When I first found out I was pregnant I was planning on having an abortion with no one able to change my mind. I had scheduled an appt for my 10th week but my ins. didn't cover it so I was gonna use my aunts because all I needed was a birth certificate as I.d. and on the day of my appt she found one of her kids shredding the birth certificate she had ready and waiting on a table for me. I found this to be a sign. About a week later I looked up the actual procedure, side effects and pictures and was absolutely HORRIFIED at what actually happens. I would NEVER advise nor condone abortion UNLESS the situation is life threatening. I'm so glad I kept my baby boy!! 30 weeks strong!!
@angelsMami oh yes that sure was a sign and I'm with you on the abortion beliefs. I saw online how its done and that was that! the process mortified me
I was searching this forum for so long this morning to find out what you decided and I am soooooo happy you are keeping your baby. And I am exactly 5 weeks today too! Due nov 20? We should Def keep in touch!
If you want that baby, keep it. No one can make the decision for you. If he can't love his baby, then it prolly wont last with him anyways. Like everyone else has said, men come and go, but the unconditional love for an innocent baby lasts forever!
My best friend went through the same thing last year but she went through with it and she tells me all the time it was the biggest mistake of her life and it didn't change anything between them he is still a Dick to her even tho she had the abortion like he wanted. But my opinion since I've seen it personally is don't ever let a man come between you and your baby. Like everyone above has said men come and go.... I'm so sorry there are men out there who are jerks like that but you do what you want honey and forget about that irresponsible immature idiot hope I helped
I actually went thru the EXACT same thing. I left him alone for 3 weeks...the longest we've ever been apart and he thought about things twics I guess during this time. Then we sat down to have a talk and he told me he wanted to keep it.
ChocolateMonster I'm glad you had the cahones to talk to him and tell him how you feel keep This trait!! Hugs. You did great!! Everything will work out great!! Hugs to u and your bean
dont let a guy talk you into giving up the child that you love if he dont love you enough to support you and yalls child you shouldnt keep him around im sorry hun but guys come and go and that baby is going to be yours forever
I was in exactly the same position when we found out i was pregnant. He was going to leave because im going ahead. Im now 11 weeks and he has given up his flat and insists he going to be at every scan. He still against the whole baby idea but he is here supporting me now. So hopfully things will work out fine for you huni. Just give him a little time and im sure he will come round. And if not then he isnt the right guy. Thats what i keep telling myself, if he ups and leaves then he didnt love me as much as he says. Congrats on your baby and good luck :-)
@1Sttimepreggo me and my bf since that next day after we spoke... Well after I told him what I was going to do he said he just needed time to himself. Idk what to do I feel like he's turning his back on me and leaving me without saying he is. Smh. I'm so disappointed in him; who leaves their pregnant girlfriend that they claim to love. Idc if he does need time to himself I need somebody there for me. I guess I'm going to be a single mom after all.
@ChocolateMonster I've known so many women in the exact same situation. A real man would stand up and take responsibility for his actions. If you want the baby keep it, you don't need anybody to tell you what you need to do. He'll either come around or he won't and that's the reality. Just don't have the baby thinking it will keep him around because it won't. Just do what you want to do.
@blueangel@mommysierra@skyeblu me and my bf since that next day after we spoke... Well after I told him what I was going to do he said he just needed time to himself. And for me to just leave him be. Idk what to do I feel like he's turning his back on me and leaving me without saying he is. Smh. I'm so disappointed in him; who leaves their pregnant girlfriend that they claim to love. Idc if he does need time to himself I need somebody there for me. I guess I'm going to be a single mom after all. Yet and still im a proud expecting mother to be he can support me or turn his back either way this is going to be here. Well lord willing this baby will be here.
@beautifulone I hear you. I'm having this baby for me because I don't believe in abortion. I wasn't expecting nor trying to get pregnant (I was on b.c) it just happened anyway. Now that I'm pregnant I'm ok with it and stepping up. So idk why he can't.. I guess he wasn't the man I thought he was. Either way my baby will be born into a loving family even if that doesn't include his/her father.
@chocolatemonster I am glad you made up your mind and stuck to it. You are already thinking I'm "mommy mode" so I'm sure you are making the best decision. I was 18 and my BD gave me the same choice, I am pro life so my DAD told him to kick rocks. (: I now am married to a man who loves my boy like his own and his real dad has minimal interaction with my son. All your baby needs is you and If he doesn't step up in the end, someone down the line will. I hope everything works out for the three of you.
@beautifulOne...I completely understand how you felt. I also didn't know if he was leaving me then he completely surprised me...but it took almost a month for him to think about things and realize he wanted to be with me and keep our baby. just give it time hun, men get scared.
Ladies he called me today and the first words out his mouth were hows the mother of my child doing and we went from there... All is well right now but I'm still taking it day by day just in case he freezes up again. I think he's just scared because this is both of our firsts baby. I'm just not going to pressure him so he doesn't feel overwhelmed again.
See hun, sometimes it takes men a little longer to take things in. You have to admit it is a scary thing to know your life is going to change forever. Glad things worked out for you, just take it easy and slow.
Good good good ! Happy to hear do yourself a favor like you said also... take it day by day. I know many of us have gotten a little ahead of ourselves and been disappointed in the long run. as for him.... if he starts acting reluctant, cold shouldered or hostile... please try not to take it personal. He will have his days just as you will have yours a good one to remember if you don't already know..
"A woman becomes a mother when she is pregnant, a man becomes a father when he first sees his child"
Follow ur heart a man that loves u will stand beside u and go thro everything wit u a baby is a blessing from god and I hope u choose ur baby over a man because n the end if he really loved u he would be happy and not leave u because u r having his child. Well all I can say is follow ur heart and do what's best for u congrads on the baby and just no ur baby will love u more than anyman will ever love u. Congrad girl again.
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Congrats on your baby and good luck :-)
"A woman becomes a mother when she is pregnant, a man becomes a father when he first sees his child"