almost 2 when the next one comes, and that seems like a good age separation

Proudmomma

I don't mind diapers at all. I just want to be able to hold my youngest and give her all the attention I would if I didn't get pregnant. I think it will be one of those things where I won't know what to do till it happens and then won't be able to imagine life any other way:) maybe I will just be sloppy with my bc and see if it's meant.

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RTMommy

@ArmahnisMommy I know you weren't coming from a bad place. I was just like damn! Lol

Ever notice how when the world sucks, people have babies? Like with the great depression and baby boomers. Everything else seems to be a struggle--may as well bring some happiness in. Haha

littlenat86

I have rheumatoid arthritis and have just had my second. I have to come off all my medication 3 months before we even start ttc. My youngest is now 10 weeks and I'm debating about not going back on my permanent meds and after our wedding in June, trying for number 3. We would like at least 3 kids and this way I can get back on my medication after and won't have to plan on coming off it ever again. It's tough but you have to weigh up the pros and cons for you and your family (*)

BabyNumber3ontheway

I have 2 girls & a boy on the way ALL 2 years apart lol. My oldest is 4 & my other is 2 & now Im due in april. Its definitaly not that bad. They keep each other occupied & always have one another to play with

tinka1326

My son was 2yrs 3 months when my daughter was born and its great he absolutely adores his little sister and wants cuddles and kisses and trys to calm her when she cries and wants to help with everything. I say go for it!!!!

Proudmomma

Thank you ladies. I feel better about everything.

MommyLovesSparkle

Me and my sister are 11 years apart. We argue constantly.. oh joy.

sands3

Mine are 3 yrs apart. Perfect for me because my oldest is potty trained and he helps me a lot. Personally I'm glad I didn't have them any closer. My sis had hers just 1 yr apart and I see how much she struggles with them. Good luck to all you ladies who have babies so close together!

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My2Boys

Mine are exactly 3 years and 10 days apart. It had to be like that for us, it would have never worked for us having them close together. At the time we were both finishing college and getting married and hubby is in the army too and dealt with ankle surgeries. So for us 3 years is what it had to be and it has been great. Looking back now, although I know we could have never done it with them back to back, I wish they were closer. We would have struggled in MANY ways, but idk having a newborn and a 3 year old gets irritating just because I think it would be more fun, especially for them, to have a 2 year old and a 3 year old. You would be able to do more, and would be out of that "baby stage" a lot faster, sometimes I feel bad that I cant do as much as I want with the three year old when the baby is home too and it is just us. For example Logan (oldest) LOVES going sled riding now, but I cant send him outside by himself and I cant take Jaksyn out there because he is just too little. So I feel bad making Logan have to wait until daddy comes home all the time because I feel like it is not fair to him, where as if I had a newborn and a 1 year old they would both still be in the same routine for a while longer, or a 2 year old and a 3 year old and they would both be able to go outside in the snow. We are debating another right now, we both want them close together and would like to have them back to back if we are going to have another, but we are also planning to move when hubby gets a very good job, and he is looking for one out of state, so I dont want to bring a new baby into all of that. So I think we are just going to be done with two, but if he gets a job soon enough and we move and get settled we might have another.... only time will tell.

Proudmomma

@mommylovessparkle lol my sister and I are 13 years apart. We fight but not like We used to.


@my2boys awe I see your point. I think We are going to wait. Maybe when amirah is a year and half maybe entertain the thought. It's crazy It's like you need to have them back to back or far apart to make it perfect. With my oldest I have done it all so I can focus on the baby but I don't need to space the next kid 11 years lol