16 year olds are old enough to make their own decisions honestly...and ratting them out would only cause more of a rebellion in my eyes cause that is how I was.. its not using protection is the problem. I would at least have a conversation with your brother and say you know he is old enough to make his own decisions..but maybe he doesnt understand the terrors of NOT using protection. and if that is the case he needs to be educated.
I would talk to both at the same time ans after our talk I would tell him that he has a certain amount of time to tell ur parents what happened and if he doesn't do it u will. He is old enough tu take that huge step then he can b old enough to man up to it
I was a teen who was having sex young and when my mom found out(about a month after I started having sex) it was the best thing that ever happened. Maybe because I a girl and having my mom to talk to was best, but still having your parents even if he is a boy is still needed. As a parent I would be very dissapointed if another adult kept somehting like that from me. You should talk to your mom or dad and then you should ask them if you can handle the "talk" with your brother- but they should still be informed on such a big thing in his life.
I honestly think you should tell your parents. Waiting for it to happen again is like playing Russian Roulette. Who cares if he thinks you're a "snitch"? It's the adult thing to do.
@pregoagainyay but the problem with that is all it takes is ONE time for a sexual transmitted disease or for pregnancy. @gunners_mommy If you have the knowledge to help him, or talk to him with other adults, then you should use it because it could be preventing him from life long conquences for just being a teenager. Teenagers have sex for all different reasons and you can use your big sister card to maybe find out why his reasons are.
@lindseynicole96 I agree but he has already done the deed.....now that she has seen it I think if she went to him, talked to him and explained things maybe he would listen...if he blows her off then by all means tell him "then I have to go to mom about this"
I think 16 is to young to have sex. I would tell u could be saving his life! What about aids n other stds! He neebs the talk n to be shown pics of warts on private areas. He needs to use protection!
If you think he will listen to you, I would talk to him without the parents. He is 16, give him the chance to be an adult, especially if he's already making adult decisions. You can't undo what's been done. I am a parent. I know I wouldn't want my child to be sexually active at that age but it happens reguardless. I am sure he's aware of the risks. Buy him some condoms, talk to him and see what happens.
@2ndbutfirst don't tell on him, a lot of boys start having sex around then. If it were you he walked in on, you would be humiliated if he ran and told your mom. It is what it is, if ur mom knows or not is not going to stop him from doing it. Just tell him he should be using protection unless he's tryin to be a dad at 16 or get an std.
There's no way you guys who are so adamant about her keeping her mouth shut can be parents of teenagers. If you are your "No snitching" policy when it comes to something so serious leaves me completely flabbergasted.
Yes I believe you need to say something I am a step mother to a 16 year old boy that lives under my roof and I would want to know, and I am sure the girl of the parents would want to know bc if she was to get pregnant they would be the ones to carry the burden. My husband had my step son at 18 and so we are trying to instill in him the importance of waiting and being more mature and wrapping it up....but to be honest he acts like he is slow in every other aspect of like so I can totally tell these convos we have go in one ear and out of the other. I would tell for the simple fact they are disrespecting your parents house. No 16 isn't a baby but he sure in the hell isn't an adult and bc boys mature a lot slower than girls he has no business having sex in the first place. And for him not to appreciate you trying to talk to him and educate him would tell me right their to tell tue parents ....bc its probably not th first time and wont be the last.
@ashleyfew, I think it's just a healthy debate. It does scare me that so many people are so nonchalant about teenage sex though... especially since I'm the mother of a soon to be 13 year old.
Is say I would tell because I'm sure the parents don't want their son having sex in their house with another girl...... if he just told me he did it then whatever, but if.I SAW it then that's another thing.
Im not nonchalant about it but honestly..telling mom wont do anything but get him in trouble. It wont make him stop..it will only make him sneak more. You should just talk to him tho honestly.
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@gunners_mommy If you have the knowledge to help him, or talk to him with other adults, then you should use it because it could be preventing him from life long conquences for just being a teenager. Teenagers have sex for all different reasons and you can use your big sister card to maybe find out why his reasons are.