@preggointx danny is an only child until his baby sister is born. we started getting him reguraly when he was about 1 1/2 so he stayed in our room and saw me in some undress if he woke up before me. i have taken a bath with him but i was wearing a swimsuit. now that he is in the middle of potty training if i have him with out dad i take him in the bathroom but turn around so he can have his privacy to tinkle. he does call me and see me as his mommy many times referencing his bio mom as his 'other' mommy. i dont plan on bf infront of him but he does still generally follow me around all the time when we have him. i sometimes literally have to go outside to get 5 mins to myself so i am trying to figure out how to approach it before a accidental him seeing me feed baby sister happens
@magcaw I said that and it is true for many kids u don't have to agree and if I saw my daughter playing like that with her doll I would stop her but kids mimic what they see and mine wouldn't be seeing that u have the right to ur opinion but I see how these kids r at school in elementary and some just see way too much
I do respect your choices but that doesnt mean i have to agree with them. We all want the best for our babies so i guess one way or another we are doing whats best for them!
@rissalee my god son took a bath with me as well till like I said he was maybe three then I just thought he was old....do what u feel is comfortable for regardless of anyone's opinion on this site u love ur step son and ur daughter and I'm sure u will do what u see is best or say what u think is best
@rissalee7 why don't you tell him about breastfeeding before the baby comes? Just so he knows what's going to happen? And talk to his bio mom about it (or have your hubby talk to her) so she knows what's going on. I'm assuming he wasn't breastfed?
@preggointix im just concerned about his mom taking out her anger at me by not letting us get him there is no order of visitation so unfortunately at this point we are at her mercy for wehn we get him. they broke up b4 she new she was pregnant so i think the big problem is that he is here for me so much during my pregnancy. danny was a unplanned blessing and we were trying this for our lil girl so he has been so into doing everything he can with and for me durnign the pregnancy
@preggointx i agree with you too. I plan on breastfeeding my daughter as i did with my son. But we taught him at an early age what parts r private. At 3 yearsold he closed the bathroom door and asked that u knocked before coming in because that is a place for privacy. I dont get how people would think the doll wouldnt be confusing. If mamas feeding in public is it ok for young child to "feed" her baby in public too? I dread my son going to school next year with kids whos parents are allowing their kids to grow up so fast.
I don't know if this has been mentioned...but the doll doesn't actually go onto the child's nipple. It comes with an apron that the kiddo wears and then they put the doll to their chest. There is not any showing of body parts at all. I really think it is crazy saying that this is similar to teaching about sex or menstraul periods. I don't exactly let my kids in the bathroom to see me changing things when on my period or when my hubby and I are being intimate(except for that time my son unlocked the door on us)...but I will breastfeed in front of my child. I will not bare my boob in front of my kids especially my son, but he will see me nursing his little brother or sister.
@magcaw idk if he was neither does my bf when we got him at 1 1/2 he was on regular milf from the bottle and solid foods. they broke up before she knew she was pregnant and he had moved to a diff state so he wasnt around. he admits that was a mistake but its too late to fix it so i think im just gunna have to make his dad have the bf talk with him
ahh, I was too lazy to go back and check who it was @preggointx, lol. I agree that some children see way too much, and my 8 year old stepson is starting to see things differently than he used to, especially because he's in school with other children and new view points. BUT I think that the fact that we as a family promote the fact that our bodies are normal and not designed only for sex is a good thing. Of course, in a few years his hormones are going to be telling him that bodies should only be for sex, lol, but at least he'll be well aware of the fact that, as amazing as breasts have become to him, they definitely serve more than one purpose in the scheme of things (his mom breastfed all of her kids so he saw it at her house). Of course kids mimic what they see, but no matter how you slice it breastfeeding isn't sexual to a child unless the adults around them make it that way.
@rissalee7 then have ur bd talk to her and see what her views r ahead of time so u all can b on the same page good thing u think ahead about stuff like that ur gonna b a great mom
@preggointx thanky luckily with my mom and dad both being so great at divorce and remarriage i have watched alot of the step parent interaction but never at a she's having baby point of view so its def new terrotority to me. my dad had a baby with his new gf when i was 6 or 7 i think so i was old enough to understand wat was going on i mean i accidently walked in on a intimate moment of my parents so i understood the baby process she diddnt bf my lil sis tho so its def new to me he's three turning four in sept so he is amazed about this whole thing i mean he screamed the first time he was able to poke/feel his baby sis in my tummy i just dont want him to feel he cant ask questions about the whole thing including bf and diaper changing he already told me he wants the baby to sleep in his room which i said we will see when his sister is older
@cetheridge I guess that's where we all differ. My kids love being naked, and my 4 year old has no qualms about walking in to the bathroom and throwing aside the curtain to talk to me while I'm in the shower. It's not my favorite thing that he does (I really like to those 10 minutes I get alone), but I don't tell him he's not allowed to do it. My 2 and 4 year old still bathe together. And, though I lock the door while I'm using the toilet, I do occasionally let my 2 year old in and my 4 year old doesn't care who's in the bathroom with him. I don't think my kids are growing up too fast because of these things.
I bf with my girl and will with yhis second one when he is born! But i think we should cover up, not bc is disgusted but bc there are alot of ppl with perverted minds! I think is totally natural to breast feed in public but your nipples are private parts! My v-j-j is totally natural and is so natural to pee but im not going to pee infront of everybody, thats why theres a wall between each toilet!
From the doll i think is great for girls to know theres not just bottle feeding but i wouldnt buy it for my girl bc i dont know if the one that invented this doll is a pervert or not, its just my opinion. Almost everyone in this post have good opinions from both sides!
I have breastfed all three of our kiddos and will do the same with this one. I have never been able to just show it all in public...mostly because I am pretty modest. We were at the pool and a lady was sitting there nursing her kiddo with it all hanging out, and it prompted a question and answer series with our kids. I am getting one of the udder covers with this one...that way I can still bond with my baby but do it modestly in front of others. We teach our children that their bodies are private and that we should respect each others privacy...however I don't want my child to ever feel ashamed about their bodies. I don't exactly agree with just pulling it out in public, but I think that what ever a mom has to do to take care of their baby is okay. I also don't think a bf baby doll makes our children grow up too fast. I think for a lot of children this is all that they see...their mommy's don't give their siblings bottles, so why should they be made to feel that it is wrong to feed their baby the same way. I would have an issue if my child pulled up her shirt to do it...but that is where parenting comes in and you take the time without scolding your child to explain right from wrong.
I agree with @mommyof3soontobe4 I feel like we moms can breastfeed where ever baby gets hungry without having to go sit in a smelly bathroom (gross) but having a blanket to cover it just feels better for me with out having other ppl stare at me.
I think its a terrible idea its helping teach girls that its ok to have babys younger and younger with 16 and pregnant and all these teen baby mother on maury I think its horrible I wouldn't want my 10 year old trying to breast feed when she should be thinking about school trust having fun as a child
I found it interesting that I seen this doll on the news this morning when just yesterday, I read a blog where a woman critizied bottles and baby dolls good discussion
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Exactly!
Of course kids mimic what they see, but no matter how you slice it breastfeeding isn't sexual to a child unless the adults around them make it that way.
From the doll i think is great for girls to know theres not just bottle feeding but i wouldnt buy it for my girl bc i dont know if the one that invented this doll is a pervert or not, its just my opinion. Almost everyone in this post have good opinions from both sides!