If women go into relationships thinking "every man cheats" there would be no room for growth. I dont feel its naive when a female is surprised when she finds out her man has cheated. And hope that some of the ladies whos going through this right now on this app, still follow their heart and do whats best for you, the kids and relationship.....
I found in appropriate txt messages in my husbands phone about 2 years ago before we got married, nothing physically happened as far as I'm concerned but it hurt just as much. We went to counseling for months, and I 100% trust him. We've been married for a year now and couldn't be happier. If you think I'm naive go for it.
That's been my belief for quite some time @kells32 every man at some point in his life will cheat. Be it a one time thing or an affair, whether he's young or middle age, at some point AT LEAST ONCE he will.
I disagree. Just because you've "seen it first hand" from being a hairdresser, doesn't mean EVERY man cheats. Do you know every man in the world? Nope, therefore you cannot say that EVERY man cheats. @dadof2n1togo just proved that to you. Just because you have had and heard bad experiences, doesn't mean EVERY man is that way. You keep thinking that and you will not have a successful relationship.
Women lie, men lie I have cheated on a few exs when I was younger but only two cheated on me its no fun to b cheated on or to even slightly think u may get played but there is always that intuition if u really feel like it is going on it probably is unless ur just totally insecure w/ urself but I don't believe u can lead a man to cheating if that's not what he wants he wont do it
Its sooo funny to me that some of you think that it just me stereotyping or I must be bitter or angry........I am upset but not just at my own experiences but at HOW many women go thru this and never even saw it coming. Obviously there are men out there that have never cheated........so forgive me I should have named the thread MOST men cheat.....would that of allowed the room neccessary to have an intelligent conversation??
My parents have been married 35 years, they met when they were both in the military, neither of my parents have EVER cheated. My mom was the first person my dad was with, and my mom had a boyfriend in high school, but they broke up before she went to basic. My parents met in October of 1977 and were married in April of 1978. I understand what you are saying, but you are making a rash generalization. You are entitled to your opinion, but not all men cheat.
@Kells32 how is this not an intelligent conversation? Because we all don't jump up and agree with you? It sounds pretty intelligent to me. You made an observation that you believe to be true and others have either agreed or disagreed with you and given examples for each. That seems intelligent to me.
@kristaf22 we r just a wonderful example for everyone eh? LOL I respect what u say bout porn. I think if he was watching it a lot I would not like it. But masturbation is cool with me outside of sex. I also think this convo is very intelligent.
The reason is because instead of acknowleding the real point some are being defensive and giving examples of what they assume are "cheat" free situations. But the point to me even posting this was to address that fact that women post on here almost daily how their man has cheated on them and how they can't believe it and are soo shocked.....this on top of how many times I have seen my self and other women around go thru this I feel like we should start talking about it like the epidemic it is and try to come together and find some answers.
@Kells32 I understand that, but the women posting that they were cheated on probably genuinely believed that they could trust their spouse or bf, why shouldn't they believe that? I mean if you go into a relationship thinking that they are going to cheat, the relationship is going to suck! I mean you will never fully trust someone, and that is not a relationship. You have to have faith and trust. I trust my husband, and I would be surprised if he cheated on me....It would also be the last thing he ever did in this life because he has no family, I have a big back yard, and sisters who would help dig a hole, and nobody would miss him!
@nicoleok87 I agree with there being no solution, some peolpe are just cheaters. It doesn't matter what you do, you could be the most amazing wife, mother, lover whatever and they could still cheat.....
@Kells32 shouldn't they believe that they are in a faithful relationship? I guess I just don't understand you reasoning. Why would you go into a relationship thinking that eventually they are goning to cheat? If that is something that is happening, maybe the woman needs to reevaluate the kind of men she is dating. I mean some women always date guys that they want to 'fix' and that rarely works out....Maybe theese woman that are always cheated on always date guys that are prone to cheating?
@ headersue lol!! I also don't feel like I am doomed to never have a good relationship by knowing that men are this way. I will have a plan for if it did happen.......period.
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I also don't feel like I am doomed to never have a good relationship by knowing that men are this way. I will have a plan for if it did happen.......period.