Plus since cheating is such emotional thing, All you are getting is a defensive reply lol which is funny cause your post was not asking about specifically about certain womens significant other just off handly about men in general also how do people on here know about their mom and dad relationships? My parents have been together 35 yrs and they work on the marriage ever week at the counselors office. Some of which I'm sure was about cheating thoughts not the actual act but thinking about it
Since the defination of cheating veries from one person to another ur going to have a wide veriety of what is considered cheating. If that is mentality that u are making ur assumption of "all men cheat" then ur correct. If u have a defined standard of what cheating is that all of us can use to measure weather or not a man has cheated ur going to find that not "all" men are going to fit in to that defination. so do u have a defination of cheating?
I understand what you mean...If we're talking about the people you see on maury where its blatantly obvious that the man is cheating or he cheated on them before and yet they still act surprised! That pisses me off cuz they set themselves up and "never saw it coming" , yet they want sympathy. I wouldn't generalize tho and say men b/c there are tons of women out there who do it too. Certain animals are built to mate for life, not us tho...I think that we are ALL humans and are capable of anything. I also think as an outsider who knows nothing about you or ur past experiences, the way it seems is that you've been hurt a lot and have trust issues, which is why people are commenting the way they. I don't agree or disagree, that's just my opinion. You'll never hear me say he would NEVER do that too me tho, that's just me.
I do believe most men have cheated at some point or should I say males. I say this because she is including middle school relationships and up. Many guys don't see earlier relationships as being serious enough to be faithful. I trust no man but I also trust no human. I don't live my life waiting for the next bad thing to happen but I'm well aware that its ou there. There is no true way to know if your partner has cheated unless you catch them. If their cheating they don't intend to be caught so they will be hiding it. If a PERSON wants to cheat they can without you ever noticing a change. They may go to work and come home the same time as always. That means absolutely nothing. They may be married for 45 yrs and SAY they never cheated. That means nothing. If they got away with it why admit it? From first hand experience military deployments are the worst. Not to say all deployed spouses cheat. I don't want to give anyone any doubts if they truly believe their spouse is faithful. In the military they have a saying "What goes TDY, stays TDY". As stupid as it sounds many military people really believe that statement. I was shocked and disgusted on my 1st deployment and guess what? The men weren't cheating with other men. The women are just as bad. Anyway I wish everyone the best in their relationships. Find your happy place and pray you stay there.
I think that the key to a faithful marriage or relationship is to define what cheating is early in a relationship because the definition may be different in every couple and may be different from a female perspective vs. a male perspective. Some people may not believe that flirting is cheating.... Some do. Some people believe that sexting is cheating.... Some don't. Seems to me that situations outside of the blatant sex with another person need to be defined, then the consequences need to be laid out.
I had a conversation with my mother in law the other day... She told me about when my father in law was deployed to the Philippines early in their marriage. It was not unusual for the service men to pay some of the women to dance with them at the club/bar. When my mother in law arrived in the Philippines my father in law introduced her to his female friend, who welcomed them and offered to pay their bus fare. My mother in law considered dancing with someone to be cheating! I was baffled! I don't consider that cheating, and I am sure my father in law didn't either!
But... My point is that if they had discussed some of these things early on... Maybe everybody would be clear on what the boundaries are, and what consequences will be faced when they are crossed. Just my 2 cents! This philosophy has worked with me and my hubby.
@Excitedtobe I know about my parents relationship, because I know my parents! They have never kept anything from me and my sister's. They have been the perfect example of what a marriage can be.
@kristaf22 im with you, my hubbys only ever been with me, and hes said the same... Why would he cheat, he HATES cheaters with a passion. Keeping your man isnt hard when you truely love eachother. Just my opinion :-)
I believe a lot of men cheat! I love my hubby, but I wouldn't be shocked if he cheated. Anyone is capable I think my reaction would mostly hurt and disgust for him.
I dissagre on this one not all men have cheated but I half agree on forgiving you can never really forgive someone for cheating just try to forget and be non trusting of your partner which in any relationship if there is not trust there is nothing
@Kells32 I understand what you're saying...I'm sure at some point a man has cheated. Unless you're with them 24/7, there's no way of knowing and I'm pretty sure that no one is with anyone 24 hours, 7 days a week to see what or who they're doing.
