6 alternative time outs {please see update at top}
I AM NOT MEANING FIR THIS TO BE A PARENTING DEBATE, about whether hitting is ok...so please let's keep this civil...with NO name calling..this is an article for us peaceful parents, or those that are interested in that life style
Great article about alternative time outs! I practice some of these when I get stressed with Ollie, and they are really helpful!
http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/alternatives-time-out/
Great article about alternative time outs! I practice some of these when I get stressed with Ollie, and they are really helpful!
http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/alternatives-time-out/
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You are stuck on the hug thing. Peaceful parenting isn't about just saying "that's not nice" and giving a hug. It's about communication. It's about discussing with said child about WHY that wasn't nice, about how he/she would feel if they were treated like that. It's about remaing calm while having this discussion. So they can see that things can be solved calmly. If my son kicked someone else. It would be much more (depending on the age) than just that's not nice. How old was this child? Bc certain ages comprehend certain things. If said child is to young to understand then there isn't to much to explain! In the case of the dead kitty. That little girl has anger issues that need to be unraveled. So no buying her a new kitty won't fix that situation.
And ps...I take offense for ANY child you refer to as spoiled shit stains.
I see the point of the article and the intention of this mindful parenting, however, most of the examples in the article seriously made me laugh out loud. It just boils down to what works for us individually. Personally, I do not find these examples set forth in the article to be effective. And I totally agree with "shit stain "children. They are out there and a wonderful product of terrible parenting (not saying mindful parenting is terrible parenting at all). No one type of parenting works for all children. While I actually very strongly disagree with this article, theres still a couple things i realized i can change.
n't like it...
I just can't see myself doing what they recommend out in public - which is where 85% of Jake's tantrums occur. I lower my voice and go down to his level so we're eye to eye and tell him firmly his behaviour is rude and unacceptable. He's a very sensitive kid, and so far, that works.
Now on the other hand, I do somewgat follow the article's guidelines for Colin. He just turned one, so yeah - I try to deflect his moods, make him laugh instead of scream. Lol But once he's older and can learn... I hope what's worked with Jake will work with him!
I completely agree with a lot of what the article was saying, just not DURING a temper tantrum. I've been told I have the most well behaved kids people have ever seen and I do spank if needed. But when the punishment is over, I'm full of love and kindness! We have fun and play and say we love you and hug, etc. like the article said and more. I believe we can have the fun, loving relationships though because we don't let it get to the point of having tantrums. I expect first time obedience and my kids know it. If you have a good relationship with your kids I think they're more willing to obey you though, too.
No offense to anyone, I'm just stating my personal experience and opinions. I really loved the article a lot, just disagree with the timing I guess, unless I missed something. I do occasionally when someone is acting a little moody say loudly and with a bit of comedy with my arms open wide, "Awe, does someone need a huuugggggggg?" even to my teens and it always gets a laugh. However, I wouldn't use this approach if my child just punched someone in the stomach or killed a kitten....lol!