Trying to get some opinions on cheating and see what people actually consider as cheating...either I have the wrong views on this topic or some people just don't care who they hurt! HELP ME!!
Im glad im not the only one who sees that way! Lol my husband as let "talking" get out of hand with at least 7 different people and sees nothing wrong with it!! I've had enough and im tired of listening to excuses! I should have kicked him to the curb the first time I found out!
@ashleyfew I agree with you. My hubby started talking to his old girlfriend online at first it was innocent, then it turned VERY not innocent! It was a big issue with us for a long time, we had only been married about a year when that happened, we have been married for 6 now and it took a long time for me to trust him again.
I totally feel you here my boyfriend was talking to his ex since they were together for 4 years,but felt he had to lie about it since I have a huge problem with her cause she tried to cause trouble between us a few times.I found out when I seen a number constantly texted and asked who the person was since none of the actual texts were still in his phone he says its a guy named duane so I call the number and a girl answers I ask who it is and low and behold its his ex.needless to say I don't play that and went to confront him at work more lies so I keyed his mustang.to add to the drama I found he had wrote a fb message to another girl he porked a while ago saying hey babe how's ur day going.I asked him if this is what you want why did we plan our life and baby together if you wanted to do this.he said he felt bad and was sorry and has been working on it but my trust is gone.and to top it off he didn't even tell his ex I was preggo she says we are just friends and she talked to him about problems with her current relationship I said that's not ok and she needs to find someone else to confide in.
I have lost all trust for him...but he is getting professional help now! @mikeyt6969 he has no problem talking to me but the he was treated by his family when he was growing up has caused some issues with him so there is really nothing I can do to help the situation...
I think the very thing of even talkibg to another girl and flirting with or back at her is cheating. If they have the nerve to flirt then they will have the nerve to cheat. If your having problems make sure you keep a good eye in your man.
@kritten_octoberbby very true! I really hope him finally getting will make things better...we just found out we are having another baby a few weeks ago and I really want to be able to enjoy it and have a happy family when it gets here!
@owllison we just found out a few mins ago its a boy and we are still here. I feel he is still giving me the cold shoulder..idk whats gonna change if he will...i hope seeing his boy will make it better...
@kritten_octoberbby congrats on the boy!! Hope things get better for y'all...I think the only thing that is going to straighten mine out is if we have a boy this time!
I agree with a lot of the ladies, I think anything you wouldn't want your significant other doing. Its not just physical cheating its emotional cheating too. Flirting or daily texts and stuff like that, that's someone actually trying to get to know someone cause they are intrested....it would hurt just as much as them sleeping together.
@twinmamatobe that's what I try to explain to him! He doesn't see how he has done anything wrong or why I make it a big deal! I have done WAY too much for him to keep being done like this! He always thinks he has outsmarted me and thinks he is covering his tracks but he is terrible at it so I always find out! I really do think things could get even more serious if I didn't catch everything so early
@owllison I tell my husband all the time don't f*ck up becaise I will ALWAYS find out and I have believe that.....they need to think while they are doing certain things like "would I like it if she did what I'm about to do?"
@pregoagainyay exactly!! He always says he does it with out even thinking! I call bs! You can't "not think" about it being wrong if you think about needing to cover it up!!
@pregoagainYAY and @owllison I am married now, but before I met my husband I had been dating someone for about 3 years long distance (well we just lived a few hrs from each other) anywho I found out he had a "friend" he had met when we were broken up for a few months I had met some one too, he told me he didn't want me to talk to my friend and I said ok I feel mutual. I find out he was still talking to her and he went with her to a baseball game. So I called him and told him that I had gone to a movie with that guy it didn't mean anything and it was just friendly he was irrate, and when he stopped yelling I said, no I actually didn't but now you know how I feel!! And when he tried to say they just text or emails I had to remind him besides our visits that was all that we had, were texts and emails. We tried again nothing changed and I was able to walk away cause I knew I tried to make us work but things weren't going to change.... I truly hope everything works out for you ladies and you find the strength to get past the stress for yourself and your babies whatever that may be.
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Its not just physical cheating its emotional cheating too.
Flirting or daily texts and stuff like that, that's someone actually trying to get to know someone cause they are intrested....it would hurt just as much as them sleeping together.
I am married now, but before I met my husband I had been dating someone for about 3 years long distance (well we just lived a few hrs from each other) anywho I found out he had a "friend" he had met when we were broken up for a few months I had met some one too, he told me he didn't want me to talk to my friend and I said ok I feel mutual. I find out he was still talking to her and he went with her to a baseball game. So I called him and told him that I had gone to a movie with that guy it didn't mean anything and it was just friendly he was irrate, and when he stopped yelling I said, no I actually didn't but now you know how I feel!! And when he tried to say they just text or emails I had to remind him besides our visits that was all that we had, were texts and emails. We tried again nothing changed and I was able to walk away cause I knew I tried to make us work but things weren't going to change....
I truly hope everything works out for you ladies and you find the strength to get past the stress for yourself and your babies whatever that may be.