Just about done
As title says I am just about done with my marriage. I am so close to just packing my stuff and walking out the door and never looking back. I have been with my wife for nearly 14 years and never thought it would come to this. I love my wife and kids with everything I have but just don't feel like it's the same for her anymore.
We have no intimacy or hardly even talk anymore. I just don't know what to even try anymore as I have tried all I can think of. I am over being stuck home everyday with the kids and having no life or any place to go to get out of the house. My wife can go get a manicure or her hair done which is a couple of hours but never tries to do anything with or for me.
Sorry for all the negative crap I just needed to get it out where she can't see it.
We have no intimacy or hardly even talk anymore. I just don't know what to even try anymore as I have tried all I can think of. I am over being stuck home everyday with the kids and having no life or any place to go to get out of the house. My wife can go get a manicure or her hair done which is a couple of hours but never tries to do anything with or for me.
Sorry for all the negative crap I just needed to get it out where she can't see it.
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Thanx. The only problem is she knows I have absolutely nowhere to go at all. She also knows I can't leave my kids plus all my money would go to raising them as it does now. This is why I really don't know what to do. The problem is I feel like she almost wants me to walk away so she can blame the marriage failing on me.
See above post.
Guess i just have to stay unhappy at the moment and try work out how to change things I seem to have no control over. Our youngest is now 5 months old which makes it basically 13 months of no sex and no sign of things changing.
I feel like theres something going on whether its someone else or not I don't know. I would like to think its just a rift between us at the moment because there is no way I could forgive her if she has cheated and I will be keeping the kids and throwing all her shit on the front yard.
I am going back to kick boxing training tonight to work off some anger and get fitness back up for going back to work. I have bought back my return to work after a serious injury sooner than I should because I need out of the house. The stress at work won't help but oh well.
Thanx @everyone for comments though it has helped calm me down a bit.
@Summergirl22
I can't take a temp job but have requested station duties for a period of 3 months and then review. Kick boxing went well tonight and am absolutely stuffed lol. I don't think she resents me because she got 5 months home with the bub because I was on disability as injury was a knife wound at work. I am a police officer so comes with the job I guess.
My sil gave me some ideas to try with her when we aren't arguing and are alone. Basically it is just to describe how I feel about myself in a day and ask her to do the same in return.
Im not saying it will come to that, but just to cover all of your bases to prepare for worst case scenario. I don't know what marital advice to give you, other than counseling. If the marriage is over, file for divorce while you are still living in the marital home, try to mediate, but do not leave until temporary custody is decided.
Best of luck to you
Yes we sleep in the same bed and if I try even give her a cuddle lately I get you're just trying to get sex. I don't even get kisses anymore from her. I have told her many times that it feels like she doesn't love me anymore or maybe she has grown to comfortable but then she just shuts me out.
@captivated
In australia it doesnt matter what I was to do in relation to leaving or not. Even if I could provide evidence of her being a bad mum which she isn't I would still lose custody. Its crap but happens all the time and I have had to deal with the fall out for other families through working in law enforcement and the family courts.
Problem we have is I have no family where we live and her family won't even watch the kids for us to go to movies even. Last time we went to a hotel was 2 years ago for my birthday. I want to stay somewhere for my 30th but no it won't happen unless I organise it. I know I have to keep trying but you can only kick a dog for so long before it runs away.
She hasn't said much yet but I didn't get anything thrown at me so far.
When i'm off my pills i could care less what he was doing, i've come to not expect help with our daughter and he's come to not even asking about sex. I dont care about anything and in all honesty when i'm off my pills, i do good to take care of my daughter.
Sorry so long and doesn't make sense, if you have any questions that you want to ask feel free, i'm out of my pills, so i'm in the perfect mindset lol
Thanx. I know exactly how depression can affect people as I have suffered from it bad twice. I am only just starting to come out tge other side from the last one and its hard with all thats going on in my life at the moment.
I have started reading a couple of relationship books a close friend of mine has leant me that helped her in her marriage. In the first book it all started to make a bit more sense what was happening and that was only the second page lol. I an now over half way through it and am not ashamed to admit it had reduced me to tears a couple of times because it is just hitting everything I'm feeling right on the head. Am hoping she will read it afterwards and get the same insight from it.
Its called... The five love languages. How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate by gary chapman.
I hope it works out for you guys.