I'm just going to point out the obvious...what about men that have never been and will never be in a relationship...such as monks...how could they possibly cheat if they've never been in a relationship. Therefore saying all men cheat cannot possibly be true. Lol
As you have been proven many times not all men cheat and to go off of the women you've met's opinions is not right. Also reading your posts I look at this forum everydays and everyday stories about cheating are not posted. Not saying they aren't at all, but they most definitly aren't posted everyday. Your a lot like my husband (based on what I read, but might not be true). When he reads or hears one thing bad that's all he ever pays attention to and then makes it seems like it happens all the time. Men and women do cheat equally and not all women cheat for different reasons then men do. The problem is that their are relationships out there that neither man nor woman or whichever combination your in, that have never cheated on anybody nor eachother.
@fashion_junky91 I think she posted recently that she is going through a divorce or just went through one. Not sure what the cause was, though.... Hmmmmmm...
@blueberrysmom Oh boy ! go figure! Rain on the parade will she..sorry about the divorce but obviously its a two way.street on that its not jus the men fault
In my opinion if yout man cheats its up to u to stay. Back then in the 1800-1960 times regardless if your man cheat you had to stay and be a wife and take care of your children. You.had to make it work. And those relationships lasted the longest and weathered many storms.
Whats wrong wit females now or days you.pick asshole over guys thats about something. Downgrade a man than encouraging him.
As soon as a man cheat on you your ready to leave and hop on the next.bandwagon. If he cheats on you more than 3 times more than likely you knew that before you.got wit him why? Because.he told.u before hand how many women he had. ( and I know this because.its a typical 50 first dates question )
I kno a couple that been together.since they were 14 now in.their 90's they still together
women lie men lie POINT BLANK... if you cheat its because you are bored!! women do cheat we are not.innocent !! We need to figure out our.men before we make desicions we cant take back
She has a opinion like the rest of us do im not mad at her for voicing her opinion its a well statement that should.be brung up to see how everyone feel because.they always " venting " about their boyfriends so I comend on that.but.dont agree wit.her answer
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There is no true way to know if your partner has cheated unless you catch them. If their cheating they don't intend to be caught so they will be hiding it. If a PERSON wants to cheat they can without you ever noticing a change. They may go to work and come home the same time as always. That means absolutely nothing. They may be married for 45 yrs and SAY they never cheated. That means nothing. If they got away with it why admit it? From first hand experience military deployments are the worst. Not to say all deployed spouses cheat. I don't want to give anyone any doubts if they truly believe their spouse is faithful. In the military they have a saying "What goes TDY, stays TDY". As stupid as it sounds many military people really believe that statement. I was shocked and disgusted on my 1st deployment and guess what? The men weren't cheating with other men. The women are just as bad.
Anyway I wish everyone the best in their relationships. Find your happy place and pray you stay there.
I had a conversation with my mother in law the other day... She told me about when my father in law was deployed to the Philippines early in their marriage. It was not unusual for the service men to pay some of the women to dance with them at the club/bar. When my mother in law arrived in the Philippines my father in law introduced her to his female friend, who welcomed them and offered to pay their bus fare. My mother in law considered dancing with someone to be cheating! I was baffled! I don't consider that cheating, and I am sure my father in law didn't either!
But... My point is that if they had discussed some of these things early on... Maybe everybody would be clear on what the boundaries are, and what consequences will be faced when they are crossed. Just my 2 cents! This philosophy has worked with me and my hubby.
In my opinion if yout man cheats its up to u to stay. Back then in the 1800-1960 times regardless if your man cheat you had to stay and be a wife and take care of your children. You.had to make it work. And those relationships lasted the longest and weathered many storms.
Whats wrong wit females now or days you.pick asshole over guys thats about something. Downgrade a man than encouraging him.
As soon as a man cheat on you your ready to leave and hop on the next.bandwagon. If he cheats on you more than 3 times more than likely you knew that before you.got wit him why? Because.he told.u before hand how many women he had. ( and I know this because.its a typical 50 first dates question )
I kno a couple that been together.since they were 14 now in.their 90's they still together
women lie men lie POINT BLANK... if you cheat its because you are bored!! women do cheat we are not.innocent !! We need to figure out our.men before we make desicions we cant take back