@katehg not all married couples are unhappy my husband and I are very happy but I agree with your over all point whether married or not when "couples"Try to stay together it only hurts the children in the long run
She's not judging, she just wanted to know why, even said she didn't mean any offense several times. I'm glad that she asked why instead of just judging. I think more people need to ask people "why" if they don't understand someone's lifestyle, maybe more understanding will come around this app for a change. I'm one of those nerds that asks "why" a lot, I'm not trying to be rude either, I just want to understand, nothing wrong with it.
I agree regardless of if a couple is married or not if they are happy that is the best thing for a child. Going back to my original post which I got many great response on that have helped me better understand this ... I only asked what the thinking is behind ttc for unmarried couples. @jalem described it well saying I Just want to understand the shift from " the old way". A happy home for a child is absolutely the most important thing. Not arguing that in Any way.
I agree with u completely @Jaime77! I was married during my 1st 2 pregnancies and divorced. I am not married now and this was a planned pregnancy, I love him very much and he loves my girls but always made it known that he wanted one of his own. We may get married someday but it will have nothing to do with children. The baby is a product of our love not marriage. Besides I have 15 more years to pay on the loan for my divorce!
ehh... i studied religions when i decided Catholicism wasnt for me... paganism was interesting... and i made alot of self proclaimed heathen friends... plus mead is delicious!!!
@prettyleo87 I had twins before I was married, married a different guy, got divorced, and now am pregnant again and not married. Can't seem to have kids with a ring on my finger, but it's a long story. Every child is a blessing, I fully agree, it's just a difference in values, one isn't right and one isn't wrong, it just is.
I am not married to my guy. We have been thru thick and thin in the last 7 yrs. We don't need a piece of paper to tell us that it is forever. We want to be able to afford a wedding. I kno it sounds foolish, ppl tell us to go to the court house, but all my siblings did that. And it devastated my mother every time. We have good jobs and are old enough to decide to have children or not. We bought a house to raise our future children in and now don't have money for the type of wedding we want. Of course if we have children they will be another expense, but my man would like to be able to play with his children. He is 30, diabetic and is worried that he might not be in great health to simply play with his children when he gets to be 40-45. So for us, the sooner we have the babies, the better! But right now, we think our complications conceiving stem from his diabetes, unfortunately!!
@jalem it was very well posted, and it is an extremely broad category. My best friend is a Buddist Catholic, she explained it to me once, but I'm still confused. And mead is the best!
@rissalee7 thank you. I was brought up that you attract more bee's with honey than vinegar and I really want to understand this as this is probably something I will need to understand when My child grows up
@kriss82001 it really is i prefer the straight mead unfruitified... and it sucks that the word paganism can be used for such a wide array of religions and i know people who get offended when their religion is refered to as paganism..
Thats not what I meant. I know loads of happily married couples, both my grandparents have been married 60 years, my parents 32 years and my sister 7 years
@314babymama1120 not a problem for me ive just seen too many bad ones but he lets me kno if I changed my mind he's game but I sometimes I feel wen married and a problem arises divorce is the first thing thought wen dating its generally how do we gets back to wen its was right hope thats not offensive to anyone
50% of marriages end in divorce so whats the difference? A marriage doesnt make a relationship any more commited or any stronger. You can ttc while married & in the end it can turn out the same way as a normal relationship can. As long as their are good & loving parents thats all that matters.
I am not married I am engaged I have two boys from a previous relationship and we planned this baby we didn't want the boys ages spaced to far apart we love each other so we see no reason to be married its just a piece of paper
My husband and I got married when I was pregnant with my first daughter. We didn't do it because I was prego we did it because we loved each other and want to be together for the rest of our days. Im not really religious but I know that according to my religion marriage was right. We did try and get prego but honestly I can't tell you why other then I wanted a family. I would also like to tell you ladies I'm very impressed the way you religious ladies take this topic. I still get treated bad and have rude comments made to me about my daughter considering I got prego before I was married. I wish people were more like y'all in my church. I might still be going if that was the case!
@jalem I usually like it straight, but every now and then with a little strawberry, odd but true. And people have been using the term "pagan" to refer to "bad" religions for so long, it's going to take a long time to change it. Oh well, to each his own.
Marriage is not just a piece of paper to some of us it is a commitment to god and each other to be there through thick and thin I understand not being married but it is more than a piece of paper
@kriss82001 yeah.. and it also sucks because technically satanism would be defined as paganism and that just gives everyone else in the category bad names... and i dont think i had strawberry i had blueberry and raspberry
I didn't want to have kids or get married until I met the man who is now my husband. We started trying for a baby the first time we had sex. I didn't get pregnant until 2 months after we got married. I'm not religious, but my husband is and we knew the bond would make us closer. Being non religious, I cab see why some people wouldn't want to get married for that reason.
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